Is anyone wore and tired of?

Posted by lost55 @lost55, Sep 3 12:16am

Hello
Is any caregiver tired of being accused of taking, moving, stealing, or purposely hiding your Alzheimer’s spouse things?
Has anyone honestly blown their stack, lost their cool, gotten red faced pissed off with their Alzheimer’s spouse?
Has anyone told their Alzheimer’s spouse that all of their delusional accusations are the disease and been told they know what they did, where they left, put, or stored their possessions and they are well aware and not sick!
Has anyone tried so hard to fink their Alzheimer’s spouse lost things amongst the tornadic mayhem of their Alzheimer’s spouse dresser, closet or bathroom vanity and received no thanks only to be accused of hiding the thing in the place you miraculously found it after a half hour search?
Well I’m being honest because as of now I have reached the point where I am about to not care anymore.
It’s like the person you have lived with for 55 years treats you like a thief!
No wonder that caregivers just want to give up.
B

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kjc48 | @kjc48 | 3 days ago

In reply to @diane07710 "I'm so done right now....So tired of disrespect and tantrums....I quit!" + (show)

@diane07710 I saw your note and I wasn't sure who you were sending it to as it somehow attached on my gratitude message. Sometimes this system trips me up. I'm sorry you are getting disrespect and tantrums. The only thing I can tell you when my husband did that to me. After telling him I was going to bash his brains in, he stopped that awful behavior. And when he does it again, I call him on it. Boundaries. I know that's not ladylike and certainly nothing anyone would say, but the way I said it, and did it, it worked and I haven't had disrespect from him again. But the challenge with this, is it depends what stage they are in, in their MCI and/or Alzheimers or Dementia and whether they even understand what you are saying.
Best Karla

judimahoney | @judimahoney | 3 days ago

In reply to @diane07710 "I'm so done right now....So tired of disrespect and tantrums....I quit!" + (show)

@diane07710
Shall we all go on strike till our demands are met? 😉

diane07710 | @diane07710 | 3 days ago

In reply to @kjc48 "@diane07710 I saw your note and I wasn't sure who you were sending it to as..." + (show)

His mother was the same way before going in to memory care.....they both have the 'MY WAY OE THE HIGHWAY mentality...ugh No way to deal with all the crazy.

kjc48 | @kjc48 | 2 days ago

In reply to @diane07710 "His mother was the same way before going in to memory care.....they both have the 'MY..." + (show)

@diane07710 Gosh, we just deal. I don't know how but we do. I read that the brain gets blocked - with those amyloid and tau tangles - like a congested highway and nothing can get through. I think when we look at that way, it's trying to figure out how to SURVIVE with our loved ones in all this crazy.
Best, Karla