I AM NOT A LOVED ONE, and I'm not alone

I'd really like to see a change in the terminology. At 74 with a new diagnosis and dementia, without any family or friends left and still driving, I find it difficult to get information on how to manage on my own, make plans. But the hardest immediate barrier is that all the materials seem to be for caregivers and address patients as the loved one. I am not anyone's loved one and initially it's hurts to have to explain that to people, especially medical professionals.
I'd be interested in how others have addressed this. I don't have the energy to be educating people. I'm angry, sad, grieving at this devastating diagnosis. But these are not symptoms of dementia, these are human reactions to a horrible diagnosis.