Help! My husband refuses to shower. It’s been 2 weeks now.

We r at this point also. My husband will go a week with no showering. I have to bribe him too. You cant go to grandkids game u less u shower. Or a program or whatever is up on the calendar. It is really a struggle. He thinks he can just put body spray on.

On second thought, Celia, would you PM me the name of the residence. One never knows where this road will take them.
I don’t really know how the PM works so let me know if I have to do anything to set it up on my end. Thanks again for your help.
Fondly,
Cheryl

Where in NC is this memory care unit. I am considering one for my husband in Greensboro. Thank you.
Right now I am paying a home health aid who comes once a week. My husband puts up a fuss but she goes right ahead...and he thanks her when she is done.

I sent the PM. You should receive a notification to open it.

It’s in Warrenton, which is near VA border. Greensboro is on the other side of the state. It’s a large, modern city and probably very nice facilities. Some of the rural, low population areas seem to offer quality though basic amenities for lower costs. I suspect that is why they used to have quite a few residents from northern states.

I don’t know anything about the place since my cousin died several years ago. There are also many AL facilities in Raleigh.

Many thanks.

This is a first, wife not bathed in over a week.I've suspected for a couple days my wife has not showered. I asked about it today, she agreed no shower taken in a week. That has never happened in the past. She then asked if it was OK to take one. I of course said yes and I asked if she felt safe taking one, she was OK taking one. Will be added to my list of things to monitor going forward.

@geppetto This does become an issue with more than a few people with memory issues, in fact when doing an assessment on my cousin, on of the first questions the doctor asked her - and her sister who had recently traveled with her had to remind her that in 9 days, she only showered once - when prompted. Often, the same thing applies,to other hygiene issues such as tooth brushing.

Sometimes the loved one has forgotten the necessary steps in showering, in some cases there comes to be a fear of water, or I can be that it feels like it takes too much energy...

You are correct, as the days/weeks/months pass, more and more reminders might be required. My Mom was wary of showering after a bad fall (no MCI) but a promise of being nearby, a shower bench for security, and a promise of rubbing soothing lotion on her frail skin made her readily willing.

my husband will not shower unless i tell him to ... He was always aware he needed to shower, but the last few months does not think about it i have to tell him to shower

My Two Cents on Showering: Please be super careful when your loved ones wanna attempt to shower. Install grab bars they can readily see / reach. Make sure shower mats don't slide. Put a shower chair in the there. Be with them every step of the way until they're safely out of the bathroom. Wet floors are slippery, floor mats should be secure and visible to them. Have towels and other needed items within E-Z reach. Prescreen their status before letting them begin... not tired, alert, understanding, not rushed, etc, etc, etc.

Bathrooms are DANGEROUS places! Very susceptible to serious falls. Do all that you can to ensure that doesn't happen.

All the best!

/LarryG