I was in a relationship for 1 year 5 months after a year he cheated on me , and this I found out he lied to me too ,,, he wanted a chance I forgave him and gave him another chance but now he feels very guilty , He feels he is a bad person and suffering for what he has done wrong to me he says he doesn't need to live anymore he feels very guilty he thinks he doesn't deserve me or I deserve someone better than him he says distance me from him Should be maintained but I can't leave him because I love him so much and there is no way to convince him because his mistake was so horrible that it is killing me too. What should be done now?
I’m in a nursing home with severe neuropathy unable to walk anymore and have no family and some times cry all night from pain and loneliness. I sometimes wonder if I’m beyond help or if I can just find someone to talk to. I wonder if anyone else has it progressing over 40 years.
I'd tried this service here but I'd think there are similar services in the US and possibly even more so and for diverse needs. https://www.nicenet.ca/
I know neuropathy can be quite bad, isn't your info/help desk able to give some directions?
Doesn't some relaxation starting with deep breathing often has helped me to get thru my tooth pain. But that was a one off pain. No luck with Mayo Pain sites? Maybe start one? I'm sorry for your pain and hope you get thru it peacefully.
Hi. Where are you from in the south? I just moved two weeks ago to North Carolina. It will be difficult to make new friends. It never was easy for me and the older I get the harder it is. My neighbor came over yesterday and brought me cookies. She seems like she may be the neighborhood gossip, I dare say. She asked too many questions and wanted to know where I would be going to church, if I had a church, etc. I come from Midwest and that is too personal to me. Is that normal?
We moved from California to NC 5 years ago. Are you living in a rural area or urban? Makes a difference in community resources. Love all of the green and variety of birds...in fact watching the birds is such a mood lifter for me. We are really enjoying this new culture.
I feel I don’t really have a sense of worth anymore. No one really needs me. When one feels not needed and forgotten, loneliness and sadness seems to follow. My kids have their own lives now and I don’t see them much. Friends are more like acquaintances these days, as I only really see them in work or business settings. I get up everyday to go to work and pay my bills, but there is not much joy in my life anymore. At 53 years old I know the best days are gone. I really try my best to not feel down, but it’s a losing battle most times. I know there’s a lot of people that feel this way. I would love to hear how others deal with it.
I feel I don’t really have a sense of worth anymore. No one really needs me. When one feels not needed and forgotten, loneliness and sadness seems to follow. My kids have their own lives now and I don’t see them much. Friends are more like acquaintances these days, as I only really see them in work or business settings. I get up everyday to go to work and pay my bills, but there is not much joy in my life anymore. At 53 years old I know the best days are gone. I really try my best to not feel down, but it’s a losing battle most times. I know there’s a lot of people that feel this way. I would love to hear how others deal with it.
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I feel I don’t really have a sense of worth anymore. No one really needs me. When one feels not needed and forgotten, loneliness and sadness seems to follow. My kids have their own lives now and I don’t see them much. Friends are more like acquaintances these days, as I only really see them in work or business settings. I get up everyday to go to work and pay my bills, but there is not much joy in my life anymore. At 53 years old I know the best days are gone. I really try my best to not feel down, but it’s a losing battle most times. I know there’s a lot of people that feel this way. I would love to hear how others deal with it.
When I was working, I got most of my sense of worth from my job, once i retired I felt like you did.
I volunteer every week and always feel like I make a difference at end of shift. If not able to make a commitment to ongoing volunteering, look for one time events that are looking for for volunteers, Example, helping at water station at a marathon. You might meet new people and gets you out of the house.
Do you have time in your schedule to do some volunteer work? Even one night a week or weekends?
I feel I don’t really have a sense of worth anymore. No one really needs me. When one feels not needed and forgotten, loneliness and sadness seems to follow. My kids have their own lives now and I don’t see them much. Friends are more like acquaintances these days, as I only really see them in work or business settings. I get up everyday to go to work and pay my bills, but there is not much joy in my life anymore. At 53 years old I know the best days are gone. I really try my best to not feel down, but it’s a losing battle most times. I know there’s a lot of people that feel this way. I would love to hear how others deal with it.
Know this. The fact you are getting a response from all of us out here in the virtual world means you matter!!! Obviously, there’s so much that could be the reason for felling this irrational feeling. You are an in explicable miracle! Fifty-three ain’t nothing sweetheart! I’m sixty-four and dying of cancer. I have a good cry sometime, but I’m still place my favorite music loud, dance alone, yell out and the ironies, and absurdities of life, and laugh at the ridiculousness of this wonderful existence! Yiu have family, you have your work, and options! Go out die and cut your hair blonde, buy some funky clothes and plan a trip to Copenhagen — there you will see how the world embraces you! If you can’t afford to do anything that excites you —then you are not in need of company, you need to” make life happen”! You are so lucky and you won’t allow yourself to appreciate your miraculous existence. And, shame on your family for not embraces big young fifty-three year old self! No one is guaranteed happiness, but you can start by making an inventory of how good you have it an do something about it. If you aren’t stirred by my advice to let be life with passion, then you need professional help. But, I believe in you. Stop the stinking thinking. You must first love yourself and other will be drawn to you. Now go out and live. Carpe diem!
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7 ReactionsI'd tried this service here but I'd think there are similar services in the US and possibly even more so and for diverse needs. https://www.nicenet.ca/
I know neuropathy can be quite bad, isn't your info/help desk able to give some directions?
Doesn't some relaxation starting with deep breathing often has helped me to get thru my tooth pain. But that was a one off pain. No luck with Mayo Pain sites? Maybe start one? I'm sorry for your pain and hope you get thru it peacefully.
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1 ReactionT was going thru another site that is connected to your situation
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/member-neuoropathy-journey-stories-whats-yours/?pg=54
Also John Volunteer there had some useful info:
John, Volunteer Mentor | @johnbishop | Apr 29, 2021
In reply to @silverapple "The emotional response is a process, I think. When finally understand it, it cames the fact:..." + (show)
@silverapple, You might enjoy and find the following discussions helpful...
- Music Helps Me: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/music-helps-me/
- Art for Healing: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/art-for-healing/
- How do you identify trustworthy health information?: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/how-do-you-identify-trustworthy-health-information/
I hope i'm not duplicating what u already know. May you get he relief u r looking for!
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3 ReactionsWe moved from California to NC 5 years ago. Are you living in a rural area or urban? Makes a difference in community resources. Love all of the green and variety of birds...in fact watching the birds is such a mood lifter for me. We are really enjoying this new culture.
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1 ReactionI feel I don’t really have a sense of worth anymore. No one really needs me. When one feels not needed and forgotten, loneliness and sadness seems to follow. My kids have their own lives now and I don’t see them much. Friends are more like acquaintances these days, as I only really see them in work or business settings. I get up everyday to go to work and pay my bills, but there is not much joy in my life anymore. At 53 years old I know the best days are gone. I really try my best to not feel down, but it’s a losing battle most times. I know there’s a lot of people that feel this way. I would love to hear how others deal with it.
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4 ReactionsNot here. Meaning get real professiional counsaling. There is help, real help for you. You are not alone. Best wishes too you...
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1 ReactionI would really like to chat with you. Please contact by me.
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When I was working, I got most of my sense of worth from my job, once i retired I felt like you did.
I volunteer every week and always feel like I make a difference at end of shift. If not able to make a commitment to ongoing volunteering, look for one time events that are looking for for volunteers, Example, helping at water station at a marathon. You might meet new people and gets you out of the house.
Do you have time in your schedule to do some volunteer work? Even one night a week or weekends?
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5 ReactionsKnow this. The fact you are getting a response from all of us out here in the virtual world means you matter!!! Obviously, there’s so much that could be the reason for felling this irrational feeling. You are an in explicable miracle! Fifty-three ain’t nothing sweetheart! I’m sixty-four and dying of cancer. I have a good cry sometime, but I’m still place my favorite music loud, dance alone, yell out and the ironies, and absurdities of life, and laugh at the ridiculousness of this wonderful existence! Yiu have family, you have your work, and options! Go out die and cut your hair blonde, buy some funky clothes and plan a trip to Copenhagen — there you will see how the world embraces you! If you can’t afford to do anything that excites you —then you are not in need of company, you need to” make life happen”! You are so lucky and you won’t allow yourself to appreciate your miraculous existence. And, shame on your family for not embraces big young fifty-three year old self! No one is guaranteed happiness, but you can start by making an inventory of how good you have it an do something about it. If you aren’t stirred by my advice to let be life with passion, then you need professional help. But, I believe in you. Stop the stinking thinking. You must first love yourself and other will be drawn to you. Now go out and live. Carpe diem!
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