Depression and Anxiety at an older age

Posted by pjss48 @pjss48, Sep 14, 2018

I am a 70 year old woman who has had depression and anxiety for a long time. It got worse 3 years ago when my husband lost one of his jobs. I panicked and my anxiety increased. I was afraid to do things. like driving. I have arthritis pretty bad and foot problems. I’m a Christian and my faith has helped me. My husband was a pastor and our church closed 3 months ago. We’ve had continual stress. Sometimes I don’t know what to do with myself during the day. I’ve gotten help from several doctors, including a psychiatrist. I also have IBS. I am better. I’m taking trazadone duloxetine, remeron and xanax. Also on osteo biflex, probiotic , bentyl and celebrex. I want to get on Sam e but it may interact with one of my meds. Thanks for listening.

@mattie

I own her house and still paying so I have no choice but to move in. I am scared, but no other way

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@mattie I read this three times before I decided to jump in. Jim is correct you have to protect yourself. Let APS know you need a safety visit. After you protect yourself ( can you put a lock on your door inside) You have the right to declare your position to be able to live in your home without fear of aggression. And you can rent her space out if you have to evict her. You are not the beggar. The thought she doesn't have the upper hand may change her attitude. You may have to deal with the possibility that she is unable to cooperate. Again APS is your best friend.
It's not the first time a younger person loses their ability to function. An emergency pendant would be great protection in case of an emergency. And just squeezing it will get an immediate response. I don't know how sophisticated they are now but I'm thinking seriously of getting one because no-one could hear me in here and my dog doesn't have opposable thumbs. You will survive be strong.

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There are senior centers in my area but none have been open since COVID-19 began. Everything is closed, libraries and so forth. Mayo Connect is my means of socialization and support.

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Ring our doorbell. 🔔
Someone will always answer❣️

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I belong to two senior centers:
1. One because we have a university prof as the director of our chorus: such a change of mood!
We are presently on “vacation” because of the virus.

2. Second senior center is offering violin lessons.. I have my ‘adolescent’ violin
And I am surprised that I remember the fingering, positions, etc.
It is never too late to begin again.
3. Exercise program: used to be Eurythmics and Jackie Sorenson Dance… moving to music… loved it…I was a frustrated dancer whose parents could not afford music lesson AND .. the 💃🏼
Find what you love 💕 and do it if you can… OR encourage, support someone else. (There is joy in that, too.)

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@lolaemma

@mattie I read this three times before I decided to jump in. Jim is correct you have to protect yourself. Let APS know you need a safety visit. After you protect yourself ( can you put a lock on your door inside) You have the right to declare your position to be able to live in your home without fear of aggression. And you can rent her space out if you have to evict her. You are not the beggar. The thought she doesn't have the upper hand may change her attitude. You may have to deal with the possibility that she is unable to cooperate. Again APS is your best friend.
It's not the first time a younger person loses their ability to function. An emergency pendant would be great protection in case of an emergency. And just squeezing it will get an immediate response. I don't know how sophisticated they are now but I'm thinking seriously of getting one because no-one could hear me in here and my dog doesn't have opposable thumbs. You will survive be strong.

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I plead ignorance. What is APS?

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@helenfrances

I plead ignorance. What is APS?

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@helenfrances Ellen, it stands for Adult Protective Services, who help to stop elder abuse.
Ginger

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Hi all. I have fought anxiety and depression since in 30's, now 63. My family dr is trying to wean me off xanax, which I have been on for many years, at one point 6mg day. Have GAD. He is now trying to wean me off since I have been on so much for so long. Also have med resistant major depression also fighting for years. Tried at least 20 meds. Two rounds of psychotherapy for 6 months each time and 4 shock treatments which I could not complete due to anxiety. Memory is poor, husband does everything and is disabled to to numerous back surgeries. Feel guilty about that. Also have chronic pancreatitis, IBS, fibro and scoliosis with no energy. Point being, if anyone can help, dr has changed me from daily dosage of (3) .5mg of xanax to daily dosage of (3) 5mg xanax daily. This equals to half amount of benzodiazepines I had been taking, according to chart on internet. Question being how long am I going to feel this crazy and restless? Take 300mg Wellbutrin in am and 50mg Trazadone before bed. Any insite would be appreciated and it's been a long time since I have taken a shower, no energy, losing weight. If anyone could help me to know how long this reduction in benzodiazepines is going to make me feel crazy? Don't really know how to use forums but best of luck to all of you!

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@tryingtogetbetter haven't you found Xanax to be very addicting? My mother was on it and became very addicted. She became very dependent on it. At one point she used to take a little extra .5. She felt that some day she wouldn't wake up because of the Xanax. I would be afraid to use that drug after what she experienced.

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@lsittll

@tryingtogetbetter haven't you found Xanax to be very addicting? My mother was on it and became very addicted. She became very dependent on it. At one point she used to take a little extra .5. She felt that some day she wouldn't wake up because of the Xanax. I would be afraid to use that drug after what she experienced.

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Thank you for responding. Very hard to go off xanax even with the diazepam. Sick of all medication and their side effects.

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What does flagged mean

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@tryingtogetbetter

What does flagged mean

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Meant dr put me on (3) 5mg diazepam daily instead of (3) .05mg xanax daily. Am I having withdrawals since benzodiazepines were upbruptly cut in half. Husband calling dr tomorrow. This kind of thing only happens on weekends when their office is closed! Husband doesn't talk to me very much so appreciate your communications! Thanks again!

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Your doctor abruptly switched you to diazepam?

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@sears

Your doctor abruptly switched you to diazepam?

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Can anyone tell me which antidepressants have no anticholinergic effects? I am reading a lot about the possible associations between anticholinergic meds and dementia in the elderly.

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@gingerw

@helenfrances Ellen, it stands for Adult Protective Services, who help to stop elder abuse.
Ginger

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Thank you, Ginger.
Is APS a state ….and national organization?

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@helenfrances

Thank you, Ginger.
Is APS a state ….and national organization?

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@helenfrances It is the adult version of Child Protective Services. The website http://www.napsa-now.org is for the national organization and has a lot of good information.
Ginger

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