What could doctors do better for people with epilepsy?

First, let me wish you all a 2026 abundant in good health, well-being, resilience when needed, joy, peace and much love.
After reading many posts at the end of 2025 and into this new year, this question has been on my mind. I believe we all have valuable experiences to share on this topic.
For me, one of the things doctors could do more is provide truly individualized care. For many years, I was treated according to a standard protocol for temporal lobe epilepsy, without enough consideration for my individual responses and constitutional type. Finding a doctor who sees each patient as truly unique changed everything for me.
What has your experience been? What do you wish your doctors did more of, or differently? I'd love to hear your perspectives.

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Epilepsy & Seizures Support Group.

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Hi @laura1961 - your replies are going to exactly the right place and are part of this discussion with other Mayo Clinic Connect members in the Epilepsy & Seizures support group:

- What could doctors do better for people with epilepsy? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/what-could-doctors-do-better-for-people-with-epilepsy/?

What you're describing about medication changes are really tough decisions for a lay person to have to make on their own with no medical training. I do hope your new specialist can provide some guidance. I do not have epilepsy or a seizure disorder personally, but with other medical conditions, I've also found my local pharmacists very helpful at times with tips on when or how to take medications, dealing with side effects or suggesting other medications about which I might ask my doctor.

Are seizures one of the major symptoms you've had since your traumatic brain injury ( TBI)? How frequently do you have them?

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@lisalucier Hi Lisa good to know I am using this site the right way after a few days of messaging a few different people regarding issues on seizures. How did you end up in the Epilepsy & seizure support group if you don't have either? Was it through your work at Mayo Clinic? The seizures are the only thing I was left with after the TBI 20 years ago after the DV assault. I have struggled with osteoporosis since I was 30 and only went on medication for 1 year after researching their s/effects too. I am glad I did because I hate to think about what would have happened 30 years later as I am now 64, if I would have followed what the Drs wanted me to do. The medications only work for so many years and then they start doing the opposite & you have to start on different drugs. I have been trying to start a program since 2016 ( which I only started the end of 2025). It is now all over the world, the ONERO program which was started here in Brisbane Australia where I live. I have not been able to drive since 2012 when I refused the seizure meds. I have also been trying to looking after my mother & father who were both unwell so things have been very difficult to organise in my life. My mother was damaged internally after a Dr removed her gallbladder & left her in pain 24/7 for nearly 2 yrs until she had a stroke. She is now in a home after a stroke nearly 3yrs ago which luckily stopped the pain but left her with Alzheimer's & the start of Dementia. My father had Macular Degeneration & Dementia, he passed away in 2016. I have been trying to focus on my own health the last few years especially with these new Drop seizures. I have not done much research into these new drugs yet.

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@lisalucier Hi Lisa good to know I am using this site the right way after a few days of messaging a few different people regarding issues on seizures. How did you end up in the Epilepsy & seizure support group if you don't have either? Was it through your work at Mayo Clinic? The seizures are the only thing I was left with after the TBI 20 years ago after the DV assault. I have struggled with osteoporosis since I was 30 and only went on medication for 1 year after researching their s/effects too. I am glad I did because I hate to think about what would have happened 30 years later as I am now 64, if I would have followed what the Drs wanted me to do. The medications only work for so many years and then they start doing the opposite & you have to start on different drugs. I have been trying to start a program since 2016 ( which I only started the end of 2025). It is now all over the world, the ONERO program which was started here in Brisbane Australia where I live. I have not been able to drive since 2012 when I refused the seizure meds. I have also been trying to looking after my mother & father who were both unwell so things have been very difficult to organise in my life. My mother was damaged internally after a Dr removed her gallbladder & left her in pain 24/7 for nearly 2 yrs until she had a stroke. She is now in a home after a stroke nearly 3yrs ago which luckily stopped the pain but left her with Alzheimer's & the start of Dementia. My father had Macular Degeneration & Dementia, he passed away in 2016. I have been trying to focus on my own health the last few years especially with these new Drop seizures. I have not done much research into these new drugs yet.

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@laura1961 - I am following the Epilepsy & Seizures support group because I am the moderator for this group and work at Mayo Clinic. As you've hopefully begun to see, this is a great support group where members really try to support each other with epilepsy and treatment information from their experiences, and they also provide great emotional support to one another.

It sounds as though you've had a number of really rough experiences. I can't imagine the pain and fright of being a victim of domestic violence, and I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm also sorry that the DV led to a traumatic brain injury, which then triggered seizures. That is quite a progression.

Since you mentioned that you have a TBI and osteoporosis, I wanted to suggest you might check out and follow these Mayo Clinic Connect support groups:

- Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) Support Group https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/traumatic-brain-injury-tbi/

- Osteoporosis & Bone Health Support Group https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/osteoporosis/

It sounds as though you've been very kind and diligent in looking after your mother and father during their illnesses. Given what you said about your mother's medical history, these are some other groups on Mayo Clinic Connect you may want to check out and follow:

- Stroke & Cerebrovascular Diseases Support Group https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/cerebrovascular-diseases/

- Caregivers: Dementia Support Group https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/caregivers-dementia/

You might also take a look at these discussions, as the topics seems to mirror something of what your mom experienced around her gallbladder removal surgery:

- Severe pain continues after gall bladder removal ! https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/severe-pain-continues-after-gall-bladder-removal/

- Severe abdominal pain pain for 8 years after gallbladder removal https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/severe-abdominal-pain-pain-for-8-years-after-gallbladder-removal/

- Pain since prior to gallbladder surgery https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/pain-since-prior-to-gallbladder-surgery/

I'm also sorry to hear you cannot drive. You said you have not done much research into new drugs yet. I believe you are referring to new drugs that might treat drop seizures? And I believe you are saying that at this point, you continue to not take anti-seizure medication? Are you considering the possibility of doing so at this point?

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@jakedduck1
Hi Jake,
I agree with you—SUDEP and Status Epilepticus are conditions doctors should discuss more openly with patients. I've learned about both conditions through my own research during my first year of treatment.
There are ways to present this information without causing undue anxiety. Withholding information doesn't protect anyone—it just avoids difficult conversations that doctors should be having.
I'm curious to know what other members' experiences have been in this respect. Were you informed about these conditions by your doctors, or did you discover them on your own?
Chris

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@santosha
I believe the first time I was told about Status Epilepticus was by my parents after I came home from an 8 month long induced coma to control the condition.
The first time I heard about S.U.D.E.P. was on epilepsy society, a British epilepsy forum when someone died of the condition.
Take care,
Jake

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Thank you for starting this conversation. I had a doctor who wouldn't listen to my questions. He would patronize me when I asked about the the possible causes of my seizures and he got angry when I brought up the topic of trying to get off of medication. I wish that doctor would have had discussions with me to help me understand my condition and my options. I did change doctors and found one who does discuss things with me. When asked about figuring out the cause and treating that, he at least explained that, because my condition is mild, that he can't expend the time to do that. There are people with far worse conditions and he needs to focus on those. Trying to improve their quality of life is a higher priority. Even those it wasn't the answer I hoped for, I appreciated his candor. Each doctor is different. I hope to find one with the time to delve deeper into the cause of my epilepsy.

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Hi @hopefullibrarian
I had a similar experience with my first doctor, the one who diagnosed my epilepsy in 2019. I'm so glad you've found a doctor who takes time to discuss your questions, worries, and fears, and who focuses on quality of life for his/her patients! I'm happy for you!
I believe that even if your condition is mild compared to others, you have the right to explore the possible causes of your epilepsy with your doctor. My first doctor also avoided this conversation, always redirecting me to just focus on treatment.
Later in my journey, I found a doctor who's a respected researcher and scholar in epilepsy. Through her, I learned what caused mine. For me, knowing the cause was valuable—it helped me understand my condition better. But as @jakedduck1 mentioned, finding a cause isn't always possible.
I hope your doctor will have time to explore this with you in future appointments!
I'm curious to hear from others in this discussion—did your doctors discuss the cause of your epilepsy when you brought it up? How important was that to you?
Chris

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@lisalucier Hi Lisa good to know I am using this site the right way after a few days of messaging a few different people regarding issues on seizures. How did you end up in the Epilepsy & seizure support group if you don't have either? Was it through your work at Mayo Clinic? The seizures are the only thing I was left with after the TBI 20 years ago after the DV assault. I have struggled with osteoporosis since I was 30 and only went on medication for 1 year after researching their s/effects too. I am glad I did because I hate to think about what would have happened 30 years later as I am now 64, if I would have followed what the Drs wanted me to do. The medications only work for so many years and then they start doing the opposite & you have to start on different drugs. I have been trying to start a program since 2016 ( which I only started the end of 2025). It is now all over the world, the ONERO program which was started here in Brisbane Australia where I live. I have not been able to drive since 2012 when I refused the seizure meds. I have also been trying to looking after my mother & father who were both unwell so things have been very difficult to organise in my life. My mother was damaged internally after a Dr removed her gallbladder & left her in pain 24/7 for nearly 2 yrs until she had a stroke. She is now in a home after a stroke nearly 3yrs ago which luckily stopped the pain but left her with Alzheimer's & the start of Dementia. My father had Macular Degeneration & Dementia, he passed away in 2016. I have been trying to focus on my own health the last few years especially with these new Drop seizures. I have not done much research into these new drugs yet.

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@laura1961
Hi Laura,
I can see you've been through far more challenging situations than I could have imagined. I'm so sorry you've experienced all of this. As my neuropsychologist once told me, we can't change the past, though we can learn from it. I try to focus on living in the present—something yoga has really helped me with.
I see @lisalucier has already addressed your questions in this discussion. While we're all learning about epilepsy and supporting each other here, we're not doctors and don't have their specialized knowledge. I'd encourage you to find an epilepsy specialist who can give you the comprehensive care you need. It took me a while to find the right doctor for my epilepsy, but the effort was definitely worthwhile.
Have you had a chance to work with a psychologist or neuropsychologist during these challenging times?
Please don't hesitate to reach out with any questions!
Chris

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actually had two doctors and one that his bedside manner for helping patients was viewed by upper management as too aggressive and caring for his patients. They let him go and a lot of letter were written to MJH but he was still given his walking papers. what a loss. he explained in laymen's terms so you could understand what you were up against. he truly cared for each patient like they were family. the only thing i could change would have been that they kept both doctors, they were that busy. he was truly gifted he didn't give up and looked at every x-ray didn't skip or miss anything dr Griamaldy some hospital will be fortunate to have him and their patients. I would say look at every scan, no skipping not even one. talk to the patient like family.

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@santosha
I believe the first time I was told about Status Epilepticus was by my parents after I came home from an 8 month long induced coma to control the condition.
The first time I heard about S.U.D.E.P. was on epilepsy society, a British epilepsy forum when someone died of the condition.
Take care,
Jake

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@jakedduck1 No I did not know much about it either until many years later doing some research of my own.

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actually had two doctors and one that his bedside manner for helping patients was viewed by upper management as too aggressive and caring for his patients. They let him go and a lot of letter were written to MJH but he was still given his walking papers. what a loss. he explained in laymen's terms so you could understand what you were up against. he truly cared for each patient like they were family. the only thing i could change would have been that they kept both doctors, they were that busy. he was truly gifted he didn't give up and looked at every x-ray didn't skip or miss anything dr Griamaldy some hospital will be fortunate to have him and their patients. I would say look at every scan, no skipping not even one. talk to the patient like family.

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@randallshields56 Not quite sure what you are saying here? The Dr was good but they let him go?

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@randallshields56 Not quite sure what you are saying here? The Dr was good but they let him go?

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@laura1961 Truth is upper echelon had to many complaints about his beside manner and attitude. He let his patients know what they were up against and fought for the underdogs. I'm sure there was probably another reason he was let go, but he cared and gave his all, cut backs or whatever they should have figured out a way of keeping him. they lost a good doctor, his waiting room was always booked and now hardly any patients last visit to their office for neurology .its like his replacement , i like him but also wonder why they cut there team by loosing a great doctor.

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actually had two doctors and one that his bedside manner for helping patients was viewed by upper management as too aggressive and caring for his patients. They let him go and a lot of letter were written to MJH but he was still given his walking papers. what a loss. he explained in laymen's terms so you could understand what you were up against. he truly cared for each patient like they were family. the only thing i could change would have been that they kept both doctors, they were that busy. he was truly gifted he didn't give up and looked at every x-ray didn't skip or miss anything dr Griamaldy some hospital will be fortunate to have him and their patients. I would say look at every scan, no skipping not even one. talk to the patient like family.

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Thanks for the helpful.

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