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Lifelong Struggle with Depression, Feeling Lonely with It

Posted by Xin @xin, Mar 30, 2012

Just want to talk with others who have had a lif long struggle with depression. Feeling quite lonely with it. I know others who seem to have overcome it completely. I have certainly had some good times but also countless recurrences. Very discouraging!
Xin

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Iraku | @iraku | Apr 17, 2012
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@iraku

Yes it's a yoyo game that get you up and down. The loneliness itself causes much trouble for everybody let alone someone who had depression. Talking isn't really helping us if there is no understanding and compassion involved.

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Hi Piglit, I am glad to found this place! Thank you for your support.

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piglit | @piglit | Apr 17, 2012
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@iraku

Yes it's a yoyo game that get you up and down. The loneliness itself causes much trouble for everybody let alone someone who had depression. Talking isn't really helping us if there is no understanding and compassion involved.

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I am glad that I found this place too I joined in January and my life has changed alot since then. Take care will talk soon Piglit By the way honoured to be your friend

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Roxie43 | @roxie43 | Apr 18, 2012
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@iraku

Yes it's a yoyo game that get you up and down. The loneliness itself causes much trouble for everybody let alone someone who had depression. Talking isn't really helping us if there is no understanding and compassion involved.

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We are here to support each other so don't feel like you're bringing anyone down. Xin, Piglit is absolutely right ...

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shirland85 | @shirland85 | Apr 18, 2012

So how do you handle depression when your best friend dies ?
My husband of 26 years passed away from brain cancer. Now that he is gone, I have no one that understands me. Although I am constantly surrounded by family and friends, I'm still alone. Everyone says they understand but they don't. I am just here, I feel like a machine, I go through the motions but have no feelings anymore.

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piglit | @piglit | Apr 18, 2012
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@shirland85

So how do you handle depression when your best friend dies ?
My husband of 26 years passed away from brain cancer. Now that he is gone, I have no one that understands me. Although I am constantly surrounded by family and friends, I'm still alone. Everyone says they understand but they don't. I am just here, I feel like a machine, I go through the motions but have no feelings anymore.

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Hi Shirland85. So sorry that you are so sad. You know sweetie, that's it's expected for you to feel like this as you know you are greiving, we all feel numb. When we loose someone as you have we do feel lost and alone. Also my dear your body becomes tired as well as this just adds to the way you feel. With grief allow yourself the time and it is a slow process, take one day at a time. Remember the loving times that you had with your wonderful husband, and you will gain strenght from this. I work as an aged care worker I work with people who have high care needs, so I fully understand where you are coming from and how you feel, as I have daily experience working in families who have been carers for thei loved ones. I am here anytime that you need to talk and I will help you in anyway I can. Remember sweetie that you are not alone. I am here as others in the community are, we have a wonderful support group here. You also have family, friends surrrounding you too that love and care
Take care my dear your in my thoughts Piglit.

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Tramara1 | @tramara1 | Apr 19, 2012

I have never been in this type of setting before...but I really like the encouragement that is being given to those sharing..I have suffered with depression since before gradeschool..I was raised in a alcoholic household..mom and dad were both alchoholics at one time...mom quit dad never quite..a stroke took him out 15 years ago..in 2001 or so my mom had to come to live with me..shhe developed dementia/Alzheimers....out of 10 kids only 2 were not drug/alcoholics..Ihad to place mom in nursing facility in fall of 2008..due to inability to swallow and wandering....I had a fulltime job,,,nevermind my being only caregiver all those years before..mom died in Oct 2010..She is missed deeply..The whole family has now turned there backs on me and blame me for her death,..

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piglit | @piglit | Apr 19, 2012
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@tramara1

I have never been in this type of setting before...but I really like the encouragement that is being given to those sharing..I have suffered with depression since before gradeschool..I was raised in a alcoholic household..mom and dad were both alchoholics at one time...mom quit dad never quite..a stroke took him out 15 years ago..in 2001 or so my mom had to come to live with me..shhe developed dementia/Alzheimers....out of 10 kids only 2 were not drug/alcoholics..Ihad to place mom in nursing facility in fall of 2008..due to inability to swallow and wandering....I had a fulltime job,,,nevermind my being only caregiver all those years before..mom died in Oct 2010..She is missed deeply..The whole family has now turned there backs on me and blame me for her death,..

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Hi Tramara 1. Welcome to our community, we do have a good support network here, So sorry for what you have endured over the years. We all have challenges don't we, some are harder than others. I work aged care worker I work with people in the community with high care needs. I specialized in dementia. Don't ever think that you are to blame in anyway for your Mum, You know there comes a time with Alheimers that they can't swallow and many do wander. They then need to be placed and cared for in a safe environment. You will miss her deeply, live on the wonderful memories. Am here if you need to talk at anytime. Take care Piglit

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Tramara1 | @tramara1 | Apr 19, 2012
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@tramara1

I have never been in this type of setting before...but I really like the encouragement that is being given to those sharing..I have suffered with depression since before gradeschool..I was raised in a alcoholic household..mom and dad were both alchoholics at one time...mom quit dad never quite..a stroke took him out 15 years ago..in 2001 or so my mom had to come to live with me..shhe developed dementia/Alzheimers....out of 10 kids only 2 were not drug/alcoholics..Ihad to place mom in nursing facility in fall of 2008..due to inability to swallow and wandering....I had a fulltime job,,,nevermind my being only caregiver all those years before..mom died in Oct 2010..She is missed deeply..The whole family has now turned there backs on me and blame me for her death,..

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Thank you so much for your words of comfort..

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piglit | @piglit | Apr 19, 2012
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@tramara1

I have never been in this type of setting before...but I really like the encouragement that is being given to those sharing..I have suffered with depression since before gradeschool..I was raised in a alcoholic household..mom and dad were both alchoholics at one time...mom quit dad never quite..a stroke took him out 15 years ago..in 2001 or so my mom had to come to live with me..shhe developed dementia/Alzheimers....out of 10 kids only 2 were not drug/alcoholics..Ihad to place mom in nursing facility in fall of 2008..due to inability to swallow and wandering....I had a fulltime job,,,nevermind my being only caregiver all those years before..mom died in Oct 2010..She is missed deeply..The whole family has now turned there backs on me and blame me for her death,..

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No worrries. Always here if you need to talk. Will keep in touch Piglit

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Roxie43 | @roxie43 | Apr 20, 2012
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@tramara1

I have never been in this type of setting before...but I really like the encouragement that is being given to those sharing..I have suffered with depression since before gradeschool..I was raised in a alcoholic household..mom and dad were both alchoholics at one time...mom quit dad never quite..a stroke took him out 15 years ago..in 2001 or so my mom had to come to live with me..shhe developed dementia/Alzheimers....out of 10 kids only 2 were not drug/alcoholics..Ihad to place mom in nursing facility in fall of 2008..due to inability to swallow and wandering....I had a fulltime job,,,nevermind my being only caregiver all those years before..mom died in Oct 2010..She is missed deeply..The whole family has now turned there backs on me and blame me for her death,..

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Hi Tramara,
Thank you for sharing your story too. This site can be helpful in so many ways: support, friends, commonality but more importantly knowing that we can identify with what others have and are going through. Feeling alone and feeling like no one understands your pain can be so challenging. This site has helped me immensely because people are caring and compassionate.
I wish no one had to endure what many of us have but at least we have each other and in a positive way we give each other hope!
Take good care & we are here for you.
Roxie

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