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Hi everyone .... well, I've reached the end of my last nerve. About a year ago, I had to put my little dog down ..... she was a Cavalier, King Charles Spaniel, who was rescued from a puppy mill - she was 4 and had given birth to multiple liters. She never got out of the crate, and the day after I took her the mill was going to shoot her because she was no long producing what they wanted. She was a tri-color, and had the classical heart murmur. All Cavaliers have that, I guess from poor breeding practices ..... goes from level 1 to level 5. She was 11 when I had to put her to sleep. Well, you all know all the moving I've been doing ... MD to VA, then another place in VA (which is quite unsafe I'm finding out). I have not been happy since I left my condo in MD. I'd lived in the Frederick, MD area for 30 years, and that move was a big mistake (now I know!). Well, I have 2 cats, but I so much miss that little girl. It's been a year now, and I still can't look at her picture without tearing up. So, I've been in touch with a Cavalier rescue group that lives quite close to where I used to live in MD, and I'm just praying that I can find one that I can both afford and whose murmur isn't passed 2. I'm lonesome .... I have a neighbor who is a friend and she has a dog. My kids are great people, and do what they can and have time for to either come over, bring me some food, or go somewhere with me, but they all have lives and families and I cannot expect them to fill in the gap. I'm used to taking in a puppy mill rescue, as my Molly was afraid of grass when I got her, I had to teach her how to walk up steps, and for a long time anytime someone lifted an arm to scratch their head or anything like that, she'd duck and run. Obviously, she'd been abused along with everything else. I so hope I can get one ..... I need a loyal friend down here, and one of them would be perfect.
abby
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I think a dog would be wonderful for you to have again, @amberpep. I remember buying our Cavalier--not at all inexpensive, unfortunately. As a child we had a Pekepoo (wonderful), a Pembroke Welsh Corgi (also wonderful), and a Shih-Tzu (unfortunately, it must have been from bad breeding--liked to bite people, even us). I understand that in most cases, Shih-Tzus are great, too.
I'm guessing you are considering a smaller dog?
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1 ReactionYes, Lisa, I live in an apartment and need to have a small dog. Two others that have been recommended to me are the Havanese, and Cavishon. Did your Cavalier have heart problems?
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1 ReactionSound like some good ideas for sweet dogs, Abby @amberpep. My Cavalier did not have heart problems, but did have pretty bad tearing problems from her eyes.
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1 Reaction@amberpep My daughter and I actually used a baby naming book! Keller was purchased for her, sort of a therapy dog because she was going though more than her share of social angst.
Keller had no problems that were ever diagnosed, he did lose his hearing though and his belly got very leathery. That's great they have bred out the heart problems. I was amazed at how long he lived. When I walk by the spot in the kitchen where his bowls were I always feel a bit wistful.
JK
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1 Reactionso could use a dog-not an option as I am a large dog person and then there are days like today I would not be able to walk a dog. Lonely, lonely, lonely today.
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2 ReactionsHello @parus
I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a lonely day. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Wishing you better days ahead,
Teresa
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1 ReactionI agree that loneliness can be nearly as hard to bear as pain. My dog means a great deal to me, both as a friend, as well as my service dog. Many of us feel lonely even though we're not alone. You're not alone in your loneliness.
Jim
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1 ReactionI sure hope I have not written this here before ... I don't think so, but then .... who knows???? I saw my therapist and psychiatrist on Tuesday of this week and they both called, what I've been calling Cyclothymia, BiPolar 2. Somehow there is a big relief in having a diagnosis rather than the nebulous Cyclothymia. So, he's very slowly moving down the Zoloft, added Lamictal, and since the Lamictal gives me what is called "essential tremors" also Propanalol. Looking back I can see times when I was impulsive, but figured, "oh well, that's just me." Thank God for good doctors. I sent the Mayo website to all 3 of my kids for them to read and perhaps then they will better understand the days when I just don't have any "oomph" or just can't drag myself out to go with them. I hope so anyhow.
abby
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3 Reactions@amberpep Hi Abby:
Yes, the right label can provide a comfort, can't it?
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Abby @amberpep - I do agree that having the right diagnosis is a huge relief, especially when it is consistent with the way we've been feeling. Sometimes, it serves to reduce the frustration of misdiagnoses, waiting and lack of compassion and understanding of family and friends. Enjoy the blessings of modern medicine. Let us know how your family responds to your good news.
Jim
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