pjss48
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Depression and Anxiety at an older age
I am a 70 year old woman who has had depression and anxiety for a long time. It got worse 3 years ago when my husband lost one of his jobs. I panicked and my anxiety increased. I was afraid to do things. like driving. I have arthritis pretty bad and foot problems. I’m a Christian and my faith has helped me. My husband was a pastor and our church closed 3 months ago. We’ve had continual stress. Sometimes I don’t know what to do with myself during the day. I’ve gotten help from several doctors, including a psychiatrist. I also have IBS. I am better. I’m taking trazadone duloxetine, remeron and xanax. Also on osteo biflex, probiotic , bentyl and celebrex. I want to get on Sam e but it may interact with one of my meds. Thanks for listening.
lsittll
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Going to work can help in many ways. I've always been told it would do so for me. But after applying and not getting a job because of not being given a chance I got even more down. Then I learned people at an older age (in their 50s) aren't given as much of a chance in being hired, But yesterday a nice surprise came for me. I'll be working as an independent contractor with NexRep next month. It will be at home so I won't have the benefit of socialism but at least it can help ease those financial worries and the depression they cause
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Going to work can help in many ways. I've always been told it would do so for me. But after applying and not getting a job because of not being given a chance I got even more down. Then I learned people at an older age (in their 50s) aren't given as much of a chance in being hired, But yesterday a nice surprise came for me. I'll be working as an independent contractor with NexRep next month. It will be at home so I won't have the benefit of socialism but at least it can help ease those financial worries and the depression they cause
Congrats!!
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I am moving for the same reasonl….now my daughter has turned to be very depressed and sour and mean. I am scared but have no choice.
@mattie Are you saying that you're moving to be closer to your daughter, or are you moving to get away from her? Are you certain that you have no choice? I hope that whatever decision you make will be healthy for you, as you are the person you have to answer to, and self-care and self-advocacy are vital for us who are seniors.
Jim
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I own her house and still paying so I have no choice but to move in. I am scared, but no other way
That's a difficult situation to be in. Are you afraid of what your daughter might do? If you don't feel safe, you could consider giving a heads up to Adult protective services. If you're scared of physical danger, is there someone close by you can call in an emergency? It's important to have a safety net and a safety plan. Before I was released from the post suicide attempt facility, I was required to have both.
Please stay safe.
Jim
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fiesty76
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Going to work can help in many ways. I've always been told it would do so for me. But after applying and not getting a job because of not being given a chance I got even more down. Then I learned people at an older age (in their 50s) aren't given as much of a chance in being hired, But yesterday a nice surprise came for me. I'll be working as an independent contractor with NexRep next month. It will be at home so I won't have the benefit of socialism but at least it can help ease those financial worries and the depression they cause
@isittll, Congratulations on your new position as an independent contractor. Hope it goes well for you and imagine the added income will come in handy.
Ellen
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Going to work can help in many ways. I've always been told it would do so for me. But after applying and not getting a job because of not being given a chance I got even more down. Then I learned people at an older age (in their 50s) aren't given as much of a chance in being hired, But yesterday a nice surprise came for me. I'll be working as an independent contractor with NexRep next month. It will be at home so I won't have the benefit of socialism but at least it can help ease those financial worries and the depression they cause
Congratulations on your perseverance!
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lsittll
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@helenfrances
It has certainly taken a lot of perseverance! I have never been given a chance in life for sure! I lived in a small town where everyone knew my own business and knew that I had seizures. I couldn't even get a volunteer job. When I had my only job I was fired after having a seizure. Twenty years ago I moved to the city. My past lack of work and not being given a chance now doesn't let prospective employers want to give me a chance. The heck with the work world. Jobs are mostly at home today so I thought do it!
lolaemma
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@helenfrances
It has certainly taken a lot of perseverance! I have never been given a chance in life for sure! I lived in a small town where everyone knew my own business and knew that I had seizures. I couldn't even get a volunteer job. When I had my only job I was fired after having a seizure. Twenty years ago I moved to the city. My past lack of work and not being given a chance now doesn't let prospective employers want to give me a chance. The heck with the work world. Jobs are mostly at home today so I thought do it!
@hellenfrances good for you. Keep your strength up and keep on truck'n. Life is hard and then you push back. Wonderful attitude.
Ellen
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@hellenfrances good for you. Keep your strength up and keep on truck'n. Life is hard and then you push back. Wonderful attitude.
Yes. My husband works from home.
Are you a computer person like he is?
I am not sure that I could do what he does…. teaches on line during the pandemic.
Ellen
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I noticed that there are many jobs on line(need a computer) and by phone.
Calling customers, sending information, follow up calls to
ask if customers were satisfied, making appointments for
various companies and calling their customers to confirm appointments.
We were recently called to ask when we wanted our fallen tree removed. The caller was new to the job and arranged day and time with us. I think she was an older woman.
Driving people to medical appointments?… probably need insurance for that one… unless the agency provides the car and insurance.
I have seen some interesting job advertisements in the local newspaper.
Our Senior Center has a job bank and that has been a good source for jobs.
Let us know how your search is going.
I will be praying that you find a job that is just right for you!
🙏
lolaemma
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I am moving for the same reasonl….now my daughter has turned to be very depressed and sour and mean. I am scared but have no choice.
Thank you Mattie I was reluctant to chime in you encouraged me. As soon as I realized I had to make a choice because although I loved CA the smoke was and had continued to sicken me. I knew living near my daughters or grands would be as bad as staying put. Along time friend encouraged me to move to North Carolina and stay with her. Didn't realize it included 7cats and her 3 pkg of cigs a day.Even after I moved away I didn't feel right here. No matter where you are there are agencies to get some relief. Senior centers have people you can talk to about your situation. Someone I met told me about this complex with affordable apartments. Local bulletin boards online or at the grocery ads in the senior magazines. Wanted ads. It took awhile but I'm really sure that this is where I'm staying. If you speak up for yourself and can't get resolution take charge of yourself. Ask your therapist for resources contact old friends neighbors for info. You're driving great look for a group of like minded people in your new and/or old community. Move on doesn't necessarily mean physically.
lolaemma
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I noticed that there are many jobs on line(need a computer) and by phone.
Calling customers, sending information, follow up calls to
ask if customers were satisfied, making appointments for
various companies and calling their customers to confirm appointments.
We were recently called to ask when we wanted our fallen tree removed. The caller was new to the job and arranged day and time with us. I think she was an older woman.
Driving people to medical appointments?… probably need insurance for that one… unless the agency provides the car and insurance.
I have seen some interesting job advertisements in the local newspaper.
Our Senior Center has a job bank and that has been a good source for jobs.
Let us know how your search is going.
I will be praying that you find a job that is just right for you!
🙏
Wonderful and well stated thank you for posting it
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@annieb0188 I feel for you and hope you can work through this. If I could go back 20 years I’d focus on not “ awfulizing” situations. Usually things don’t turn out as bad as us anxious people project.
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