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"WHY BOTHER?" What can we do when we are stuck?

Posted by @parus, Sat, Feb 9 7:02am

This has been brought up before in things that help. Now maybe some can share how we get out of a rut to help ourselves. We all get stuck stuck at times. Curious as to what others do when stuck in that thought mode of "Why Bother?"

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Thanks for this great topic, @parus. I would like to invite some others to this discussion, @gailb, @georgette12, @brit, @lioness, @becsbuddy, @gingerw, @sirgalahad, @julie1976, @pigletpmd

I'm looking forward to hearing what others have to say. What do you do when you are in the "Why Bother" attitude?

@hopeful33250

Thanks for this great topic, @parus. I would like to invite some others to this discussion, @gailb, @georgette12, @brit, @lioness, @becsbuddy, @gingerw, @sirgalahad, @julie1976, @pigletpmd

I'm looking forward to hearing what others have to say. What do you do when you are in the "Why Bother" attitude?

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Sometimes I feel like why bother, especially after constant medical problems one after another. Sometimes it feels so hard to keep fighting and life can just wear you down. I do ask myself why bother and my answer is because I am worth it. I still have goals I want to achieve, joys I want to experience, family and friends I want to spend time with. So I keep pushing forward finding joy in everyday life. I've struggled with depression, suicidal thoughts and lost everything I cared about so I've been literally at the bottom. I have worked hard to rebuild my life and continue to strive for building a life worth living. Remember you are worth it, you matter

@suscros68– What a wonderful response to this question. You hit it right on the top of the nail!

@parus– Why bother? Such a great question. I bother because I want to make a difference in this world and I think that I have and can still continue to. I want to help take care of it, feed the birds and see you my son and daughter, be with my family and and friends. I want to visit more countries and see as much as I can see. Bothering is caring, we know this but bothering at all is a way out of our individual traps. I have to get angry at myself, or my husband does. Then I start to move and get going instead of not doing anything and making things worse for myself. As you have stated we have to take action and not just wait for a miracle.

@hopeful33250

Thanks for this great topic, @parus. I would like to invite some others to this discussion, @gailb, @georgette12, @brit, @lioness, @becsbuddy, @gingerw, @sirgalahad, @julie1976, @pigletpmd

I'm looking forward to hearing what others have to say. What do you do when you are in the "Why Bother" attitude?

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@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we all have problems but mine is a little different . I'm 76 throughout the last 20 years I,ve lost my husband, Mother , brother and the only one I have left is my son ,D I L , and grandson who is the light of my life now. Besides all the health problems I am now embarking on balance problems The Dr is sending me to see a Dr who will test me for Tympanometry ,Reflex Thresh a comprehensive audiometry threshold Evaluation and speech recognition. What the heck is this? Two things I don't know if I can handle is lack of eye sight or hearing . This is my day now . And I feel lost this it scares me . If it is bad news the I will ask myself why bother ?

@suscros68

Sometimes I feel like why bother, especially after constant medical problems one after another. Sometimes it feels so hard to keep fighting and life can just wear you down. I do ask myself why bother and my answer is because I am worth it. I still have goals I want to achieve, joys I want to experience, family and friends I want to spend time with. So I keep pushing forward finding joy in everyday life. I've struggled with depression, suicidal thoughts and lost everything I cared about so I've been literally at the bottom. I have worked hard to rebuild my life and continue to strive for building a life worth living. Remember you are worth it, you matter

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@suscros68– No one would wish what you have been through on their worst enemy yet it seems like what you have gained by losing so much has given you the strength to rise above your burdens. Thank you for sharing your story with us! Kept striving because you and all of us are worth it! Jim @thankful

@lioness

@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we all have problems but mine is a little different . I'm 76 throughout the last 20 years I,ve lost my husband, Mother , brother and the only one I have left is my son ,D I L , and grandson who is the light of my life now. Besides all the health problems I am now embarking on balance problems The Dr is sending me to see a Dr who will test me for Tympanometry ,Reflex Thresh a comprehensive audiometry threshold Evaluation and speech recognition. What the heck is this? Two things I don't know if I can handle is lack of eye sight or hearing . This is my day now . And I feel lost this it scares me . If it is bad news the I will ask myself why bother ?

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@lioness– Your Mayo friends are here and listening to you. We pray that your news is better than you think. You matter!
Jim @thankful

@lioness

@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we all have problems but mine is a little different . I'm 76 throughout the last 20 years I,ve lost my husband, Mother , brother and the only one I have left is my son ,D I L , and grandson who is the light of my life now. Besides all the health problems I am now embarking on balance problems The Dr is sending me to see a Dr who will test me for Tympanometry ,Reflex Thresh a comprehensive audiometry threshold Evaluation and speech recognition. What the heck is this? Two things I don't know if I can handle is lack of eye sight or hearing . This is my day now . And I feel lost this it scares me . If it is bad news the I will ask myself why bother ?

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@lioness Please keep us posted. You have been here for many of us with encouragement. Your fears are real. The waiting is the hardest part. You have weathered so much already.

@thankful

@lioness– Your Mayo friends are here and listening to you. We pray that your news is better than you think. You matter!
Jim @thankful

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@thankful Thanks I feel like this is a family of friends here . I researched it and found out its not just a hearing teat but inner ear test . After seeing what the Dr. will do I feel better it is the unknown that scares me. I feel better prepared .

@merpreb

@parus– Why bother? Such a great question. I bother because I want to make a difference in this world and I think that I have and can still continue to. I want to help take care of it, feed the birds and see you my son and daughter, be with my family and and friends. I want to visit more countries and see as much as I can see. Bothering is caring, we know this but bothering at all is a way out of our individual traps. I have to get angry at myself, or my husband does. Then I start to move and get going instead of not doing anything and making things worse for myself. As you have stated we have to take action and not just wait for a miracle.

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@merpreb WOW! Bothering is caring. Again WOW! I may post this on the bulletin board where I live if you don’t mind. This is the key in a nutshell.

@parus

@lioness Please keep us posted. You have been here for many of us with encouragement. Your fears are real. The waiting is the hardest part. You have weathered so much already.

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@parus Thanks I will keep you all posted . It is the unknown that is scary. I did some research on u tube and feel a little better but still unnerving .

@parus Why bother? Because I am more than my problems. Because I am stronger than my problems, better than those issues. Better than the disorders and diseases that wrack my body and mess with my mind. Because I am a survivor. Because I am a victor. And because I have a mission to make a difference not only in someone else's life, but in my own and prove that I am worth it all. No matter the cost, no matter the price to be paid. Because I am a fighter and will not go down without a battle.
Ginger

@lioness

@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we all have problems but mine is a little different . I'm 76 throughout the last 20 years I,ve lost my husband, Mother , brother and the only one I have left is my son ,D I L , and grandson who is the light of my life now. Besides all the health problems I am now embarking on balance problems The Dr is sending me to see a Dr who will test me for Tympanometry ,Reflex Thresh a comprehensive audiometry threshold Evaluation and speech recognition. What the heck is this? Two things I don't know if I can handle is lack of eye sight or hearing . This is my day now . And I feel lost this it scares me . If it is bad news the I will ask myself why bother ?

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@lioness, Know that your Connect family is behind you. My prayers will go with you.
Do you have a date scheduled for your testing appointments?

@gingerw

@parus Why bother? Because I am more than my problems. Because I am stronger than my problems, better than those issues. Better than the disorders and diseases that wrack my body and mess with my mind. Because I am a survivor. Because I am a victor. And because I have a mission to make a difference not only in someone else's life, but in my own and prove that I am worth it all. No matter the cost, no matter the price to be paid. Because I am a fighter and will not go down without a battle.
Ginger

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So well said, @gingerw. We are more than our problems and we are also more than our feelings. Yeah Connect Team for words of wisdom that can stand the test of time!

@gingerw

@parus Why bother? Because I am more than my problems. Because I am stronger than my problems, better than those issues. Better than the disorders and diseases that wrack my body and mess with my mind. Because I am a survivor. Because I am a victor. And because I have a mission to make a difference not only in someone else's life, but in my own and prove that I am worth it all. No matter the cost, no matter the price to be paid. Because I am a fighter and will not go down without a battle.
Ginger

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@gingerw Bravo we should all feel this way

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