@brit- Perhaps she's in a lot of pain and does not want to talk? I know that when I'm in pain, depressed or not feeling well I don't want to explain what's going on and I don't even want to talk much to my husband. I want to be mostly left alone. My sister always calls way too much and when this happens I have my husband talk to her. I wont get on the phone. I know that you are a caring person, it's very obvious, but it may be that you are overwhelming her with your love and worry? Can you text her? Perhaps just send a friendly text- miss you, hope that you are feeling better, or send her a joke or a picture that she might like. To tell you the truth I love my sister, and my husband, but I hate to feel smothered. It reminds me that I'm not well and exacerbates my PTSD. Does this make sense?
@brit- Perhaps she's in a lot of pain and does not want to talk? I know that when I'm in pain, depressed or not feeling well I don't want to explain what's going on and I don't even want to talk much to my husband. I want to be mostly left alone. My sister always calls way too much and when this happens I have my husband talk to her. I wont get on the phone. I know that you are a caring person, it's very obvious, but it may be that you are overwhelming her with your love and worry? Can you text her? Perhaps just send a friendly text- miss you, hope that you are feeling better, or send her a joke or a picture that she might like. To tell you the truth I love my sister, and my husband, but I hate to feel smothered. It reminds me that I'm not well and exacerbates my PTSD. Does this make sense?
I don't think I am really bothering her that much. She never gets on the phone and never emails. I have sent her a "get well" card but that's about it. All she has to do is let me know that she doesn't need to hear from me and I most certainly will go with her wish. But please say something.....................God Bless Patti
@brit- Perhaps she's in a lot of pain and does not want to talk? I know that when I'm in pain, depressed or not feeling well I don't want to explain what's going on and I don't even want to talk much to my husband. I want to be mostly left alone. My sister always calls way too much and when this happens I have my husband talk to her. I wont get on the phone. I know that you are a caring person, it's very obvious, but it may be that you are overwhelming her with your love and worry? Can you text her? Perhaps just send a friendly text- miss you, hope that you are feeling better, or send her a joke or a picture that she might like. To tell you the truth I love my sister, and my husband, but I hate to feel smothered. It reminds me that I'm not well and exacerbates my PTSD. Does this make sense?
A good point, @merpreb. I am not comfortable when I feel smothered with attention, even when it is well intentioned. It makes me feel like I'm incapable of handling things on my own, and that is just not acceptable to me.
I don't think I am really bothering her that much. She never gets on the phone and never emails. I have sent her a "get well" card but that's about it. All she has to do is let me know that she doesn't need to hear from me and I most certainly will go with her wish. But please say something.....................God Bless Patti
Sending an email everyday, to me, isn't being smothered. Just caring is what would call it and when you don't even get an answer well, that is acceptable
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Thanks for you thoughts God Bless Patti
Sending an email everyday, to me, isn't being smothered. Just caring is what would call it and when you don't even get an answer well, that is acceptable
to me
Thanks for you thoughts God Bless Patti
I haven't asked other than when will I be talking to her and he just says things like she's sleeping or things of that sort. I feel quite hurt about all this and I know (she knows me well) that there must be somethinng wrong. What I don't know but I will let her have her silence and maybe that will help her. It certainly isn't helping me God Bless Patti
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Good idea...............but can't figure out why she is letting her husband do all the corresponding
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1 Reaction@brit- Perhaps she's in a lot of pain and does not want to talk? I know that when I'm in pain, depressed or not feeling well I don't want to explain what's going on and I don't even want to talk much to my husband. I want to be mostly left alone. My sister always calls way too much and when this happens I have my husband talk to her. I wont get on the phone. I know that you are a caring person, it's very obvious, but it may be that you are overwhelming her with your love and worry? Can you text her? Perhaps just send a friendly text- miss you, hope that you are feeling better, or send her a joke or a picture that she might like. To tell you the truth I love my sister, and my husband, but I hate to feel smothered. It reminds me that I'm not well and exacerbates my PTSD. Does this make sense?
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2 ReactionsMe neither. But just have to wait and see if I hear from her soon. Patti
I don't think I am really bothering her that much. She never gets on the phone and never emails. I have sent her a "get well" card but that's about it. All she has to do is let me know that she doesn't need to hear from me and I most certainly will go with her wish. But please say something.....................God Bless Patti
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2 ReactionsA good point, @merpreb. I am not comfortable when I feel smothered with attention, even when it is well intentioned. It makes me feel like I'm incapable of handling things on my own, and that is just not acceptable to me.
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2 Reactions@brit- I'm sure that she doesn't want to say that. What does her husband say? Have you asked him why she wont speak with you?
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1 ReactionSending an email everyday, to me, isn't being smothered. Just caring is what would call it and when you don't even get an answer well, that is acceptable
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1 ReactionJust that she is resting. Her husband fills me in on her condition and is always kind and caring. I am at a loose Patti
I hear you @brit. Well, maybe you do just have to wait. Or in an email, ask her why she wont take your calls or answer your emails?
I haven't asked other than when will I be talking to her and he just says things like she's sleeping or things of that sort. I feel quite hurt about all this and I know (she knows me well) that there must be somethinng wrong. What I don't know but I will let her have her silence and maybe that will help her. It certainly isn't helping me God Bless Patti
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