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Is it ok to feel angry?
Venting. Here it comes again, the anger. It arrives in slow waves. Anger at my mother for not being more proactive about her life choices. Anger at dementia. Anger and frustration at the medical system. Anger that I’m losing sleep and exhausted all the time & above all, angry that I lost my job and the life I built due to her disease and slow decline.
And then I get angry at the deep guilt I experience because I feel angry!
I try to take deep breath and be in the moment. It’s a game of constantly reframing how I see this. I keep repeating to myself the word “acceptance”.
How do you cope if you experience these difficult emotions?
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@georgescraftjr My brain knows that.. but my heart has not gotten there yet! I am better than I was a couple of weeks ago!
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2 ReactionsI will give some advice if is ok! Please remember it is always ok to feel a plethora of responses, anger , irritation and anxiety with frustration! It is how you use that makes it better for your loved one! You cannot change them .. but you can change how to deal with it! I say this, because they most likely won’t t remember.. but u will! I have my radio on and I am exercising with weights and dancing to some of the songs! Some of u know I lost my spouse May 24th. I cry, I get angry, I get joy when I remember the things he did and his presence! One day this may be u! Don’t have regrets! Love them in spite of what they say or do! Coz one day you won’t have them! I know this may sound weird but, the other day I woke up and I felt a bear hug! My spouse gave those all the times I was really overwhelmed or just needed it! I chose to believe it was him! God bless u all!
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