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Happy Valentine's Day

Posted by georgescraftjr @georgescraftjr, Feb 14 6:11pm

My heart goes out to everyone who doesn't feel reciprocated love on this Valentine's Day. We can't take that personally.

All my love,

George's Wife

Finding True Love This Valentine's Day
By Lynette Kittle
Bible Reading:
“We love because He first loved us.” - 1 John 4:19
Romantic love seems to be the love that lasts the shortest time for millions, yet it’s the prime focus in most people’s lives, especially around Valentine’s Day.
Yet, as wonderful as romantic love can seem at times, it doesn’t have the power to satisfy our hearts, unlike the countless Hallmark movies seem to indicate. As finding romantic love seems to be the #1 goal for millions of people worldwide, it may be a distraction for countless people from loving God most.

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Caregivers: Dementia Support Group.

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wmc | @wmc | Feb 18 4:41pm
In reply to @georgescraftjr "@katrina123 Yes, heaven help all of us caregivers. (Sometimes, I am so exhausted that I pick..." + (show)
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@katrina123

Yes, heaven help all of us caregivers. (Sometimes, I am so exhausted that I pick up a tube of hydrocortisone cream or Preparation H, and start putting it on my toothbrush! Many times through the day, I misplace my car keys or wallet. Franakly, I need a caretaker myself.)

Sometime ago, one of the forum members posted this poem--and @wmc reads it daily, and I am reposting it because I need to read it daily, too:

Do not ask me to remember,
Don’t try to make me understand,
Let me rest and know you’re with me,
Kiss my cheek and hold my hand.
I’m confused beyond your concept,
I am sad and sick and lost.
All I know is that I need you
To be with me at all cost.
Do not lose your patience with me,
Do not scold or curse or cry.
I can’t help the way I’m acting,
Can’t be different though I try.
Just remember that I need you,
That the best of me is gone,
Please don’t fail to stand beside me,
Love me ’til my life is done.
– Owen Darnell

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@georgescraftjr I’ve read the poem so many times that I’ve memorized it. My husband was officially diagnosed with moderate late stage Alzheimer’s along with Vascular dementia in December and this poem is on point. Gone are the days of celebrating birthdays, anniversaries since he doesn’t know what day, month or year it is. We don’t dine out since he tires easily and crowds/ loud environments stress him. We do the best we can with our situation. There are times when he lashes out due to frustration, that’s when I think of the previous moments when he tells me he how much he loves me, that he appreciates everything I do for him and that he wouldn’t trade me for anything or anyone in the world. The poem puts this terrible disease in perspective. God bless and help all of us who care for a loved one.

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