Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children

Posted by kdo0827 @kdo0827, Dec 27, 2018

Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?

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@parus

Even though I cannot get out and do the things I hear others share about I do my best to be a little sunshine when I get the opportunity. I do struggle with physical and mental issues. We are all different with varying capabilities which could be considered wallowing in our shortcomings. I endeavor not to do so and be content with what I can do.

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I liked this.

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@mickj

@afrobin Great post. I share your attitude 100%. As Andy Dufresne said in the Shawshank Redemption, we can "get busy living or get busy dying." It's certainly easier to "get busy living" when we're healthy, but even unhealthy people have the choice. If we intentionally look for the good in people/things and go out of our way to improve ourselves, we have a much better opportunity to be happy. To me, the key is to be intentional about it, to work at it. As the old saying goes, it's, "making lemonade out of lemons." Not always easy to do, but circling back to this attitude when life throws us lemons, I find that I'm a happier person, and as a result, I'm much more pleasant to be around.

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Does anyone with MAC go through depression. I also have sleep apnea.

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@merpreb

@kdo827- Do you take other meds for depression or anxiety? How long have you been taking Cymbalta?

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I take Methadone and Trazadone I’ve been on Cymbalta about 6 months or so. I’m interested in hormone replacement too.

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@kdo0827

I take Methadone and Trazadone I’ve been on Cymbalta about 6 months or so. I’m interested in hormone replacement too.

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Kdo- I'm sorry that you are having a tough time right now. I think that we all have times felt like this. I suggest that instead of looking to your family for this, look somewhere else. Volunteer somewhere...
Oh god, we really have to stop tripping over ourselves and take control so we feel better, are better. We can do it!

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@macjane

Does anyone with MAC go through depression. I also have sleep apnea.

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@mac. One of the first responses to learning that you have a serious illness, after you get by the shock and disbelief, is depression.
But you can have panic attacks without being depressed.
Are you depressed? Are you taking meds for panic attacks?

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Medicines change. What meds for panic attacks. I also have to be seen for Achalasia that I needed surgery for many years ago.

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@merpreb

Kdo- I'm sorry that you are having a tough time right now. I think that we all have times felt like this. I suggest that instead of looking to your family for this, look somewhere else. Volunteer somewhere...
Oh god, we really have to stop tripping over ourselves and take control so we feel better, are better. We can do it!

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Sometimes the other lung problems I face have kept me inside and of course, the lack of sun for six months in MI doesn't help. We had more sun in Anchorage, Alaska.

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@macjane - I'm sorry that you are having these problems. So you aren't taking meds for panic attacks? Are you depressed?
I can't imagine being without sunshine that long.

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@kdo0827

I take Cymbalta too and never want to leave the house!! Why do you think this is?

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Hi Everybody! I started Cymbalta last December 2017 (I stopped Prozac of 20 years 40 mg)Went back on Prozac/20mg November 2018 doing better in mind but my friends are freaking out. I don't drive or go out much anymore. I applied for Disability finally in November. I did not get a lawyer. I take Prozac Trazadone for Depression Cymbalta- Celebrex for the pain I went back on Estradiol 1mg. Anyone on Disability?? How long does it take? Why do some people get it quick and others forever? So much paperwork.

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@parus

@sandicel So true about we can have fun without spending money. Doing something for ourselves is not selfish. Striving to stay out of the dumps is hard work.

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Loved this - how true.

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