Doesn’t anyone else feel …… ?

@deme17z are the medications helping at all? Is the physio helping at all? Sometimes it’s time to call an end to ineffective therapies.
Are you able to have a schedule? Maybe if you regularly told him it’s time to go for a walk, it would help you both.
Are you able to get someone to stay with him while you go out?
Your frustration is absolutely justified.
You know, once upon a time, if a person was age 86, wanted to sleep, and was barely able to walk, family would let him sleep. Put him in a wheelchair. Not try to rehabilitate him/her.
My brother and I used to say “Dad’s 84. Let him eat what he wants.” (After 20 years of trying to stop him furthering his decline into eating unhealthy foods all the time.)
In the end, it was the incoming cancer treatment that killed Jim. He wanted to continue with it. We saw the side effects but it was his choice.
Sometimes we should just let old people do what they’re comfortable with because all the treatments and therapies are making their life more miserable.
Remember to take care of yourself!

@sunnygardens Yes I think meds help plus my daily prayers to Jesus the Master Healer which I have a strong faith in. Thank God his dementia is not the critical types but its just age-related dementia hopefully slow progression.
He cant walk outside without the walker cuz also it makes him tired too soon.
You know my son tells me to leave him alone, or let hin eatwhat he wants but he is diabetic what he wants are sweets Icant let him except very rarely he can.
Yeah,physical theraphy is not improving his walking so I think its soon will be stopped.I try to socialize with my friends while my daughter keeps him for few hours.
Thank you for your helpful reply.

You are not alone.

@georgescraftjr "Does anyone else feel" seemed to be the right place to post this, this morning to you, and every other caregiver on this site. I feel blessed and grateful for all of you who have liked, hugged, and/or responded when I needed you most. You have taken away my fear, made life easier with your sage, sometimes, upbeat, funny advice, while traveling down this same road, where life can feel so uncertain at times. Watching the kaleidoscope of fireworks last night across so many cities, reminded me of you - my Mayo Connect friends - across so many cities in that same beautiful kaleidoscope of love and support - where a diverse collection of shared ideas and "travelled roads" gives us hope, in knowing what to do and when. Happy fourth to all of you. You've all made a difference in my life. Thank you for just being there. Best, Karla

I am very irritated too. I try to meditate at least once a day. Friends don't get it.

@kjc48 Awww, Karla, that’s so nice.
You summed up in perfect words the thoughts & feelings that I definitely share, but so many others, too, I’m sure.
I hope you had a good 4th.
Linda

@georgescraftjr "Does anyone else feel" seemed to be the right place to post this, this morning to you, and every other caregiver on this site. I feel blessed and grateful for all of you who have liked, hugged, and/or responded when I needed you most. You have taken away my fear, made life easier with your sage, sometimes, upbeat, funny advice, while traveling down this same road, where life can feel so uncertain at times. Watching the kaleidoscope of fireworks last night across so many cities, reminded me of you - my Mayo Connect friends - across so many cities in that same beautiful kaleidoscope of love and support - where a diverse collection of shared ideas and "travelled roads" gives us hope, in knowing what to do and when. Happy fourth to all of you. You've all made a difference in my life. Thank you for just being there. Best, Karla

@georgescraftjr you make me laugh! You know I didn't see it that way, when it read" Does anyone else feel.........? Yes, I felt grateful! I guess it's because of the smile (and makeup) that I was feeling so genuinely heart-felt! Glass half empty, or half full. I know the one I opt for! Happy 4th, my friend. PS, I'm still laughing at the "aaarrrghh!!!"
Best, Karla

@dederickve
I ordered a special digital clock to combat the constant questions regarding what time, day of the week, date, month and year it is. It gives all that info on a readout about the size of a tablet. When my husband asks me those questions I point to the clock.

@judimahoney thank you, Judi, I will try to find one !