Mental illnesses do not define who we are

Posted by Roxie43 @roxie43, Mar 1, 2012

People that live with mental illnesses are not simply reduced to a diagnostic label found in a text book nor by people who have difficulties looking beyond the surface
Living with a mental illness does not automatically equally incompetence, a low IQ, poor boundaries, laziness, malingering, difficult, dishonest nor unworthy or undeserving of life's wonderful and fulfilling achievements
It's important for people living with mental illnesses to realize and be cognizant that the federal government provides funding resources so that states in the U.S. can provide much needed services that will enhance the lives of the people being discused.
Furthermore, if we did not exist, just as if diabetes, the facilities, the funding nor the jobs would exist
For years, I have been exposed to a way of thinking towards those living with mental illness that conflicts with my personal and academically influenced belief system.
For almost 2 decades, I have witnessed how human beings are reduced to pathology instead of individualism.
I am not defined, solely, on genetics nor a label and neither are reader's.
I am a culmination of: my culture, belief system, experiences, accomplishments and yes some challenges
Interestingly, most of the human population are defined by a host of contributing factors ....not just one!
So, why does it appear that when it comes to mental illnesses some forget, whether intentional or not, that we are somehow incapable of contributing to every aspect of everyday living?
Einstein, former presidents, van gough, super stars and even professionals working in a variety of fields have been known to live with mental illnesses but are they famous for an illness or the contributions they have made to society? Contributions!
Yet, for the common person, it appears that more and more others have been trying to box us into one category and I fully disagree with these impossed categorical limitations = defining who we are!
Please, no matter where you are in life do not allow others to tell you who you are nor what you're worth.
I, vividly recall when I graduated with an MSW a colleague telling me to my face "you were never meant to be a social worker". I could not believe what I was hearing let alone feel so demoralized especially since I already had the job title because my colleagues with the same titles only had undergraduate degrees, where doing social work but I, the ill one, with an advanced degree was never meant? ????
I cannot respect people as such. They are a disappointment to human kind.
However, regardless of the sting and the sad reality that employer's discriminate against us I stand firm!
I am worthy of everything I aspire to do and my illness does not, nor, will it ever define who I am and neither will an insensitive and biased person
We may not always feel great but we have names, careers, goals, relationships, and illnesses but this is representative of the human population.
Let's not become immune to labels and always remember that no matter what the circumstances if we respect others we should expect the same.
In solidarity against stigma, oppression and discrimination :+)

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@roxie43

Misery loves company so always remember that. Not everyone who works in healthcare should be. Their own issues can be masked by being goodie two shoes but when home alone who knows if they are hitting the bottle.
Ignore evil don't entertain it.

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Misery can't have company unless we allow it. I have decided not to entertain it with my faith in a higher power and Piglits & Delia's words of advise

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@roxie43

Misery loves company so always remember that. Not everyone who works in healthcare should be. Their own issues can be masked by being goodie two shoes but when home alone who knows if they are hitting the bottle.
Ignore evil don't entertain it.

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My dear Rox you are so right. Misery is something that we certainly don't need in our lives. Rely on your faith as we all do.The power of positive thinking is something the majority of us strive for and try to achieve. Take care God Bless Piglit

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@roxie43

Misery loves company so always remember that. Not everyone who works in healthcare should be. Their own issues can be masked by being goodie two shoes but when home alone who knows if they are hitting the bottle.
Ignore evil don't entertain it.

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Thank you Piglit....as always there when we could use a genuinely kind spirit
R

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@roxie43

Amen. Not a lot of people can see how they are being treated differently because they have so much going on with illnesses. It takes guts to write what you wrote. Thank you on behalf of us that can't.

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Everyone has the ability to become better human being's if they want to.
I do....

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I suffer from depression and it is so intense in winter. Wowy when I read this. This is why my depression is my secret. People can be cruelty without knowing so why give them more?
Wish I could be more confident but trust is hard for me.
Nice job

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@roxie43

Amen. Not a lot of people can see how they are being treated differently because they have so much going on with illnesses. It takes guts to write what you wrote. Thank you on behalf of us that can't.

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Guts it does

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@china

I suffer from depression and it is so intense in winter. Wowy when I read this. This is why my depression is my secret. People can be cruelty without knowing so why give them more?
Wish I could be more confident but trust is hard for me.
Nice job

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Well depending on where you live it has been beautiful and it's so true I don't like winters.
I hope this community is helpful in knowing your not alone.
Rox

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Well said Roxie - you are absolutely right. Labels can be useful when trying to apply the best treatments for any particular problem, but these labels never, ever, apply to the person. Unfortunately some health professionals can sometimes forget this - I believe because as a result of thoughtlessness, rather than belief, but it still hurts just the same.

Fortunately medical health professionals usually get this right. My experience tells me that this problem comes usually from non health professionals - friends, family, employers etc

It takes real courage to challenge this cruel assumption or belief, so well done you! Go girl!

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@drcarol

Well said Roxie - you are absolutely right. Labels can be useful when trying to apply the best treatments for any particular problem, but these labels never, ever, apply to the person. Unfortunately some health professionals can sometimes forget this - I believe because as a result of thoughtlessness, rather than belief, but it still hurts just the same.

Fortunately medical health professionals usually get this right. My experience tells me that this problem comes usually from non health professionals - friends, family, employers etc

It takes real courage to challenge this cruel assumption or belief, so well done you! Go girl!

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Thank you I appreciate your feedback

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@china

I suffer from depression and it is so intense in winter. Wowy when I read this. This is why my depression is my secret. People can be cruelty without knowing so why give them more?
Wish I could be more confident but trust is hard for me.
Nice job

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Try to stay positive I find it always helps and remember that you are not alone, many in the community including me to help you if you need us Piglit

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