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My son decided to disappear without a trace at 54 years old.

Loss & Grief | Last Active: Sep 28, 2019 | Replies (147)
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@maone

I meant before he disappeared he called me but not afterwards. Thanks for replying to me. There are always many things that people don’t know about everything. I have not said many things to protect others. I reached out because I was hurting. I am still hurting. I was hurting before when there was not much communication from the family but you take what you can get. Things can always be worse or better. I want to be able to reach out and help others also. When people started saying I should do this or that I almost stopped responding as I don’t need more stress but less. I have Fibromyalgia and this has not helped it of course. I’m only trying to do what is right for everyone involved. One cannot make another care or love them. Or even communicate with them. One doesn’t want to be lied to either as then you can’t trust them. I still believe that prayer is the best thing and to be doing what one feels like God wants them to do in circumstances. May God bless you ❤️

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Sep 17, 2019

Hello @maone,

I'm glad that you stated that:

"When people started saying I should do this or that I almost stopped responding as I don’t need more stress but less."

Thanks for that important reminder~

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Sep 17, 2019

@maone- Thank you for clearing this up. I'm sure that you will feel hurt for quite a while. I can feel how you love your son and wish him the best, but want him around you. I have found that the more information given the better that I can respond. But your pain is what is important here as you are the one who has posted. Now that you have a bit of relief how are your days? How are you coping now?

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Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Sep 17, 2019

@maone I think that your posting right from the beginning was so very brave, as you put in words what you were living. I think that it made many of us think about our own lives and how we might react to such a situation. No doubt some of us responded from our own
"seat in the stands". But you knew that many of us were supporting you, rooting for you, and hoping right alongside of you, for a good outcome. While it may not be what you fully wanted, knowing that he is alive is a blessing. How you will move forward from this is a daily testament to your strength. I, for one, thank you for your openness, and understanding that we all meant well.
Ginger

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