The Journey of Grieving

Posted by liz223 @liz223, Nov 22, 2018

Traveling the road of grief is never easy. I lost my husband of 62 years 10/6/18. This is my first Thanksgiving without him. I’m fortunate that I have moved into a retirement community and will be able to eat with new friends in our beautiful dining room. I have a lot to be thankful for today even though I miss him and will love him forever. God gives me strength each moment to take the next step. I will be here to discuss my daily journey. If you are grieving for a loss in your life, please join me. Thank you.

I lost my husband of 48 years Nov. 15, 2016! Almost 3 years ago. Everyone says, 'Move On'. I am STUCK!!!!!!

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@73years…People say move on because your grief reminds them that they will have to face the same thing someday. And it bugs them big time. This may sound weird, but…I've become of fan of wallowing in grief, but setting a time limit. And then getting up and doing something productive. It's probably easier since the loss happened over ten years ago, but…just my two cents. I am really sad to hear that your husband is gone. That sucks.

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thx. that meant a lot to me. i swear to myself i am not playing victim. but, many days, i do wonder… others days, i just read novels all day, and i am happy. i have 2 great children that help me so much. whatever, i appreciate you. this is my 1st post on mayo connect!

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@73years

thx. that meant a lot to me. i swear to myself i am not playing victim. but, many days, i do wonder… others days, i just read novels all day, and i am happy. i have 2 great children that help me so much. whatever, i appreciate you. this is my 1st post on mayo connect!

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Nope, you are not playing the victim. It's great that the novels work for you! and that you have great kids!

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@abida

Road of grief is a road without a destination it is extremely difficult to travel on it.I lost my eldest son seven years back some days are just too painful and difficult for me to manage I literally have to grit my teeth to focus on even simplest of chores .Every day I drag myself out of bed with a prayer that may God grant me strength to bear this unbearable loss and also that no parent has to go through from we went through

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Hello @abida

It has been a while since you last posted about the loss of your son. I hope you are dealing with this loss. Will you post again?

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@rlealsan

I was thinking about a support group but indecisive. Spoke to the hospital counselor and said I was too emotonal??? Today makes a month already and has been a hard day. Just when I think I'm ok, I crumble. People tell me hes in a better place and pain free…I understand that and am grateful but it doesnt make it better as I miss him, i miss us every minute of the day. So heartbroken.

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I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer 6 months ago , the best thing I have ever done was to join a bereavement group at our local hospice , don't worry about crying , someone always does when we meet , I have received so much support from those people who have become my friends , unless one has lost a spouse it's almost impossible for anyone to relate to how lost and heartbroken we feel .

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