Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children

Posted by kdo0827 @kdo0827, Dec 27, 2018

Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?

@johnbishop

I had an interesting article show up in my Mayo Clinic news feed that I thought I would share.

Infographic: Train your brain for happiness
https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/infographic-train-your-brain-for-happiness-2/

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@johnbishop
Dear John Bishop,
Thank you so much for your wonderful and true mention of that article on "Train Your Brain for Happiness !" I have an application on my phone, which asks me the three things I was grateful for each day! It's great and extremely helpful to myself because I honestly woudn't otherwise automatically think of these kinds of good and positive thoughts, especially when I am exhausted and in Physical pain every day!

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Hi @rachelanne — for folks that use apps on phones that is a great idea and I'm glad it helps. I was trying to remember to do it on my own and it's sometimes hard with life's daily challenges. I had heard Dr. Amit Sood speak a few years ago about the Happy Brain and it was very similar. There is a website that is a great source for positive energy and thoughts that help. If you scroll down the home page there are some short videos and also the VLOG section has some great videos.

https://www.resilientoption.com/

Here is the A Very Happy Brain video

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@johnbishop

I had an interesting article show up in my Mayo Clinic news feed that I thought I would share.

Infographic: Train your brain for happiness
https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/infographic-train-your-brain-for-happiness-2/

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Great article, @johnbishop

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@kdo0827 I’m really sorry to hear about your tough times. My sons, who live in-state, used to never call me, either. I even heard from my sister when the oldest got a big promotion, not my son! Now, I text them and always hear back. They’d rather not talk on the phone. I’ve made good friends with their wives and they always keep me posted.

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@becsbuddy I had some good news so called son at work to tell him he bit my head of so never again it wasn't a long conversation but thought he,d be happy to hear bad choice

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@lioness

@becsbuddy I had some good news so called son at work to tell him he bit my head of so never again it wasn't a long conversation but thought he,d be happy to hear bad choice

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@lioness So, so sorry. This type of thing is painful.

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@johnbishop

Hi @rachelanne — for folks that use apps on phones that is a great idea and I'm glad it helps. I was trying to remember to do it on my own and it's sometimes hard with life's daily challenges. I had heard Dr. Amit Sood speak a few years ago about the Happy Brain and it was very similar. There is a website that is a great source for positive energy and thoughts that help. If you scroll down the home page there are some short videos and also the VLOG section has some great videos.

https://www.resilientoption.com/

Here is the A Very Happy Brain video

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Sounds so easy. The depressed mind has a hard time grasping some things I suppose. Still a positive message.

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@parus

@lioness So, so sorry. This type of thing is painful.

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@parus thanks I feel like they where happy I moved to help with there son and I loved it but now it seems like oh we have to talk to Mom like before .It does hurt .

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@lioness

@becsbuddy I had some good news so called son at work to tell him he bit my head of so never again it wasn't a long conversation but thought he,d be happy to hear bad choice

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@lioness Boy, did I learn that lesson early on! Both my husband and son were army officers and we were told to Never call them at work, no matter what! Never did.

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@becsbuddy

@lioness Boy, did I learn that lesson early on! Both my husband and son were army officers and we were told to Never call them at work, no matter what! Never did.

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@becsbuddy yes I don't usually but this was good news we both where waiting on ,won't do that again

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@becsbuddy

@lioness Boy, did I learn that lesson early on! Both my husband and son were army officers and we were told to Never call them at work, no matter what! Never did.

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Same here-my husband was in the Air Force and I never called him at work and still don’t unless it’s a true emergency.

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I’m really struggling!!! I have no energy, appetite and absolutely no desire to do anything or go anywhere it’s the worst I’ve ever been. I feel numb inside almost dead inside. I just feel so awful. I started taking my Cymbalta at night to possibly help with my daytime tiredness but it hasn’t helped. Now I’m wondering if it’s the Cymbalta. Do y’all think so?

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@merpreb

@kdo827- Do you take other meds for depression or anxiety? How long have you been taking Cymbalta?

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No I don’t. I take Methadone for pain. I’m really struggling and I’m suspecting it may be Cymbalta.

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@kdo0827

I’m really struggling!!! I have no energy, appetite and absolutely no desire to do anything or go anywhere it’s the worst I’ve ever been. I feel numb inside almost dead inside. I just feel so awful. I started taking my Cymbalta at night to possibly help with my daytime tiredness but it hasn’t helped. Now I’m wondering if it’s the Cymbalta. Do y’all think so?

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@kdo0827 MIght be I couldn't take Cymbalta it affected my mind I lost things and forgot something you would just tell me . How long have you been on it?

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Cymbalta and Effexor are in same group and I cannot take them. I get sick.

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