Resisting hired caregiver in the home

I agree with the @teacher post above to just go ahead and hire someone anyway. The best you can do, is for you, and tell your significant other that your doctor wants YOU to get the help for YOUR health and wellbeing. Start with someone one day a week and move into more help as you need it. Last year, when my husband was diagnosed, and so many unfortunate things happened - living in hotels, having to live out of boxes due to a house with mold that we had to move out of, I was really in bad shape medically. Diverticulitis, all kinds of GI issues, infections, chest x-rays back and forth to my own doctor's, let alone, his for MRI's, Pet Scans, Infusions, etc., hospital scheduling, then having to take over all the bill paying handling and technology issues, finding a suitable rental, while having come off my husband just being hacked on the computer with all of that and every password/account change. And that was happening while he was in the mild stages of memory loss where he was still somewhat independent. I admire the Connect caregivers, that forge through this alone. But our mental health and wellbeing is critical through all of this. Thanks for everyone's post. And for the above posts/caregivers who transitioned into the model I'll choose when the time comes for added help. We are not alone, and that means not only emotionally and spiritually, but physically. Best, Karla