I AM NOT A LOVED ONE, and I'm not alone

I feel your frustration. I was recently diagnosed with "Mild" Mental Impairment, and since then, all holy hell has descended on me! A former friend, mentor, counselor, lawyer, and religious educator) got mad at me because I independently bought a used car to increase my ability to contact people outside my apartment building. In anger, without any tangible evidence, his name is TC, and he is confused and unfit to be a friend. He reported me as "unfit to drive" to the Secretary of State's Department of Motor Vehicles. I am unable to obtain a copy of the report because, in Michigan, they protect the reporter's identity. I attended the Administrative Hearing and received a court order that suspended my license. I am a mere 83 (soon to be 84), and I am as Sharpe as I was when teaching at University. I still engage in Research. I continue to consult with educators in different geographical locations. I sold my car about a year ago (so I could get out of debt caused by two hurricanes), and now I am debt-free and have bought a car. TC told me I could not have a car, and then I found I have MCI driving restrictions, no "easy transportation," and no family (I like you) have outlived all my immediate family members. I have checked with a lawyer, but lawyers tend to be cautious about going against other lawyers (I think). I want to express my gratitude for sharing. This is my first stop on the information highway since grieving the suspension of my driving privilege. I was informed by the DMV administrator that I had no expectation of civil rights, and I am now exploring my options. (a) I hire a lawyer for $4500; (b) I can Seek help from the Mayo Clinic; (c) I can try to defend myself in Court; (d) Do research on my diagnosis and Get more information about the progression of the disease. (e) Move out of State??

I am so confused I need some suggestions. All are appreciated. By the way, I am a four-time cancer survivor. I am sitting here laughing. Because I can not remember what my user-name is. Just know I appreciate You and believe God will provide!

I feel your frustration. I was recently diagnosed with "Mild" Mental Impairment, and since then, all holy hell has descended on me! A former friend, mentor, counselor, lawyer, and religious educator) got mad at me because I independently bought a used car to increase my ability to contact people outside my apartment building. In anger, without any tangible evidence, his name is TC, and he is confused and unfit to be a friend. He reported me as "unfit to drive" to the Secretary of State's Department of Motor Vehicles. I am unable to obtain a copy of the report because, in Michigan, they protect the reporter's identity. I attended the Administrative Hearing and received a court order that suspended my license. I am a mere 83 (soon to be 84), and I am as Sharpe as I was when teaching at University. I still engage in Research. I continue to consult with educators in different geographical locations. I sold my car about a year ago (so I could get out of debt caused by two hurricanes), and now I am debt-free and have bought a car. TC told me I could not have a car, and then I found I have MCI driving restrictions, no "easy transportation," and no family (I like you) have outlived all my immediate family members. I have checked with a lawyer, but lawyers tend to be cautious about going against other lawyers (I think). I want to express my gratitude for sharing. This is my first stop on the information highway since grieving the suspension of my driving privilege. I was informed by the DMV administrator that I had no expectation of civil rights, and I am now exploring my options. (a) I hire a lawyer for $4500; (b) I can Seek help from the Mayo Clinic; (c) I can try to defend myself in Court; (d) Do research on my diagnosis and Get more information about the progression of the disease. (e) Move out of State??

I am so confused I need some suggestions. All are appreciated. By the way, I am a four-time cancer survivor. I am sitting here laughing. Because I can not remember what my user-name is. Just know I appreciate You and believe God will provide!

FIND THE BEST DOC S YOU CAN FOR DIAGNOSIS !!! I WAS RECENTLY DIAGNOSED WITH DEMENTIA OR ALZHEIMERS???-MOST DOCTORS NOT EXPERTS IN THE FIELD, THE MAJORITY, ARE NOT NECESSARILY THAT KNOWLEDGEABLE. SOME ARE CLUELESS!!! A BRAIN SCAN FOR SOMETHING ELSE, AND FAMILY MEMBERS SAYING "YOU'RE REPEATING YOUSELF AGAIN," WERE MY SYMPTONS. YES, IT'S A SCARY DIAGNOSIS, AND I AM FRIGHTENED--A WIDOW, NO FAMILY NEAR. BUT BOTTOM-LINE -- AS WITH MOST DISEASES THE DEVELOPMENS ARE OFTEN DIFFERENT. I HAVE FAMILY WHO DIED OF CANCER, WHILE OTHERS WERE ARE STLL THROWING PARTIES. A COUSIN WAS OVER 106 WHEN SHE PASSED AWAY. BUT SADLY SHE HAD HAD TO BURY SOME OF HER CHILDREN. I NO LONGER DRIVE IN MY 80S --A GOOD IDEA REGARDLESS! A COUPLE OF FRIENDS FAITHLY GO TO THE DRUGSTORE TO FILL MY PRESCRIPTIONS, TAKE ME GROCERY SHOPPING WHEN THEY GO, OR I CAB IT! MY PASTOR VISITS ONCE I REACHED OUT. WHEN/IF YOU NEED TO REACH OUT, SOMEONE WILL RESPOND FROM COMPASSION, OTHERS BECAUSE THEY'VE WALKED THE WALK. THE FUTURE IS VERY SCARY BUT UNKNOWN--BUT CAN AND SHOULD BE PREPARED FOR IN ANY EVENT? THAT'S WHY WE HAVE AUTO, HEALTH, AND HOMEOWNERS INSURANCE HOW WILL MY/YOUR DISEASE PROGRESS? WILL I GO TO A NURSING HOME? OR REMAIN AT HOME? TIME WILL TELL. MEANWHILE, I'M WRITING A NOVEL, WATCHING JUDGE JUDY, HAVING A GLASS OF RED WINE, AND ORDERING SUPPER IN. TOMORROW? (WE'LL) I HAVE TO WAIT AND SEE!!! -WISHING YOU COMFORT! ENJOYMENT OF EACH DAY! AND THE ALMIGHTY'S BLESSINGS!!!

FIND THE BEST DOC S YOU CAN FOR DIAGNOSIS !!! I WAS RECENTLY DIAGNOSED WITH DEMENTIA OR ALZHEIMERS???-MOST DOCTORS NOT EXPERTS IN THE FIELD, THE MAJORITY, ARE NOT NECESSARILY THAT KNOWLEDGEABLE. SOME ARE CLUELESS!!! A BRAIN SCAN FOR SOMETHING ELSE, AND FAMILY MEMBERS SAYING "YOU'RE REPEATING YOUSELF AGAIN," WERE MY SYMPTONS. YES, IT'S A SCARY DIAGNOSIS, AND I AM FRIGHTENED--A WIDOW, NO FAMILY NEAR. BUT BOTTOM-LINE -- AS WITH MOST DISEASES THE DEVELOPMENS ARE OFTEN DIFFERENT. I HAVE FAMILY WHO DIED OF CANCER, WHILE OTHERS WERE ARE STLL THROWING PARTIES. A COUSIN WAS OVER 106 WHEN SHE PASSED AWAY. BUT SADLY SHE HAD HAD TO BURY SOME OF HER CHILDREN. I NO LONGER DRIVE IN MY 80S --A GOOD IDEA REGARDLESS! A COUPLE OF FRIENDS FAITHLY GO TO THE DRUGSTORE TO FILL MY PRESCRIPTIONS, TAKE ME GROCERY SHOPPING WHEN THEY GO, OR I CAB IT! MY PASTOR VISITS ONCE I REACHED OUT. WHEN/IF YOU NEED TO REACH OUT, SOMEONE WILL RESPOND FROM COMPASSION, OTHERS BECAUSE THEY'VE WALKED THE WALK. THE FUTURE IS VERY SCARY BUT UNKNOWN--BUT CAN AND SHOULD BE PREPARED FOR IN ANY EVENT? THAT'S WHY WE HAVE AUTO, HEALTH, AND HOMEOWNERS INSURANCE HOW WILL MY/YOUR DISEASE PROGRESS? WILL I GO TO A NURSING HOME? OR REMAIN AT HOME? TIME WILL TELL. MEANWHILE, I'M WRITING A NOVEL, WATCHING JUDGE JUDY, HAVING A GLASS OF RED WINE, AND ORDERING SUPPER IN. TOMORROW? (WE'LL) I HAVE TO WAIT AND SEE!!! -WISHING YOU COMFORT! ENJOYMENT OF EACH DAY! AND THE ALMIGHTY'S BLESSINGS!!!

@jlam1950 you need an ombudsman or a person who would become your conservator when you’re unable to do so for yourself. Since you’re still dealing with the shock I suggest you find a Geriatric Assessment Center near you. They can help steer you with therapy as your illness progresses. And it sounds like you need to see a therapist now to help you with these feelings. There are 5 stages of grieving and anger is one of those stages. Since you’re alone you should if possible arrange for your continued care in a memory care unit when you can no longer function independently. I’m sorry for your difficult diagnosis.

As a former lay minister and leader in my church, indeed, I trust the Lord’s plans for me and my wife’s future! We cope the best way we can, and pray each day, that the Lord will give us both the strength and ability, albeit some obstacles, to get through each challenge, that each day brings, going forward! God Bless!