It really is important for you to get some quality counseling. You need to find some access to counseling services. Check with your local Easter Seals to see if they offer counseling services. Often, the fee is much lower. Also, you might consider connecting with a church to see what counseling they can provide.
You will need support in order to turn off: "so many things that my mind that keep playing over and over again."
@hopeful33250 yes absolutely.. I had to leave with nothing. It was my only way out and he has locked me out of all of our bank accounts. He moved all our money. He had been doing it for months. I’m 66 years old and I’m on Social Security. I am having to start my life over at 66 years old. I just can’t afford it at this time.. I’ve been searching for support groups and I’ve been involved there. But I think I need more. I’m still in disbelief that I allowed it to happen. I’m in disbelief that he wasn’t the man that I thought he was. There’s just so many things that my mind just keeps playing over and over and over and my health is declining. I have been to my doctors. They are all aware of it. I know I can get through it. I just have to find a way.
@sheila1960 Do you have access to YouTube? If so, please look up Dr. Ramani. I understand not having money and I applaud you for your strength and resilience in dealing with the abuse of a narcissist. I found Dr. Ramani several years ago. My father was diagnosed with narcissitic personality disorder and after I got sober 8 years ago, I found myself in a relationship (not sexual) with a person who turned out to be narcissistic. This person blew my world apart as they were also in recovery and I was desperate to remain sober. Dr. Ramani's videos helped me understand not only narcissism but also how to deal with what remained of me. I hope this helps. Hang in there. You have taken a huge step and I applaud your strength.
@sheila1960 Do you have access to YouTube? If so, please look up Dr. Ramani. I understand not having money and I applaud you for your strength and resilience in dealing with the abuse of a narcissist. I found Dr. Ramani several years ago. My father was diagnosed with narcissitic personality disorder and after I got sober 8 years ago, I found myself in a relationship (not sexual) with a person who turned out to be narcissistic. This person blew my world apart as they were also in recovery and I was desperate to remain sober. Dr. Ramani's videos helped me understand not only narcissism but also how to deal with what remained of me. I hope this helps. Hang in there. You have taken a huge step and I applaud your strength.
@diverdown1 I do have access to YouTube and I will look her up. I have set up counseling. I have put a restraining order on him. I’m his second wife so now both wives have put a restraining order on him. I’m trying to prepare myself for how he’s going to proceed during the divorce. I am praying that the judges will see through his lives and deception and evil do judges, even consider narcissist abuse. I don’t know I’ve never been through this.
She talks about lawyers and court in a video. Be sure and let your lawyer know you believe he is a narcissist. I applaud you for doing all this. I know it is brutal. I watched my mom go through it. Hang in there. Let me know if I can help.
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3 Reactions@sheila1960 Do you have access to YouTube? If so, please look up Dr. Ramani. I understand not having money and I applaud you for your strength and resilience in dealing with the abuse of a narcissist. I found Dr. Ramani several years ago. My father was diagnosed with narcissitic personality disorder and after I got sober 8 years ago, I found myself in a relationship (not sexual) with a person who turned out to be narcissistic. This person blew my world apart as they were also in recovery and I was desperate to remain sober. Dr. Ramani's videos helped me understand not only narcissism but also how to deal with what remained of me. I hope this helps. Hang in there. You have taken a huge step and I applaud your strength.
@diverdown1 I do have access to YouTube and I will look her up. I have set up counseling. I have put a restraining order on him. I’m his second wife so now both wives have put a restraining order on him. I’m trying to prepare myself for how he’s going to proceed during the divorce. I am praying that the judges will see through his lives and deception and evil do judges, even consider narcissist abuse. I don’t know I’ve never been through this.
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1 ReactionShe talks about lawyers and court in a video. Be sure and let your lawyer know you believe he is a narcissist. I applaud you for doing all this. I know it is brutal. I watched my mom go through it. Hang in there. Let me know if I can help.
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