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YOU DO NOT.....DEFINE WHO I AM!

Posted by @roxie43 in Brain & Nervous System, Mar 1, 2012

People that live with mental illnesses are not simply reduced to a diagnostic label found in a text book nor by people who have difficulties looking beyond the surface
Living with a mental illness does not automatically equally incompetence, a low IQ, poor boundaries, laziness, malingering, difficult, dishonest nor unworthy or undeserving of life's wonderful and fulfilling achievements
It's important for people living with mental illnesses to realize and be cognizant that the federal government provides funding resources so that states in the U.S. can provide much needed services that will enhance the lives of the people being discused.
Furthermore, if we did not exist, just as if diabetes, the facilities, the funding nor the jobs would exist
For years, I have been exposed to a way of thinking towards those living with mental illness that conflicts with my personal and academically influenced belief system.
For almost 2 decades, I have witnessed how human beings are reduced to pathology instead of individualism.
I am not defined, solely, on genetics nor a label and neither are reader's.
I am a culmination of: my culture, belief system, experiences, accomplishments and yes some challenges
Interestingly, most of the human population are defined by a host of contributing factors ....not just one!
So, why does it appear that when it comes to mental illnesses some forget, whether intentional or not, that we are somehow incapable of contributing to every aspect of everyday living?
Einstein, former presidents, van gough, super stars and even professionals working in a variety of fields have been known to live with mental illnesses but are they famous for an illness or the contributions they have made to society? Contributions!
Yet, for the common person, it appears that more and more others have been trying to box us into one category and I fully disagree with these impossed categorical limitations = defining who we are!
Please, no matter where you are in life do not allow others to tell you who you are nor what you're worth.
I, vividly recall when I graduated with an MSW a colleague telling me to my face "you were never meant to be a social worker". I could not believe what I was hearing let alone feel so demoralized especially since I already had the job title because my colleagues with the same titles only had undergraduate degrees, where doing social work but I, the ill one, with an advanced degree was never meant? ????
I cannot respect people as such. They are a disappointment to human kind.
However, regardless of the sting and the sad reality that employer's discriminate against us I stand firm!
I am worthy of everything I aspire to do and my illness does not, nor, will it ever define who I am and neither will an insensitive and biased person
We may not always feel great but we have names, careers, goals, relationships, and illnesses but this is representative of the human population.
Let's not become immune to labels and always remember that no matter what the circumstances if we respect others we should expect the same.
In solidarity against stigma, oppression and discrimination :+)

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Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, Mar 1, 2012

Amen. Not a lot of people can see how they are being treated differently because they have so much going on with illnesses. It takes guts to write what you wrote. Thank you on behalf of us that can't.

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 3, 2012

I don't want to come across as angry nor condescending. It's just important that reader's and hopefully some of the insensitive folks understand the complexity of living with any type of illness. No matter what the challenge; cancer, heart disease, obesity, depression etc.......
Everyone deserves to be respected and validated. We have war veterans coming home with missing limbs and PTSD by serving our country and protecting us and our freedom and have demonstrated in many ways that they can still achieve and dream of a better life. They inspire me but too often some fall through the cracks and end up living under bridges with a host of co-morbid health issues but instead of looking deeper society is quick to label and demoralize instead of empowering and fostering hope.
The point is that we should all strive to be better human beings and we can start by helping others not discouraging hope!
Our words, actions, inaction, and biases are hurtful to others so let's all work on the importance of "loving thy neighbors"
God Bless Rox

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Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, Mar 11, 2012

I think this social issue will be around for ever. Some people do not think of sickness of the mind like they do physical illness. Great that you shed light and inspired but some people will always think of us as nuts without the capacity to do the same things they do. We can actually do better in some instances.
Good luck

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 14, 2012

I think and believe down to my core that we can do better all the time. Our experiences are powerful and when in recovery our good deeds to help human kind are limitless.
We are truly blessed in many aspects even though we may not always feel as such.
God loves us all and created us so how can we be anything other than special?
One does not have to be hyper religious to believe that we or loved ones were not mistakes!
I'm more spiritual myself and I think every human being has strength's & challenges. Let's give ourselves credit for all our strength's instead of allowing challenges to hold us back from our purpose and let's be the voice for those that presently feel mute so that they too can believe wholeheartedly that we are all gifts to the world instead of burdens.
Call me a dreamer or too optimistic but my beliefs and my experiences tell me that no matter what others may try to define us as........They don't have a clue
Try with all your might to lift yourself up today and do at least 1 thing good for yourself.
Sincerely,
Roxie

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 22, 2012

Everyone has the ability to become better human being's if they want to.
I do....

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 26, 2012

Unfortunately, some with a little power don't feel the need to change. Success does not always mean someone is truly happy. Real success is being able to look at yourself and love what you see!

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Posted by @china, Mar 23, 2012

Guts it does

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 8, 2012

Feeling proud today. I heard back from a state senator about his continued role in the fight against stigma and discrimination. He gave me some advice, which I already did, but at least he responded and is aware of the issue that hurts human beings instead of empowering them.
BE proud of who you are everyone no matter what your circumstances and never allow the cruel to silence you. Also, be careful who you share your personal life with because more often than not those people will try to use it against you one day.
It's sad that we live in this type of world where people who know some of your deepest pain can turn around and ad to that pain.
I have learned a valuable lesson and have been humbled by my experience over the past six months. Interestingly, many of you have been such great supporters and true friends and family have loved and supported me unconditionally. This is all I can ask for......I'm blessed in this respect and I hope you all at least have the support you all need to deal with life's challenges.
Whatever you do never give up and be proud of who you are even if others try to shame you.
God Bless,
Rox :-))

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 10, 2012

I had a nice discussion with an uncle and he commented on how historically, certain populations have had to suffer even more because of stereotypes and others superiority complex.
He gave the example of the stereotype: that people who migrate to the U.S. in hopes of a better life are often labeled abusers of the system: government & state systems. He said many of these people, are kind hearted and ambitious with strong work ethics.
However, labels and character attacks often interfere with ones true self and unfortunately ones overall Wellness.
Have faith and be strong because you''re stronger than you think..I am ok
In solidarity

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 11, 2012

Thanks

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 11, 2012

Absolutely Amen

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Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb, Mar 13, 2012

Misery loves company so always remember that. Not everyone who works in healthcare should be. Their own issues can be masked by being goodie two shoes but when home alone who knows if they are hitting the bottle.
Ignore evil don't entertain it.

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 21, 2012

Misery can't have company unless we allow it. I have decided not to entertain it with my faith in a higher power and Piglits & Delia's words of advise

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 21, 2012

My dear Rox you are so right. Misery is something that we certainly don't need in our lives. Rely on your faith as we all do.The power of positive thinking is something the majority of us strive for and try to achieve. Take care God Bless Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 22, 2012

Thank you Piglit....as always there when we could use a genuinely kind spirit
R

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 20, 2012

Hello all,
When you have time go to http://www.healthyplace.com The article on stigma is great! My feelings were validated when I read the article and reactions to it.
Let me know your thoughts.
Rox

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 28, 2012

There is a section on the site above where you can audio record your story. I did it and once reviewed Healthy Place decides whether to include it in the newsletter..
Rox

china

Posted by @china, Mar 23, 2012

I suffer from depression and it is so intense in winter. Wowy when I read this. This is why my depression is my secret. People can be cruelty without knowing so why give them more?
Wish I could be more confident but trust is hard for me.
Nice job

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 24, 2012

Well depending on where you live it has been beautiful and it's so true I don't like winters.
I hope this community is helpful in knowing your not alone.
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 24, 2012

Try to stay positive I find it always helps and remember that you are not alone, many in the community including me to help you if you need us Piglit

china

Posted by @china, Mar 29, 2012

Staying positive can be a far stretch but the post on religion confirmed that all is possible. Depression when unmanageable or nothing seems to help robs me of all energy yet my faith never waivers. I should rely on my faith more. Thank you

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 29, 2012

Hi China. I have always been very positive in my approach to things it has been my survival in many ways. I have had to deal with anxiety from a very young age, depression with me came later in my life. I believe that anyone can have a positive outlook on things, it may seem a far stretch but it's not really. It is only normal if you are feeling depressed not to feel to great about anything really, but as the saying goes if you don't suceed try, try again. It to me is trying to work through the feelings of the down and realizing that eventually you will come back up. Rely on your faith, it has never let me down and I'm sure it won't with you. So nice to talk with you Take care Piglit

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Posted by @drcarol, Mar 24, 2012

Well said Roxie - you are absolutely right. Labels can be useful when trying to apply the best treatments for any particular problem, but these labels never, ever, apply to the person. Unfortunately some health professionals can sometimes forget this - I believe because as a result of thoughtlessness, rather than belief, but it still hurts just the same.

Fortunately medical health professionals usually get this right. My experience tells me that this problem comes usually from non health professionals - friends, family, employers etc

It takes real courage to challenge this cruel assumption or belief, so well done you! Go girl!

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 24, 2012

Thank you I appreciate your feedback

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 24, 2012

hi
I was tired when I read your feedback and I just read it again. I smiled because you validated how I think, feel and firmly believe in. Go girl was cute and also empowering.
Appreciated
Rox

drcarol

Posted by @drcarol, Mar 26, 2012

No worries, Roxie (I'm an Aussie - that's what we say) it means 'thanks', more or less.

I know what you mean - a girlfriend once said that to me and I've never forgotten how good it made me feel - pleased and empowered.

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 27, 2012

Saw doc today and attempted to process how prevalent stigma is but more importantly how demoralizing and hurtful it can truly be.
To shrink someone to a mold that says illness = unreliable, incompetent and unworthy of mutual respect by peers in the workplace is an American tragedy.
It's a tragedy anywhere.....
How can this be changed? 1in 5 people live with an illness but that twenty percent of the human population needs to speak up because silence simply makes matters worse.
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 27, 2012

This certainly is a tragedy. Unfortunatley until there is acceptance and understanding from people that are totally ignorant. I state this from my own past and present experineces, things will not change. Society needs to step up voice there opinions be outspoken, The time is vast coming that people with such uncaring attitudes need to take a check on the way they are treating people. I hope that i haven't voiced my opinion too strongly but living my 55yrs with stigma attached at the end of the day it becomes very tiring, almost feels as if you on a downhill battle rather than an uphill. I am very passionate about this and always will be Take care Piglit

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 28, 2012

Amen! Voices in number's will definitely making a bigger impact but I'm thankful to the ones that have the courage to share how indifference hurts and actually makes me many people who need treatment to shy away.
Rox

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Posted by @roxie43, Mar 30, 2012

We are going to impact positive change ....all of us one story at a time.
Hugs Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 30, 2012

And all walk beside each other hand in hand with our journeys and stories along the way. We will all stand united as one, Hugs back Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 31, 2012

Today, at this very minute, my focus has become so much clearer and what's important right now is that I have to be increasingly supportive to those that I matter to and those that matter to me. Nothing else compares more than knowing how solidarity positively impacts lives.
Thank you so much for all your support and I only hope that I have been able to convey how special this community has been to me.
Have a blessed night!
Roxie

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 31, 2012

Each and everyday day Roxie you are there to Show me and others in our community support, understanding and caring . You are always there no matter what. Your are so very special to me and others in the community, Thanks so much for being you. God bless take care piglit

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Posted by @piglit, Apr 1, 2012

My dear Roxie. We need so much to nuture and take care of the people that are so important to us in our lives.You my dear do this each and everyday of your life in one way or another. This is what makes you so special to me and others in our community. Try and rest a little Take care Always here for you Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 1, 2012

Thank you Piglit. I'm glad I joined because I have truly found some amazing people. I'm not surprised however because our population is very humble, caring and supportive: things that all human beings need.
Grateful
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Apr 2, 2012

So true Rox. I am so glad that I joined to. I have truly found some wonderfully caring people. It makes such a diffference doesn't it Piglit

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 7, 2012

My grandmother helped define me because she taught me the importance of being strong and independent. She also taught me that the truth sooner or later will prevail.
I'm enjoying memories of my Grammy and she was this petite woman who would not back down from anything when she knew that she was right.
She was the glue that kept my paternal family together......
R.I.P.
DSC

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Apr 7, 2012

It's wonderful to have memories of our loved ones who are no longer with us, but live in our hearts for ever. Memories are also special because they can never be taken away from you. I never new Roxie's dear Grammy, but I felt as if I did, I feel as though I have been taken on a journey, hearing about Grammy and how special she was and always will be. . I know that she was so kind, caring and supportive and understanding to all of her family. A very special dear Grammy to my /our dear Rox, who spends each and everyday caring and listening to everyone and helping in anyway she can. R.I.P Grammy, God bless dear Rox, Grammy loved you so dearly
and always will. Piglit

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 9, 2012

She was wonderful. They don't make them like her too often

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Apr 9, 2012

Too dearly loved to ever be forgotten my dear Rox.

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 10, 2012

Thank you Piglit.
Rox..only if all our memories were good.

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 7, 2012

Is it me or are some people so blinded by ignorance that sadly they will never admit that their big mouths and biased practices hurt people?
My employer really had the audacity to send my doc one of the dummest letters.
I was told that a job description was sent to my doc accompanying the letter but the letter denied what my true role is but the job description was under the social work department.......LOL I have to because some people's continued attempts to define me are sad.
I know what I am and what I am not and cognitively challenged......I'm not! I'm still in morning over my Grammy but I'm so glad she's part of me because employer's who discriminate or try to belittle or box someone into their own created definitions need to have a bright light pointed directly at them so all can see the transparency of unlawful practices!
Meeting this coming Friday and I really do not want to even be in the company of such insensitive and biased people but I have no choice.
So, I ask all my friends, Grammy and my faith to keep me strong, humble and honest ......& in the end I will prove my point that discrimination can be so hurtful and even incapacitating.
ALWAYS REMAIN TRUE TO YOURSELF AND NEVER ALLOW BIGOTRY AND OTHERS ISSUES TO DEFINE YOU! THEY ARE WRONG BECAUSE WE KNOW WHO WE ARE BETTER THAN ANYONE WITH A FORK TONGUE
Rox

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 8, 2012

You have to see this empowering video on YouTube! It's even more proof that disability does not mean - inability
I love life. I am happy....videos name
http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org

Let's not allow prejudice and stigma to negatively impact our self worth nor abilities ..
Rox

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 19, 2012

See Nick's video ..it will give you a powerful perspective!
Rox

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Posted by @china, May 1, 2012

Read your encouraging advice when u don't feel good cause ur good person.

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 15, 2012

Happy Sunday All,
Just thinking about all the discussion's I've posted and being negatively defined by assumptions, biases and character assassinations has to be deeply troubling.
Always remember that no one knows you better than yourself and you can hold people accountable.
Be strong, proud and show just how wonderful you are at all times despite attempts to minimize your existence.
Rox

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Posted by @piglit, Apr 15, 2012

I bleieve too that we do have to try to stay strong, and realize just how special we all are in our different ways. We need to rely on our inner strangth and faith in what we belive in to be right. Take care Piglit

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 18, 2012

Has anyone ever told you - I've known you for a longtime? When trying to imply that they somehow have a right to tell you who you are?
I've known "me" a lot longer and I know who I am better than anyone else.
Just an example of how people try to self impose their distorted and biased beliefs on another.
Rox

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Posted by @piglit, Apr 18, 2012

I can so relate to what your saying Rox. It is a real power game with these people. They enjoy trying to keep the control. This is why it is so important for all of us to just be who we are and not to be judgemental in anyway. Take care as always

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Posted by @roxie43, Apr 18, 2012

Piglit you're very smart! Control ...could not agree with you more. I also think misery that's masked by success and denial about needing treatment.
Rox

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Posted by @roxie43, May 2, 2012

This post is so powerful because power and control are definitely what bullies rely on to hurt others. Very insightful Piglit!

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 2, 2012

Thanks Rox I have as you know had experienced terrible bullying issues with my husband and son. and it is so true that bullies do consider that they have power and control over people that they hurt.At the end of the day I feel that the bullies have issues of immense insecurity within themselves hence it makes them feel good to belittle other people So wrong and unjust Take care Piglit

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Posted by @roxie43, May 4, 2012

So sad that in order for a person to feel god about themselves they have to hurt another. I am proud that I could never do that.
Thanks for everything Piglit....
Roxie

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 6, 2012

Always here if you need me

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 6, 2012

I know ...thank you!
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 6, 2012

always will be

china

Posted by @china, May 7, 2012

Sad. Now I know y we see things on the news. People that have no control at home go 2 work 2 control others. Losers

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 7, 2012

Sadly I think that they have control at home in some cases as well

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 7, 2012

I agree with both of you. Some have no control at home and some feel the need to control the world.
I can only control myself and it's sad that control and power issues impact others who are innocent.
Rox

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Posted by @roxie43, May 10, 2012

I don't advocate for the things on the news. I've already lost so much and my freedom is important.
In time all will be worked out.
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 10, 2012

it will be all worked out soon my dear friend x

china

Posted by @china, Apr 18, 2012

Do not worry. One day the wrong person is going to be hurt and the results will change the boss. What some need is a taste of there own behaviour

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 18, 2012

All I want is accountability and restoration.

china

Posted by @china, Apr 23, 2012

I would want them to feel the same way they made you feel. Your to nice.

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 27, 2012

I don't. I am not vindictive. I don't wish the kind of suffering that I endured on anyone not even the defendants.
It would make me just as bad and I'm too conscientious. I do appreciate your passion though.
Rox

china

Posted by @china, May 14, 2012

They sound vindictive so why care about them. Your call but if it were me I'm saying the news would here from me. Get mad roxi n don't let them get away with nothing.

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