Lessons from caregiving paying dividends during the pandemic

Posted by Scott, Volunteer Mentor @IndianaScott, Thu, Apr 30 11:50am

Hello to all our caregivers! I hope you are all safe, healthy, and doing as well as can be expected during these unique and challenging times.

I had an interesting conversation the other day and it made me want to come here and ask if anything similar has happened to any of you.

A couple of friends I was on a Zoom call with were complaining about how they couldn't stand the monotony and the unknown of being in their 'stay-at-home' situations. Interestingly I realized it has not been all that challenging for me. As they asked me why I said it was because I feel as though I've been through it all before — in a lot tougher way while I was caregiving. The combination of being bound to the house for my caregiving duties, the unknown path my wife would be taking, the intense isolation caused by caregiving, and the exhaustion of the day-in-day-out demands while being 'cooped up' readied me for this bout of isolation.

Not that there aren't bad days, but in my case I think I did find a previously unnoted silver lining to caregiving.

Anyone else thinking about this?

Strength, courage, and peace

I am doing things I never thought I would do: posting videos on Facebook (2 are about caregiving), having a new logo designed, planning/writing an electronic newsletter. and getting a new business card. One caregiving video is about giving yourself a "nothing day" and the other is about getting enough sleep. This morning I made a food safety video.

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I saw on Facebook a post saying that You know you’re isolated when the quarantine doesn’t change much for you. Luckily, we live on 20 acres and are able to be outside with lots of room to roam.

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@IndianaScott
Yes, I am caregiving for a friend who just had the Whipple procedure. I have been putting to use all I have learned from Mayo to prepare for my upcoming liver transplant and the time afterward. Guess I've been in semi isolation for 3 ys now!
I'm not finding the real time isolation that hard…
Glad when it is over though. Likely never will be totally over for me.

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@jeanne5009

@IndianaScott
Yes, I am caregiving for a friend who just had the Whipple procedure. I have been putting to use all I have learned from Mayo to prepare for my upcoming liver transplant and the time afterward. Guess I've been in semi isolation for 3 ys now!
I'm not finding the real time isolation that hard…
Glad when it is over though. Likely never will be totally over for me.

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Hi @jeanne5009 I hope all goes well for your friend's recovery and for you with your upcoming transplant.

You raise an interesting thought with your comment 'Likely never will be totally over for me.'

I have tried to explain to many folks, after the loss of my wife and with the pandemic, that I view the future without using the word 'normal' or 'new normal'. To me using that phraseology leads one to be always looking back and measuring the future based on the past. Our lives, once we have a major change, are never the same — we can't go back, I prefer to not to look back wishing for something that will never occur, but rather admit life is now simply different!

I am glad your caregiving — for someone else and for yourself is providing a beneficial foundation for you!

Cheers to you!

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@IndianaScott

Hi @jeanne5009 I hope all goes well for your friend's recovery and for you with your upcoming transplant.

You raise an interesting thought with your comment 'Likely never will be totally over for me.'

I have tried to explain to many folks, after the loss of my wife and with the pandemic, that I view the future without using the word 'normal' or 'new normal'. To me using that phraseology leads one to be always looking back and measuring the future based on the past. Our lives, once we have a major change, are never the same — we can't go back, I prefer to not to look back wishing for something that will never occur, but rather admit life is now simply different!

I am glad your caregiving — for someone else and for yourself is providing a beneficial foundation for you!

Cheers to you!

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Indeed…never more apparent…
Every day is part of my new life….

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