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Selfharm

Posted by Ryman @ryman, Jun 30, 2017

I assume this is the right group. I have never discussed this with anyone but my grandson yells at me about it. When I get very stressed, I sometimes scratch my arms or face. I haven't done any real harm. It is a way to relieve stress when it gets to be too much. I cannot tolerate anxiety or depression medicines which I assume would be a doctor's answer. Does anyone else deal with this?

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Parus | @parus | Jul 15, 2017

This is how I let myself know how deep my emotional scars are and would not ever again say anything to another professional as this is NOT parasuicidal behavior. Some of us just do what we can...no different than a tattoo or a body piercing...how I see thus...

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Jim, Volunteer Mentor | @jimhd | Jul 15, 2017
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@parus

This is how I let myself know how deep my emotional scars are and would not ever again say anything to another professional as this is NOT parasuicidal behavior. Some of us just do what we can...no different than a tattoo or a body piercing...how I see thus...

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@parus Have you ever talked with anyone about those emotional scars?

Jim

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Lisa Lucier, Moderator | @lisalucier | Jul 18, 2017
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@parus

This is how I let myself know how deep my emotional scars are and would not ever again say anything to another professional as this is NOT parasuicidal behavior. Some of us just do what we can...no different than a tattoo or a body piercing...how I see thus...

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Hi, @parus. I add my welcome to the welcome messages you've received here and in other discussions on Connect. We look forward to getting to know more about you. You mention treatment-resistant depression and PTSD, as well as emotional scars. It sounds like self-harm is or was your way of coping. I agree that self-harm is not parasuicidal, but it is an unhealthy way to cope with emotional pain, intense anger and frustration. You've also shared that it is hard to talk and to trust anyone. We hope that here on Connect you will feel comfortable telling us more about yourself. We do not judge. Perhaps sharing your emotional pain with us online will help.

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Parus | @parus | Jul 29, 2017

Self help books are a trigger for me. Talk to my doctor? Not an option at all.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 29, 2017
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@parus

Self help books are a trigger for me. Talk to my doctor? Not an option at all.

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Hello @parus

Could you tell us a little more about how self-help books are a trigger?

Teresa

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Parus | @parus | Jul 30, 2017

@hopeful33250 Not meaning to be disrespectful, but from where I sit the answer is a no-brainer.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jul 30, 2017
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@parus

@hopeful33250 Not meaning to be disrespectful, but from where I sit the answer is a no-brainer.

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@parus I didn't pick up any disrespect - just the facts!

Teresa

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brdl | @rlinstrot | Jul 30, 2017

@parus - I am new, do you mean that self help books are a trigger because they tell you what you "should" be doing and then cause you to start scratching?

Elect
Uh

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Parus | @parus | Jul 30, 2017

@rlinstrot Welcome and the answer to your question is, "no". I do not find them helpful. Not scratching.

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Lisa Lucier, Moderator | @lisalucier | Nov 16, 2017
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@georgette12

Hi teresa...thanks so much for not forgetting me. That actually means a lot. It may seem strange...all the cyberspace stuff, but for those of us who are isolated it is helpful. Inam struggling quite a bit. I am going over all my son's texts from the last several months before he killed himself and where he explained his plans. I think i am just trying to find answers where there are none.. I am working up to even calling his psychistrist who i saw at his funeral. More later.

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Hi, @georgette12 --just wanted to let you know we are thinking of you and wondering how you are doing these days?

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