Doesn’t anyone else feel …… ?

@kjc48 I’m trying. But it’s just such reasonable explanation that makes me think I’m failing if I’m not perfectly patient all of the time.
I’m grateful for those who tell their stores and admit their feelings on here, which helps me realize I’m not failing any more than anyone else, in my duty.

I wish my husband could still be contrary. In the past he would often challenge anything that I wanted to spend money on that he did not think was necessary. Now, he can barely get out more than 5-6 words in a day. He sleeps all day and is only out of bed when I get him up to feed him or take him outside for some sunshine. This contrariness will end someday because the dementia will eventually take away his ability to speak. I know it is difficult to live with someone that has a contrary personality. I know that with this dementia caregiving journey that I am on, I have become more emotionally fragile. I am not able to tolerate any opposition by anybody not just him. I am trying my best, as I am sure you are, but somehow it seems like it is just not enough. I am tired of this whole thing but realize that I just have to be patient and take it one day at a time. Posting here has been an enormous help knowing that I am not alone in this and that out there in the big wide world there are also people who get what this is like. May God bless you and give you the courage and patience you need.

@sunnygardens No you are not failing, simply going through an extremely difficult situation, to say the least. I try to take one day at a time, meeting all of my husband’s needs, and at the end of the day, I feel I’ve done by best, loving him through this cruel disease. I know my prayers are heard, and I know where I draw my strength. I hope, too, that you will let go and know you are doing your best each day, and be proud of who you are and the good that you’re doing for your loved one. Lots of love…

@sunnygardens
My husband has a hernia too, and isn't supposed to do any heavy lifting. Sigh...

@sunnygardens : I feel like you are describing my husband, however he can swing from one mood to another in minutes, so I’m constantly on eggshells I find myself avoiding any room he’s in. I feel angry, sad and frustrated most days, which I think most of us do also. However we are all in this together so on here we try to help each other with either helpful advice or relating to a situation. For me it’s very helpful, I can come on here in tears and leave calmer. that’s why we’re here.

@judimahoney oh my gosh……
My occasional reaction is “What a pain in the arse!”
Is your husband waiting for surgery? My friends is. Now he’s considering going to a semi-private clinic in another province. Which will still cost thousands. Because the wait time here is 7-18 months.
Meanwhile the hernia enlarges, he’s in extreme pain or drugged with Tylenol, bored, irritable. He’s always had a low tolerance for pain. It’s a terrible situation for him.
I want the surgery to end all this, before his cognitive ability slides downhill even more.
Now I worry about the effect of the anesthetic on his brain…….
I wish we were neighbors, Judi. We could moan to each other in real life. 😁

@sunnygardens
Virtual moaning will have to do.
My husband's Doc said his hernia did not warrant surgery because it was small. That's a win in my book.

@ocdogmom i’m really sorry you’re losing someone you dearly love.
For you it feels like your not doing enough because you hope what you do will save him. You’re loving him through it all.
May God bless you with peace and joy.