Adults On The Autism Spectrum

Posted by Mamacita, Alumna Mentor @mamacita, Apr 29, 2018

Maybe you were really shy as a child. Perhaps you took home a huge stack of books from the school library, read them, and returned them the next day. Or did your best friend find you crying in your closet, unable to answer the question "Why?" At any rate, your life could be traced to the Self-Help section of the local bookstore. Unfortunately, most of the books were not much help. ADHD seemed to fit, at times. Your shrink said you might be Bi-Polar, although she wasn't really certain. All you knew was that you rarely fit in, anywhere. One day at work, it hit you square in the face: I don't speak these people's language! Really, it was like you were all playing this game, and everyone knew the rules but you. You couldn't tell a joke, and you never "got" any joke your co-worker tried to tell you. People started getting annoyed with you, because you had a memory like a steel trap. They didn't appreciate it when you called them on the carpet. Who knew? This was my life, and worse. I finally aced several tests that pointed me to the answer to my questions. The Autism Spectrum. Guess what? Little kids with Autism grow up to be Adults with Autism. Diagnosed late in life? This is the place for you!

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lioness | @lioness | Jun 5, 2019

@ gingerw We share with you in this move rest don't do all at once take care of yourself

Mamacita, Alumna Mentor | @mamacita | Jun 6, 2019

@ginger, Volunteer Mentor, dear cyber friend and real time sister!!!! It is exciting and a little bit anxiety provoking to think of moving. To have to consciously pick and choose what to tell new people.....

I may not be moving anytime soon, but I understand the hard choices that have to be made. Do I tell them this or that thing about myself? The older I get, the more complicated it seems. I want to be real, authentic, transparent.

But do I have to tell every single person all my dreams, all my fears, all of my faults and failings? I don't think that is really a good choice. Relationships take time to grow and develop.

It's fun and exciting to meet new people.
Yes. Autie Janey just said that. When I respond here and in other groups, I must be careful not to frighten folks away. I do share Sheldon characteristics and he can be emotionally draining. Hilarious as all get out. Very knowledgeable about all his obsessions, which if he were NT, it would be termed passions.

We find our people everywhere we go. Spirit, Father God, our Creator, makes sure of that. He rejoices when we find one another. The important thing, I think, is to relax. Take it easy. Do the salt bath. Light the candles. Watch your crazy movies with your husband. Eat the cake. Buy the shoes. Center yourself. Practice mindfulness. Treat the summer as if you were at the beach. GO to the beach!

Keep your body as healthy as possible and do not allow negativity and anxiety
affect your happiness. There are still plenty of good people left in the world.

Adios, my friends.
Mamacita

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jun 6, 2019

In reply to @mamacita "@Ginger, Volunteer Mentor, dear cyber friend and real time sister!!!! It is exciting and a little..." + (show)

What lovely words of encouragement and instruction, @mamacita. I may practice those instructions myself when I find myself in the midst of change! I know @gingerw will be helped by them.

sirgalahad | @sirgalahad | Jun 10, 2019

guys please send all your loves and cuddles to Mamacita she nedds lots of it she got trolled on fb and is hurting and because of being very unwell recently she has drained herself of caring energies . please send messages to her and cuddles she needs lots of support

sirgalahad | @sirgalahad | Jun 10, 2019

In reply to @hopeful33250 "What lovely words of encouragement and instruction, @mamacita. I may practice those instructions myself when I..." + (show)

folks also send healing energies and cuddles to mamacita dear lady got trolled and attacked because of her views as a caring christain lady regarding the LGBTOIA community and as usual in America the so called judge mental Christian or churched peoples came out and attacked her .I want everyone to send her healing loves cuddles energies and I have been nagging her to rest and look after herself make sure she is called upon in small doses when she feels she can .
Mamacita you can kill me later but I know what Autism burnout is like I have LIVED IT FOR 18 MONTHS and its a serious condition we need lots of cuddles kind words music to restore our empathetic energies when we get drained by vampire energy drainers we crash and get hurted

Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Jun 10, 2019

In reply to @sirgalahad "folks also send healing energies and cuddles to mamacita dear lady got trolled and attacked because..." + (show)

@sirgalahad Thank you for letting us know. @mamacita We are circling the wagons and refuse to let people harm you! Sending you both love and healing energy.
Ginger

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Jun 10, 2019

In reply to @sirgalahad "folks also send healing energies and cuddles to mamacita dear lady got trolled and attacked because..." + (show)

@mamacita,
Sending you all the good wishes you can handle. We are here if you want to share with us. Blessings to you for trying to make a difference!

Mamacita, Alumna Mentor | @mamacita | Jun 11, 2019

Teresa, Volunteer Mentor, I indeed am experiencing Autistic Burnout. Appointment this morning, in only a few hours, to try to get back on ADHD meds. Untreated ADD is one of the highest ranked causes of Severe Depression.

I thought I could do without the meds. Mind over matter and all that. But I can't. I am exhausted. Very disheartened about all that the Shingles took away from me. I now have a completely bald spot on top of my head where I had Cellulitis Will it grow back? I have no idea.

Found some adorable wigs at the beauty supply store. This was before my hair fell out. I may have to get one if it gets worse. Right now my hair is pretty short. Cut so that air and sun can get to the scalp

Mindfulness is helping Doing housework and laundry is helping. Prayer and hearing from all of you Auties and Allies helps keep me going.. Music and family and Abba.
If I never had really low days, I would not appreciate the good ones.

Keep shining...keep reaching out to Autistics and learning all you can. Actually Autistics, do not forget that you will always have a place at the table. Don't be ashamed of burnouts. It will all be ok.

Love you lots!
Mamacita

lioness | @lioness | Jun 11, 2019

@mamacita Glad to hear from you and you are feeling better . Long time ago my hair was falling out I was only in my 20,s I just graduated from nurses training and we wore hats . The hairdresser said that is why this happened I didn't get air to this area of my head . She told me to get Pine tar shampoo to use on my hair after awhile believe it or not my hair started to grow again and a think head of hair was the reward so try some Pine tar shampoo.

Ginger, Volunteer Mentor | @gingerw | Jun 11, 2019

In reply to @mamacita "Teresa, Volunteer Mentor, I indeed am experiencing Autistic Burnout. Appointment this morning, in only a few..." + (show)

@mamacita Gentle hugs headed your way. Thank you for being you. Your place at the table is got a permanent marker for you so don't you forget it! Your support and insight even in the midst of your tribulations is so genuine.
Ginger

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