Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....

Posted by ellerbracke @ellerbracke, Sat, Aug 31 5:14pm

I know I am very guilty of classifying people in general, and regarding weight in particular. Living in the bible/heart attack/ diabetes belt, it simply blows my mind how many obese people I see every single day when out and about. Granted, fewer of those at Dillard’s than Walmart. Still, in addition to being concerned, I am also judging those people. I know I should not, but how in the world can someone get that fat? It would take years of dedicated overeating to reach that. No, I really don’t think that all of them have a medical issue, seeing what’s in their grocery carts. Someone help me get a less judgmental attitude when I’ve been semi-denying myself all those chips and cookies and fries for decades?? I live and eat well, but treats should be treats, not daily food.

@ayeshasharma

@contentandwell your son-in-law must have been raised Hindu, as was I. Our families don't usually eat beef, as respect for the cow is a part of Hindu belief.
Muslims generally eat beef, as long as it's halal, but adhering Muslims don't eat pork.

When my parents were raising my brother and I, they weren't too strict on not eating beef themselves, so we ate it every once in a while. I've grown to have a complicated relationship with beef, mainly because of the US meat and dairy industry.

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@ayeshasharma My D.I.L. parents are from India and they are Muslim but she was born in Long Beach but as a vegan she doesn't eat meat of anykind. Not even the gel that's in the candies either .

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Pretty much to all: I started the subject with emphasis on prejudice, and ended up with helpful discussions about several different subjects like depression, suicide, ethnical, health, or other food limitations. I learned a lot, and I think this is what makes this forum so helpful. Now I will ruin this post by saying that all in all, I eat what I want (mostly good stuff), as much as I want (not ever even close), as often as I want. NO! I generally eat until I feel about 2/3s full, eating slowly. Makes it a lot easier not to overeat, Plus, I love all vegetables, and could live without bread – husband opposite. he’ll have a dinner roll to go with a cheese toast. ☹️
For JK: BMI is 21.4

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@ellerbracke

Pretty much to all: I started the subject with emphasis on prejudice, and ended up with helpful discussions about several different subjects like depression, suicide, ethnical, health, or other food limitations. I learned a lot, and I think this is what makes this forum so helpful. Now I will ruin this post by saying that all in all, I eat what I want (mostly good stuff), as much as I want (not ever even close), as often as I want. NO! I generally eat until I feel about 2/3s full, eating slowly. Makes it a lot easier not to overeat, Plus, I love all vegetables, and could live without bread – husband opposite. he’ll have a dinner roll to go with a cheese toast. ☹️
For JK: BMI is 21.4

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@ellerbracke my BMI is about 26 I think and my PCP does not want me to lose more. They actually say that as you age it’s good to have a little extra weight, I guess because if you get sick you have more to draw from. I don’t know if that’s why he doesn’t think I should lose more or what it is. Most people do not feel that I should lose more though.

When I was young I did get my weight down a lot and people were asking others if I had been sick! I hadn’t been of course but the weight I was at was not sustainable for me. I did not get that low in a healthy way. I was not underweight according to charts.
JK

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@gingerw

I find this discussion to be fascinating, as you follow the twists and turns from the original comments. I have at least two siblings who are vegetarians or vegans, yet have moderately controlled sweet-tooths. Myself, due to kidney issues, eat a low potassium/low phosphorus/low sodium diet, with almost no dairy. Plus low purine due to gout [no shellfish, mushrooms, pork]. Very little red meat, lots of chicken and fish; some day I will wake up clucking! Yes, as @ayeshasharma said, poor eating and depression are linked, ask me how I know!
Ginger

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@gingerw
”some day I will wake up clucking!”
lol lol lol hahaha hahaha
Jake

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General comment: I’m on the waiting list for the latest book by Malcolm Gladwell titled “talking to strangers”. This author has always been a fascinating source of well researched information, and I expect this latest book to perhaps shed some light on pre-conceptions and erroneous assumptions of people and their motives. Just in case there are any interested readers out there.

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@ellerbracke

General comment: I’m on the waiting list for the latest book by Malcolm Gladwell titled “talking to strangers”. This author has always been a fascinating source of well researched information, and I expect this latest book to perhaps shed some light on pre-conceptions and erroneous assumptions of people and their motives. Just in case there are any interested readers out there.

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@ellerbracke I put the book on my list of want to read!

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@contentandwell

@ellerbracke my BMI is about 26 I think and my PCP does not want me to lose more. They actually say that as you age it’s good to have a little extra weight, I guess because if you get sick you have more to draw from. I don’t know if that’s why he doesn’t think I should lose more or what it is. Most people do not feel that I should lose more though.

When I was young I did get my weight down a lot and people were asking others if I had been sick! I hadn’t been of course but the weight I was at was not sustainable for me. I did not get that low in a healthy way. I was not underweight according to charts.
JK

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@contentandwell
Hi,

I started a discussion in healthy living about my thoughts on BMI.

FL Mary

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I have loved this conversation!! Thank you everyone for bringing humility and genuine perspectives. Everyone here clearly cares about health and unity in positive intentions is what drives us forward. Thanks @ellerbracke for this recommendation. I haven't read this book, but have heard of the author (from Oprah).

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