Have you become a suicide caregiver? Grossly over prescribed Ambien

Hi abbi88,
What a sad, tragic situation for the both of you! Sometimes life isn't fair but I admire you for taking care of your family member. It sounds like he doesn't have anyone else to care for him but you. The six people you mentioned apparently don't want to be burdened with him. I guess the only thing you can do is to try and stay as healthy as you personally can and attempt to bring some kind of joy into the family member's life by just being there for him. He must have been very unhappy to try and commit suicide.

It's hard to be a caregiver. I was a caregiver for my husband when he had lung cancer. Sometimes I would be so tired from caring for him and yet, I still had to fix dinner, do the laundry etc. However, I loved him very much and would do it all again if I had to. He died in 2024. It's important that you make certain you get some time for yourself and also eat healthy. You don't want to get sick too!

Ask God for help in this matter. Just talk to him like he's your best friend and he is. God's always there for us. My husband and I prayed a lot and God really helped us through a bad time. I know my husband is up in Heaven and we'll be together again in God's time. However, God is still answering my prayers and now that I'm alone, it helps me immensely. I'll say a prayer for both of you.
I wish you both the best.
PML

I have not experienced what you are experiencing. I do admit I have been suicidal but never acted on it simply because I love others more than me; that, and I somehow always find hope when talking to God, because all my family have abandoned me due to my mental health issues.

I am sorry your family member has attempted suicide and not succeeded, because you - an obviously caring person is saddled with new added problems.

I am sorry they have done this to you. Though I contemplate suicide when life gets difficult, I never attempted suicide, mostly because I don't want my "loved ones" or those I care about to have to deal with my problems (PTSD, OCD) and I always have thought: "What if I don't succeed?" then they really will think I am crazy and I will be abandoned more to my own problems.

Are you angry? You have a right to be so, in my opinion.

I would begin first by finding a very good minister and church, and have a frank talk with the minister. Then I would invite each of the the six people who "check in" with you, and ASK for help and see what happens? You will find your true friends and clarify what to do next.

This is a somewhat peculiar incident according to a all of the trauma team as well as law enforcement. The incident happened late at night in our back yard and I didn't hear anything. Got up at 11:30ish and found here crawling in a huge pool of blood and body tissue apparently trying to get inside. She was somewhat alert but seriously bleeding from the facial wound. Skipping more details, I was questioned heavily by the detective unit as this was classified as a suicide attempt. Handgun was laying next to her as well as a beach towel (??). got swabbed for gunpowder residue and was cleared but still the prime "suspect" as house was licked and we have a 7' fence that was locked. I told the detective that there were cameras in the yard which pretty much saved my ass from any more legal issues. After three months in ICU as well as a wound care facility, she came home and was pretty mobile. She now functions a "normal life" like hygiene, dressing, laundry, lite cooking and plenty of walks in the park. All this is great however my obligation is wound care, doctor visits but mainly as a BFF which pins me down a pretty good bit. She was release from both psychologist after three out of six sessions required by the hospital and same with psychiatry. Both indicated that they couldn't find any triggers that would push her over the edge. Detective interview to get a release as a suspect brought to my attention that 95% of females do not shoot themselves and those who do never in the face - too concerned about appearance after the fact, and she used her left hand of which she is right-handed.
I am not mad or disappointed, just sad for her as the rest of her life as well as mine has taken a 90-degree detour on a road with no name or lights. I have always had a religious relationship with the Lord but never a personal one. As of lately, I take time during the day for a personal talk with God, not asking why but for His intervention in making her somewhat whole. You take care of yourself. As you mentioned above, there is more involved in a suicide than you as the family and friends do feel the pain after it is all said and done, To keep my mind somewhat clear, I am involved a little in local politics attending council meetings monthly, am a polling commissioner for elections and a member of my local community association. There is some light at the end of the tunnel, just got to strain to see as the tunnel is long.
Be safe!