Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children

Posted by kdo0827 @kdo0827, Dec 27, 2018

Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?

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Parus | @parus | Jan 31, 2019

In reply to @merpreb "You could open up a new discussion so others could respond. It's a community forum." + (show)

@merpreb Thank you but I am more of a follower. 😉

lioness | @lioness | Jan 31, 2019

In reply to @parus "@lizzyisme I like to think they care. Many guys aren’t talkers. I have found since my..." + (show)

@Paris me too it's a high in my life

lizzyisme | @lizzyisme | Jan 31, 2019

In reply to @lioness "@lizzyisme Know what you mean my son is 45 I'm lucky to hear from him while..." + (show)

With my kids We talk often about everything. Ask your son opened ended questions so he replies in more detail.

lioness | @lioness | Jan 31, 2019

@lizzyisme Great idea thanks

Lisa Lucier, Moderator | @lisalucier | Feb 15, 2019

In reply to @kdo0827 "It’s touch and go. If I get up early and take it before 11 I tend..." + (show)

@kdo0827 - just wanted to check in and see how you your spirits are lately, how your energy is and how the amphetamine and dextroamphetamine combination (Adderall) is going for you now that you've taken it for a bit?

kdo0827 | @kdo0827 | Feb 15, 2019

In reply to @lisalucier "@kdo0827 - just wanted to check in and see how you your spirits are lately, how..." + (show)

Thanks Lisa for checking in on me! I’m feeling much better. It’s like a new world has opened up. I have great energy which lasts 5 hours or so. On days I need additional energy I take 2. Most days I only take 1-10mg. Hope you’re doing and feeling well!

Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Feb 16, 2019

In reply to @kdo0827 "Thanks Lisa for checking in on me! I’m feeling much better. It’s like a new world..." + (show)

@kdo0827- Great news!

Parus | @parus | Feb 16, 2019

I at times struggle with being too visible. Always want my adult children to believe things are good. I am the only family they have. Just how I am.

Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Feb 16, 2019

@parus- Good morning- Saying that you are too visible do you meant that you are in their lives and give advice or opinions too much? I'm not sure what you mean.

Parus | @parus | Feb 16, 2019

In reply to @merpreb "@parus- Good morning- Saying that you are too visible do you meant that you are in..." + (show)

@merpreb Thank you for asking. I meant I do not want them to know how I struggle at times. I am not in the least a meddlesome mom. I enjoy hearing what they want to share. I went through a time feeling left out. I moved past that. I did not like the texting thing and now I enjoy it!! A good way to touch base. I no longer feel ignored when I get no reply. I am in the loop. Sometimes I try too hard. Things are better now since I have learned to relax some. Got wordy again. 🥴