Mental illnesses do not define who we are

Posted by Roxie43 @roxie43, Mar 1, 2012

People that live with mental illnesses are not simply reduced to a diagnostic label found in a text book nor by people who have difficulties looking beyond the surface
Living with a mental illness does not automatically equally incompetence, a low IQ, poor boundaries, laziness, malingering, difficult, dishonest nor unworthy or undeserving of life's wonderful and fulfilling achievements
It's important for people living with mental illnesses to realize and be cognizant that the federal government provides funding resources so that states in the U.S. can provide much needed services that will enhance the lives of the people being discused.
Furthermore, if we did not exist, just as if diabetes, the facilities, the funding nor the jobs would exist
For years, I have been exposed to a way of thinking towards those living with mental illness that conflicts with my personal and academically influenced belief system.
For almost 2 decades, I have witnessed how human beings are reduced to pathology instead of individualism.
I am not defined, solely, on genetics nor a label and neither are reader's.
I am a culmination of: my culture, belief system, experiences, accomplishments and yes some challenges
Interestingly, most of the human population are defined by a host of contributing factors ....not just one!
So, why does it appear that when it comes to mental illnesses some forget, whether intentional or not, that we are somehow incapable of contributing to every aspect of everyday living?
Einstein, former presidents, van gough, super stars and even professionals working in a variety of fields have been known to live with mental illnesses but are they famous for an illness or the contributions they have made to society? Contributions!
Yet, for the common person, it appears that more and more others have been trying to box us into one category and I fully disagree with these impossed categorical limitations = defining who we are!
Please, no matter where you are in life do not allow others to tell you who you are nor what you're worth.
I, vividly recall when I graduated with an MSW a colleague telling me to my face "you were never meant to be a social worker". I could not believe what I was hearing let alone feel so demoralized especially since I already had the job title because my colleagues with the same titles only had undergraduate degrees, where doing social work but I, the ill one, with an advanced degree was never meant? ????
I cannot respect people as such. They are a disappointment to human kind.
However, regardless of the sting and the sad reality that employer's discriminate against us I stand firm!
I am worthy of everything I aspire to do and my illness does not, nor, will it ever define who I am and neither will an insensitive and biased person
We may not always feel great but we have names, careers, goals, relationships, and illnesses but this is representative of the human population.
Let's not become immune to labels and always remember that no matter what the circumstances if we respect others we should expect the same.
In solidarity against stigma, oppression and discrimination :+)

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@roxie43

My grandmother helped define me because she taught me the importance of being strong and independent. She also taught me that the truth sooner or later will prevail.
I'm enjoying memories of my Grammy and she was this petite woman who would not back down from anything when she knew that she was right.
She was the glue that kept my paternal family together......
R.I.P.
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She was wonderful. They don't make them like her too often

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@roxie43

My grandmother helped define me because she taught me the importance of being strong and independent. She also taught me that the truth sooner or later will prevail.
I'm enjoying memories of my Grammy and she was this petite woman who would not back down from anything when she knew that she was right.
She was the glue that kept my paternal family together......
R.I.P.
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Too dearly loved to ever be forgotten my dear Rox.

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@roxie43

My grandmother helped define me because she taught me the importance of being strong and independent. She also taught me that the truth sooner or later will prevail.
I'm enjoying memories of my Grammy and she was this petite woman who would not back down from anything when she knew that she was right.
She was the glue that kept my paternal family together......
R.I.P.
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Thank you Piglit.
Rox..only if all our memories were good.

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Happy Sunday All,
Just thinking about all the discussion's I've posted and being negatively defined by assumptions, biases and character assassinations has to be deeply troubling.
Always remember that no one knows you better than yourself and you can hold people accountable.
Be strong, proud and show just how wonderful you are at all times despite attempts to minimize your existence.
Rox

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@roxie43

Happy Sunday All,
Just thinking about all the discussion's I've posted and being negatively defined by assumptions, biases and character assassinations has to be deeply troubling.
Always remember that no one knows you better than yourself and you can hold people accountable.
Be strong, proud and show just how wonderful you are at all times despite attempts to minimize your existence.
Rox

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I bleieve too that we do have to try to stay strong, and realize just how special we all are in our different ways. We need to rely on our inner strangth and faith in what we belive in to be right. Take care Piglit

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Has anyone ever told you - I've known you for a longtime? When trying to imply that they somehow have a right to tell you who you are?
I've known "me" a lot longer and I know who I am better than anyone else.
Just an example of how people try to self impose their distorted and biased beliefs on another.
Rox

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@roxie43

Has anyone ever told you - I've known you for a longtime? When trying to imply that they somehow have a right to tell you who you are?
I've known "me" a lot longer and I know who I am better than anyone else.
Just an example of how people try to self impose their distorted and biased beliefs on another.
Rox

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I can so relate to what your saying Rox. It is a real power game with these people. They enjoy trying to keep the control. This is why it is so important for all of us to just be who we are and not to be judgemental in anyway. Take care as always

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Do not worry. One day the wrong person is going to be hurt and the results will change the boss. What some need is a taste of there own behaviour

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@china

Do not worry. One day the wrong person is going to be hurt and the results will change the boss. What some need is a taste of there own behaviour

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All I want is accountability and restoration.

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@roxie43

Has anyone ever told you - I've known you for a longtime? When trying to imply that they somehow have a right to tell you who you are?
I've known "me" a lot longer and I know who I am better than anyone else.
Just an example of how people try to self impose their distorted and biased beliefs on another.
Rox

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Piglit you're very smart! Control ...could not agree with you more. I also think misery that's masked by success and denial about needing treatment.
Rox

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