Depression and Anxiety at an older age

Posted by pjss48 @pjss48, Sep 14, 2018

I am a 70 year old woman who has had depression and anxiety for a long time. It got worse 3 years ago when my husband lost one of his jobs. I panicked and my anxiety increased. I was afraid to do things. like driving. I have arthritis pretty bad and foot problems. I’m a Christian and my faith has helped me. My husband was a pastor and our church closed 3 months ago. We’ve had continual stress. Sometimes I don’t know what to do with myself during the day. I’ve gotten help from several doctors, including a psychiatrist. I also have IBS. I am better. I’m taking trazadone duloxetine, remeron and xanax. Also on osteo biflex, probiotic , bentyl and celebrex. I want to get on Sam e but it may interact with one of my meds. Thanks for listening.


Hello again, thank you for your reply and for sharing. That is precisely what I am afraid of, that he is being overmedicated or wrongly medicated which is not good at any age. I was astonished to see the amount of medicines that he is currently taking:
Citalopram 20mg, Alprazolam (Xanax) 1mg, Metformin 500gr (twice a day for his Type 2 Diabetes, Memantine 20mg, Bisoprolol Fumarate 2.5mg (for high blood pressure), and Aspirin 81mg
It has gotten so bad that the last time I spoke with him over the phone he scared me because he said he just wanted to die. I want to help my mom as much as possible as she is his caretaker, but we (my sisters and myself) live very far apart from them so we are only able to help from a distance until this whole pandemic is over. Again, thank you so much for reading 🙂

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@dmho It's hard to be away from loved ones when they are in need of our help. I like @fiesty76's suggestion of teleconferencing with the provider. It must be alarming and unsettling that your father is making comments about despair and death. It's normal to talk about death and to have fleeting suicidal thoughts. However it should always take them seriously.

Has he made these kinds of comments in the past? Has he recently been prescribed medication that has a suicide warning? I might suggest calling for a welfare check if you feel he is in imminent danger. If you feel that he is not in imminent danger then I'd suggest calling his provider directly.

If your father has signed a release of information you should be able to ask them questions about your father's care and medication. If your father has not signed a release then you would still be able to give the provider information. Do you think your father would be open to your calling his provider regarding his comments about death?

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