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Mom with Stage 2 dementia will not go to nursing home

Posted by mmodirni @mmodirni, May 22 4:25pm

My mom dementia got worsened after my dad passed about 2 years ago. She lives all alone but my brother who lives close checks on her regularly. I live in Canada so I visit her when I can but every month or every other month . About a year ago she’s been very suspicious and since then she thinks that anything she forgets or lose is cs my brother took it. Recently he hit my brother and told him that everything happens is his fault. We asked her if we could move her to a nursing home so it’s safer and she would be taken care of but she says she’s planning to stay in her house till she dies and wouldn’t go anywhere. What we can do. Living alone is not safe and she doesn’t trust a caregiver to live with her either! She had 4 different caregivers but she asked them to leave.

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celia16 | @celia16 | 3 days ago
In reply to @tjfunke1956 "Thank you. It was not without a LOT of coercive discussions! She is now unable to..." + (show)
@tjfunke1956

Thank you. It was not without a LOT of coercive discussions! She is now unable to recognize me most of the time and is finally walking with a rolater type walker after 4.5 months and sometimes uses it as a toilet. It is so sad to see her trapped in her mind. She was the rock and the powerhouse of our family and handled all the finances that enabled her to live in this very expensive memory care facility.

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It was 4.5 months from what point? That’s quite fast for decline. Do you know what caused the dementia? It must be so hard on the family. Glad you have her in a place that can manage her needs.

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tjfunke1956 | @tjfunke1956 | 3 days ago
In reply to @celia16 "It was 4.5 months from what point? That’s quite fast for decline. Do you know what..." + (show)
@celia16

It was 4.5 months from what point? That’s quite fast for decline. Do you know what caused the dementia? It must be so hard on the family. Glad you have her in a place that can manage her needs.

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Sorry that was long and likely confusing. She had a rod placed from hip to knee on Jan 4. She had post-surgical delirium for weeks. Went to rehab and AL and fell again and broke her femur. Back to rehab. BUT finally after 4.5 months she has gone from bedridden to wheelchair and 2 assists, to walker and now rollater. Jan 3 she was in Independant living and had meals provided but took care of herself otherwise. Two meds (for cholesterol and BP). Now she is in memory care and is very confused all the time and has little ability to care for herself. It is SO sad how the surgery took so much from her. They were very cautious with anesthesia and used epidural type instead of traditional to try to avoid the known affects it has on elderly.
I hope that makes more sense.

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tjfunke1956 | @tjfunke1956 | 3 days ago
In reply to @celia16 "It was 4.5 months from what point? That’s quite fast for decline. Do you know what..." + (show)
@celia16

It was 4.5 months from what point? That’s quite fast for decline. Do you know what caused the dementia? It must be so hard on the family. Glad you have her in a place that can manage her needs.

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Oh and vascular dementia from TIAs in 2018 approximately

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