Pornography addiction?

Posted by jonasd @jonasd, Aug 10, 2021

Does anyone have struggles with pornography. Someone have some advices to quit that bad habit, I also have depression.
Any help thanks you

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@jonasd
So good to hear from you. You are off to a great start and I'm so glad to know about it.

Please keep posting here on Connect as you work this program and find support.

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Hello @jonasd @fiskenmorder and @z4pper

Just wanted to check in with you and say hello. I hope you are all doing well. Are there any struggles you've had or have you found any helpful ideas along the way?

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@hopeful33250

Hello @jonasd @fiskenmorder and @z4pper

Just wanted to check in with you and say hello. I hope you are all doing well. Are there any struggles you've had or have you found any helpful ideas along the way?

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Hi!!!! Here I am. Fighting, I have more hope now that in the beginning.
A big goal to share is that I managed to go without pornography for 15 days straight. I have fallen, but I manage to get up faster.
With depression in general I am doing better. I changed house and partners, this has meant some adaptation. And the person I talked to who was my confidant left the country, that part is costing me a lot because we understood each other very well and it was very easy to talk. But I hope that God will show me who can be my ally in this this path.
Keep in touch. And a big hug to @hopeful33250

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@jonasd

Hi!!!! Here I am. Fighting, I have more hope now that in the beginning.
A big goal to share is that I managed to go without pornography for 15 days straight. I have fallen, but I manage to get up faster.
With depression in general I am doing better. I changed house and partners, this has meant some adaptation. And the person I talked to who was my confidant left the country, that part is costing me a lot because we understood each other very well and it was very easy to talk. But I hope that God will show me who can be my ally in this this path.
Keep in touch. And a big hug to @hopeful33250

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Hello @jonasd

It is so good to hear from you. It sounds as if you are making progress at a good pace. Any recovery program is a process and you seem to be working through this process well. I'm really pleased for you!

While you have had a good deal of changes in your life you have met with them and have adapted. That is very good.

If there were one thing that you could share with others who are trying to combat addiction, what would that be?

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@jonasd

Hi!!!! Here I am. Fighting, I have more hope now that in the beginning.
A big goal to share is that I managed to go without pornography for 15 days straight. I have fallen, but I manage to get up faster.
With depression in general I am doing better. I changed house and partners, this has meant some adaptation. And the person I talked to who was my confidant left the country, that part is costing me a lot because we understood each other very well and it was very easy to talk. But I hope that God will show me who can be my ally in this this path.
Keep in touch. And a big hug to @hopeful33250

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Hi @jonasd

I've been thinking about you, I hope that you are still finding support as you seek to have hope and help as you deal with addiction to pornography.

As the holidays approach, often people with addictions face more stress for numerous reasons. Please be aware that this is a normal response to folks who are addicted.

Please feel free to share how you are doing. Are the approaching holidays, adding stress to the process of dealing with this addiction?

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@hopeful33250

Hi @jonasd

I've been thinking about you, I hope that you are still finding support as you seek to have hope and help as you deal with addiction to pornography.

As the holidays approach, often people with addictions face more stress for numerous reasons. Please be aware that this is a normal response to folks who are addicted.

Please feel free to share how you are doing. Are the approaching holidays, adding stress to the process of dealing with this addiction?

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Hello Teresa @hopeful33250

Today is my birthday so I have taken the time to write to you. First of all thank you so much for following me, I feel so supported knowing that you are there and that you are thinking of me.
I want to tell you a little bit of progress.

1. recognizing and coming to terms with my addiction has been key. Even talking to my inner voice and discussing it when the moments of fragility comes, make me think in want I want to built in myself with that act.

2. it has helped me to identify 3 facts that are triggers, when I realize that they are active, I fight to remove one and "the chair falls down" it is easier to fight this way.

3. Regarding pornography. I have not put special filters on my electronic devices. I did close some social network accounts, because I realized that I am at a stage in my life where I can't filter what I consume and I want to consume quality information, I mean, information that helps me to be a better person, so I stopped social media. This also helped me to focus more on improving my relationships with friends and family, This step I think is one of the ones that has helped me the most. An important fact here is that I discovered that relationships need to be based on respect each other's freedom and not building imaginary expectations of what others can give me. And that I am not responsable to fill the expectationes of the other….. FREDOM
4. I continue to struggle with depression, with highs and lows…in the lows sometimes I feel like I would rather die and have it all end there, but I wrote a letter to myself that I read…to remind me that is just moment and it going to pass, even if it doesn't seem like it.

5. Change job. I am with a transportation and logistics company in the US, I work with people from all over the world, the environment is amazing, my boss and coworkers are my daily boosters. Good persons

6. I have a sports related venture that makes me dream and keeps my head busy.

7. Do sports… even if it's walking when there is no strength… or yoga, I didn't like it because I'm more of an action person, but it's very useful when you are in bad times.

8. SEASON has been a big blow… because it has always been a time to enjoy, I enjoyed just seeing the decorations in the streets, the music, etc. but now none of that moves me. I have cancelled some celebrations because I don't feel I have the emotional capacity to be there, but it has been good, recognizing that sometimes I can't and saying this to my family and friends, has tightened bonds, I think it's good.

And I have to say it, I manage to keep a more or less positive outlook above all because God has given me faith! I'm not a good Catholic, but I've discovered that I don't have to be good to be a good Catholic to be loved be HIM. Few words this is my secret weapon to pass thru all this.

Teresa and all friends a big hug…. and enjoy your holy days

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@jonasd ,

What great steps you are taking and excellent advice for anyone struggling with any addiction. Recognizing triggers is huge!

Have a great holiday

Laurie

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@jonasd

Hello Teresa @hopeful33250

Today is my birthday so I have taken the time to write to you. First of all thank you so much for following me, I feel so supported knowing that you are there and that you are thinking of me.
I want to tell you a little bit of progress.

1. recognizing and coming to terms with my addiction has been key. Even talking to my inner voice and discussing it when the moments of fragility comes, make me think in want I want to built in myself with that act.

2. it has helped me to identify 3 facts that are triggers, when I realize that they are active, I fight to remove one and "the chair falls down" it is easier to fight this way.

3. Regarding pornography. I have not put special filters on my electronic devices. I did close some social network accounts, because I realized that I am at a stage in my life where I can't filter what I consume and I want to consume quality information, I mean, information that helps me to be a better person, so I stopped social media. This also helped me to focus more on improving my relationships with friends and family, This step I think is one of the ones that has helped me the most. An important fact here is that I discovered that relationships need to be based on respect each other's freedom and not building imaginary expectations of what others can give me. And that I am not responsable to fill the expectationes of the other….. FREDOM
4. I continue to struggle with depression, with highs and lows…in the lows sometimes I feel like I would rather die and have it all end there, but I wrote a letter to myself that I read…to remind me that is just moment and it going to pass, even if it doesn't seem like it.

5. Change job. I am with a transportation and logistics company in the US, I work with people from all over the world, the environment is amazing, my boss and coworkers are my daily boosters. Good persons

6. I have a sports related venture that makes me dream and keeps my head busy.

7. Do sports… even if it's walking when there is no strength… or yoga, I didn't like it because I'm more of an action person, but it's very useful when you are in bad times.

8. SEASON has been a big blow… because it has always been a time to enjoy, I enjoyed just seeing the decorations in the streets, the music, etc. but now none of that moves me. I have cancelled some celebrations because I don't feel I have the emotional capacity to be there, but it has been good, recognizing that sometimes I can't and saying this to my family and friends, has tightened bonds, I think it's good.

And I have to say it, I manage to keep a more or less positive outlook above all because God has given me faith! I'm not a good Catholic, but I've discovered that I don't have to be good to be a good Catholic to be loved be HIM. Few words this is my secret weapon to pass thru all this.

Teresa and all friends a big hug…. and enjoy your holy days

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Hello @jonasd and happy birthday!

How wonderful that you have so many good plans in place for your recovery! A plan is the best way to keep on the recovery journey.

The great thing about your recovery journey is the variety of activities you have implemented. The physical, like sports and walking, and the job change.

Most importantly, you recognize the need to take care of your depression, you have begun to rethink your spirituality, deepening personal relationships, and of course, you have avoided all situations where you might be emotionally vulnerable.

I look forward to hearing from you again. Will you post updates as you are able?

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Of course you will have more updates!!!! Happy Holidays to all your family

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