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My husband refuses to do any of the things they suggest to help.
My husband was diagnosed with dementia 3 years ago. He gets about 4 publications about how to deal with it. They all say to do things that exercise your brain like crossword puzzles. He refuses to try anything. He wanted to scan our photos. I got him a very simple scanner and worked with him for hours. He wrote everything down and our son made a video for him. He refuses to do it unless I am sitting there with him. He won't even try. Can anyone help me to accept this as part of the disease? Thank you.
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@agnes01 My husband has vascular dementia. It was explained to me that this type of dementia causes increasing difficulty with moving through Steps 1, 2, 3 to get to the desired end result at 4. I see this with him all the time now, he needs verbal and gestured cues to go through the steps to set himself up to shave, put on his shoes or jacket. It’s so weird how the catch-all diagnosis “dementia” includes so many types, that can look so different.
Your hubby may not be able to make sense of the step by step process in the video. I do like the plan of having your son come and sit with him, he’ll treasure those memories in the future.
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2 Reactions@agnes01 Mary, I'm so glad your son came. It's the same thing I told my son in my letter to him, as when they respond, it gives us hope, strength and sometimes a bit more clarity. And truly makes us feel not so alone.
I appreciate your response back too, and getting your good news that your son came and that @grandmajoan - she sold her house and moved to Manhattan and got to be with her adult twins for help. Happy Sunday, Best Karla
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2 Reactions@centre Thank you. We will see the geriatric neurologist next wek. I hope to get a few more answers.
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