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Down in the dumps again – challenges with adult children

Posted by kdo0827 @kdo0827, Dec 27, 2018

Hi everyone! It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I started taking Cymbalta and got off the other stuff. I was doing better but the past 2 months or so not so good. I’m struggling with feeling invisible and I’m feeling very unappreciated. I feel my kids only call when they want something or have a problem. They never ask how I’m feeling nor do they try and help. I had a procedure done yesterday and neither one bothered to check on me. Adding this to my depression isn’t good. Do any of you have these same feelings about your kids?What should I do?

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catcatanzaro60 | @catcatanzaro60 | Dec 30, 2018
In reply to @catcatanzaro60 "Hi Everybody! I started Cymbalta last December 2017 (I stopped Prozac of 20 years 40 mg)Went..." + (show)
@catcatanzaro60

Hi Everybody! I started Cymbalta last December 2017 (I stopped Prozac of 20 years 40 mg)Went back on Prozac/20mg November 2018 doing better in mind but my friends are freaking out. I don't drive or go out much anymore. I applied for Disability finally in November. I did not get a lawyer. I take Prozac Trazadone for Depression Cymbalta- Celebrex for the pain I went back on Estradiol 1mg. Anyone on Disability?? How long does it take? Why do some people get it quick and others forever? So much paperwork.

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Just wanted to say that I had a Vitamin D deficiency last year from I think being up at night. Not sure but went to the tanning bed and it helped alot I usually go about 6 times a year for psoriasis condition.

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lioness | @lioness | Dec 30, 2018
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@catcatanzaro60

Just wanted to say that I had a Vitamin D deficiency last year from I think being up at night. Not sure but went to the tanning bed and it helped alot I usually go about 6 times a year for psoriasis condition.

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@catcatanzaro60 Keep having your D level checked to see if tanning bed is giving you enough in your body

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catcatanzaro60 | @catcatanzaro60 | Dec 30, 2018
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@lioness

@catcatanzaro60 Keep having your D level checked to see if tanning bed is giving you enough in your body

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I take a multi-vitamin daily. Thanks Cathy

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | Dec 30, 2018
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@catcatanzaro60

Just wanted to say that I had a Vitamin D deficiency last year from I think being up at night. Not sure but went to the tanning bed and it helped alot I usually go about 6 times a year for psoriasis condition.

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@catcatanzaro60 , please be careful using tanning beds! They are a big culprit in skin Ca. Have you talked with your doc about managing the psoriasis?

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Parus | @parus | Dec 30, 2018
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@catcatanzaro60

Just wanted to say that I had a Vitamin D deficiency last year from I think being up at night. Not sure but went to the tanning bed and it helped alot I usually go about 6 times a year for psoriasis condition.

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When I was using a tanning bed I still needed a D supplement.

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kdo0827 | @kdo0827 | Dec 30, 2018
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@lioness

@catcatanzaro60 Keep having your D level checked to see if tanning bed is giving you enough in your body

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Yes please do. I suffer from Vit D deficiency and take a 50,000 RX 2 x week plus 2,000 daily. As for the tanning bed be very careful my mom has skin cancer from them.

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coloradolori | @coloradolori | Dec 30, 2018
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@kdo0827

Thanks for your post. I also don’t think it’s asking too much for a thank you and a how are you doing. I’ve never turned down requests for help from our kids and they’ve “borrowed” many thousands of dollars with no payback as promised. But this New Year my husband are going to start doing for us. While our kids were out going to dinner, taking trips we sat at home because we’ve exhausted our savings helping them. They are 32 and 34 and we’re done with bailing them out. We love them more than anything but it’s time. Of course if it’s a dire situation we will try to help.

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You hang in there. We did the same. Helped & helped others to our fault. Plus in 1996 adopted an older child now 28.
We stopped finally. We had to. Just small things now & then but very small. But you take care. Thank u for sharing !!

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coloradolori | @coloradolori | Dec 30, 2018
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Liked your note.

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It’s so hard. Yes you continue to push forward. We all have caring hearts. But sometimes doing so much to help others hurts us long term.

With regards to older parents & grandparents & small children. Yes we have helped. Adult children tho whom may take advantage and not appreciative - well i can just say we had to stop helping them. We had to.

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kdo0827 | @kdo0827 | Dec 30, 2018
In reply to @catcatanzaro60 "Hi Everybody! I started Cymbalta last December 2017 (I stopped Prozac of 20 years 40 mg)Went..." + (show)
@catcatanzaro60

Hi Everybody! I started Cymbalta last December 2017 (I stopped Prozac of 20 years 40 mg)Went back on Prozac/20mg November 2018 doing better in mind but my friends are freaking out. I don't drive or go out much anymore. I applied for Disability finally in November. I did not get a lawyer. I take Prozac Trazadone for Depression Cymbalta- Celebrex for the pain I went back on Estradiol 1mg. Anyone on Disability?? How long does it take? Why do some people get it quick and others forever? So much paperwork.

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I’m seriously thinking about going off Cymbalta as I don’t like how I feel. I’m on disability but it took me 3.5 years. I finally hired an atty after getting denied. In NC you don’t pay the atty anything until you get approved and then they get a percentage of your back pay. It wasn’t that much. To me well worth it.

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coloradolori | @coloradolori | Dec 30, 2018
In reply to @catcatanzaro60 "Hi Everybody! I started Cymbalta last December 2017 (I stopped Prozac of 20 years 40 mg)Went..." + (show)
@catcatanzaro60

Hi Everybody! I started Cymbalta last December 2017 (I stopped Prozac of 20 years 40 mg)Went back on Prozac/20mg November 2018 doing better in mind but my friends are freaking out. I don't drive or go out much anymore. I applied for Disability finally in November. I did not get a lawyer. I take Prozac Trazadone for Depression Cymbalta- Celebrex for the pain I went back on Estradiol 1mg. Anyone on Disability?? How long does it take? Why do some people get it quick and others forever? So much paperwork.

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It’s so hard in some states to get approved for SSN disability. Even very disabled people sometimes don’t get approved. It’s very difficult. Seems like the SSN administration try to NOT approve. They seem to find loopholes to not approve. Even when we are very disabled. I say don’t give up. Get a lawyer too. They truly do help in Disability cases. It’s a shame when disabled folks like us who truly are disabled don’t get approved. Sometimes it takes 2-3 times to resubmit. Take good care.

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