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Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children

Posted by kdo0827 @kdo0827, Dec 27, 2018

Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?

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kdo0827 | @kdo0827 | Dec 30, 2018

I’d have to look it up but I’m pretty sure it was less than 20%. Regardless I wouldn’t have finally been approved without him. I think he got 6K. It’s worth it to me.

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kdo0827 | @kdo0827 | Dec 30, 2018
In reply to @coloradolori "It’s so hard in some states to get approved for SSN disability. Even very disabled people..." + (show)
@coloradolori

It’s so hard in some states to get approved for SSN disability. Even very disabled people sometimes don’t get approved. It’s very difficult. Seems like the SSN administration try to NOT approve. They seem to find loopholes to not approve. Even when we are very disabled. I say don’t give up. Get a lawyer too. They truly do help in Disability cases. It’s a shame when disabled folks like us who truly are disabled don’t get approved. Sometimes it takes 2-3 times to resubmit. Take good care.

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I agree! It’s very hard to get approved in NC. I know people with MS, cancer that got turned down. You must keep impeccable records, fill things out exactly and for heavens sake make copies of everything you send out. They have quite the habit of losing things.

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catcatanzaro60 | @catcatanzaro60 | Dec 30, 2018

I applied in Ohio for Disability. Thanks for the advice

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | Dec 30, 2018
In reply to @654321 "O k major slip up! What is the name of the light that helps depression .?" + (show)
@654321

O k major slip up! What is the name of the light that helps depression .?

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@654321
It’s called a lite book. It’s small, maybe 6” on a side. You can google lite book and it pops right up. I posted the link yesterday but I can’t find it

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Dec 31, 2018
In reply to @hodagwi "I don't give my kids the power to determine my happiness. I determine my happiness. 4..." + (show)
@hodagwi

I don't give my kids the power to determine my happiness. I determine my happiness. 4 daughters, 38,39,42 and 45 with families and kids. If I want to call them I call them and we always have a pleasant conversation. I do most of the calling, which is fine by me. One granddaughter acknowledges her presents but other ones don't until I see them. I don't live close to them so that is 2-3 times a year that I see them. I always feel welcome in their home and have a room for me and nice time when I visit. I am 71 and the oldest in the family. Yes, I just bought my own tombstone and sent them pictures of it. LOL. I am happy with the life I have and that gives me great joy and satisfaction. If I expect other people to do what I want or for others to "make me happy", never will happen.
GF has 3 daughters with only one talking to her, because of some issues 20-30 years ago. She reaches out to them and is ignored. Checks are cashed however. She constantly is depressed because her kids are not doing what she wants them to do so that she can be happy. Think about that. When we visited them, they are not mean or nasty, most of the time. So does she give them money because it makes GF feel good, or does she give them money/bribe so they contact her? I am afraid good manners and respect for elders/parents has changed and I hope us baby boomer generation parents didn't create this.

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@hodagwi- Hello. You seem to have gotten it right with your kids. This is terrific. As I said earlier it's tough raising our kids. And you have four! Good for you.

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Dec 31, 2018
In reply to @kdo0827 "I’m seriously thinking about going off Cymbalta as I don’t like how I feel. I’m on..." + (show)
@kdo0827

I’m seriously thinking about going off Cymbalta as I don’t like how I feel. I’m on disability but it took me 3.5 years. I finally hired an atty after getting denied. In NC you don’t pay the atty anything until you get approved and then they get a percentage of your back pay. It wasn’t that much. To me well worth it.

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good luck kdo!

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Dec 31, 2018
In reply to @parus "@merpreb It is called Purgatory. Mine did make it-I think. Now enjoying grandkids." + (show)
@parus

@merpreb It is called Purgatory. Mine did make it-I think. Now enjoying grandkids.

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parus- hahaha

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Parus | @parus | Dec 31, 2018
In reply to @coloradolori "It’s so hard in some states to get approved for SSN disability. Even very disabled people..." + (show)
@coloradolori

It’s so hard in some states to get approved for SSN disability. Even very disabled people sometimes don’t get approved. It’s very difficult. Seems like the SSN administration try to NOT approve. They seem to find loopholes to not approve. Even when we are very disabled. I say don’t give up. Get a lawyer too. They truly do help in Disability cases. It’s a shame when disabled folks like us who truly are disabled don’t get approved. Sometimes it takes 2-3 times to resubmit. Take good care.

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It is also a shame to see those that are not severely disabled are approved and brag about it. Why it has become so difficult for the truly deserving. My 2 cents worth. My feelings go out to those navigating this process. Not easy. 🙂

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coloradolori | @coloradolori | Dec 31, 2018
In reply to @parus "It is also a shame to see those that are not severely disabled are approved and..." + (show)
@parus

It is also a shame to see those that are not severely disabled are approved and brag about it. Why it has become so difficult for the truly deserving. My 2 cents worth. My feelings go out to those navigating this process. Not easy. 🙂

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Dittos. Absolutely true. Makes zero sense. Such a shame.

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John, Volunteer Mentor | @johnbishop | Jan 3, 2019

I had an interesting article show up in my Mayo Clinic news feed that I thought I would share.

Infographic: Train your brain for happiness
-- https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/infographic-train-your-brain-for-happiness-2/

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