My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.

I meant before he disappeared he called me but not afterwards. Thanks for replying to me. There are always many things that people don’t know about everything. I have not said many things to protect others. I reached out because I was hurting. I am still hurting. I was hurting before when there was not much communication from the family but you take what you can get. Things can always be worse or better. I want to be able to reach out and help others also. When people started saying I should do this or that I almost stopped responding as I don’t need more stress but less. I have Fibromyalgia and this has not helped it of course. I’m only trying to do what is right for everyone involved. One cannot make another care or love them. Or even communicate with them. One doesn’t want to be lied to either as then you can’t trust them. I still believe that prayer is the best thing and to be doing what one feels like God wants them to do in circumstances. May God bless you ❤️

Hello @maone,

I'm glad that you stated that:

"When people started saying I should do this or that I almost stopped responding as I don’t need more stress but less."

Thanks for that important reminder~

@maone- Thank you for clearing this up. I'm sure that you will feel hurt for quite a while. I can feel how you love your son and wish him the best, but want him around you. I have found that the more information given the better that I can respond. But your pain is what is important here as you are the one who has posted. Now that you have a bit of relief how are your days? How are you coping now?

I’m trying to take one day at a time and be thankful for that. I’m alone a lot but that’s ok. I have a husband who loves me and is in agreement with me so that also helps. He works full time and we are blessed he still can. He loves his job also. That is a blessing also. I have plenty of things at home to keep me busy when I am feeling up to do them. Thanks for asking. Knowing others do care helps also and I care for others. I want to reach out and try to help others as I know there’s always a blessing in that. ❤️

@maone- I know that you want to reach out and you are to those who need support. Connect is a wonderful place to help heal yourself by doing just that! I thank you.

Yes, I do and thanks for your reply ❤️

@maone I think that your posting right from the beginning was so very brave, as you put in words what you were living. I think that it made many of us think about our own lives and how we might react to such a situation. No doubt some of us responded from our own
"seat in the stands". But you knew that many of us were supporting you, rooting for you, and hoping right alongside of you, for a good outcome. While it may not be what you fully wanted, knowing that he is alive is a blessing. How you will move forward from this is a daily testament to your strength. I, for one, thank you for your openness, and understanding that we all meant well.
Ginger

Thanks so much for your reply. For your kind words. I have learned that one never really knows how another really feels unless they have gone through the same thing. Even so we can always say a prayer or let one know we care that they are hurting. Only God knows our future and I’m glad of that for sure. It seems like all kinds of things happened after this. Like the air going out and had to be replaced and a truck falling apart and had to be replaced and I got food poisoning and that took so much out of me. Sure wouldn’t wish that on anyone. But do know that is all part of life but still isn’t easy and with my Fibromyalgia I’m really sensitive to many things. Seems so many people are hurting each other these days on purpose and even getting thrills from it. So very sad. Well, you’ve got me talking again.lol Thanks so much for your caring. Praying for you also ❤️

I’m very sorry you feel this way. You don’t know the whole story. I forgive you and ask for your forgiveness. There is no way I’m trying to be selfish. So now I’ll stop replying to anyone. Im very hurt that you feel this way. You now will see I wasn’t trying to get attention.God bless

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