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Permission to rant

Posted by 4goakley Kathy @4goakley, Dec 15, 2025

In a recent post we were given "permission to rant" on this site. There are several benefits:
1. Validation. For those with similar feelings/experiences , we know we are not the only ones with complaints or negative thoughts.
2. Gratitude. For our own situations . Personally, I am immensely grateful that my spouse with dementia is still kind and cooperative.
3. Preparation. It gets us ready to face the difficulties that are surely down the road on this unpredictable journey.
Thank you for the opportunity.

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sevss | @sevss | Dec 31, 2025
In reply to @lueverson "My husband is in denial about his cognition issues, and it does make me crazy, sometimes...." + (show)
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My husband is in denial about his cognition issues, and it does make me crazy, sometimes. My son has given me permission to lean on him, but I've always been a fairly stoic, lean on myself type of person, and I feel guilty putting any of this onto his shoulders; but I do get so very angry and have to lock myself in the bathroom until I can calm myself down. My mother had Alzheimers, so I've "been there, done that", and the experience of dealing with her helps a little, but of course, dealing with a spouse is a whole different ballgame. Sometimes, I just want to run away from home...

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@lueverson
I just understand wanting to run away. This is so hard.

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sillyblone | @sillyblone | Jan 3 9:36pm
In reply to @lueverson "My husband is in denial about his cognition issues, and it does make me crazy, sometimes...." + (show)
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My husband is in denial about his cognition issues, and it does make me crazy, sometimes. My son has given me permission to lean on him, but I've always been a fairly stoic, lean on myself type of person, and I feel guilty putting any of this onto his shoulders; but I do get so very angry and have to lock myself in the bathroom until I can calm myself down. My mother had Alzheimers, so I've "been there, done that", and the experience of dealing with her helps a little, but of course, dealing with a spouse is a whole different ballgame. Sometimes, I just want to run away from home...

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@lueverson
I am sure every person on this site can identify with your feelings. We all deal with such unfair difficult situations. I have a best friend that looks out for me and I for her. She reminds me what can help and lets me share. You truly find out who your friends are and which family members really are interested in your current situation. That is why I love this site. Hugs to you!

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