Depression and Anxiety at an older age

Posted by pjss48 @pjss48, Sep 14, 2018

I am a 70 year old woman who has had depression and anxiety for a long time. It got worse 3 years ago when my husband lost one of his jobs. I panicked and my anxiety increased. I was afraid to do things. like driving. I have arthritis pretty bad and foot problems. I’m a Christian and my faith has helped me. My husband was a pastor and our church closed 3 months ago. We’ve had continual stress. Sometimes I don’t know what to do with myself during the day. I’ve gotten help from several doctors, including a psychiatrist. I also have IBS. I am better. I’m taking trazadone duloxetine, remeron and xanax. Also on osteo biflex, probiotic , bentyl and celebrex. I want to get on Sam e but it may interact with one of my meds. Thanks for listening.

@mimi3blessings – I have had that feeling like swimming through molasses, not wanting to get up in the morning and not knowing what to do because I have too much to do. Cleaning up all the junk I have collected is overwhelming. One thing that has helped is me is to make a list, including things that I like to do. For me, I make time for art and writing, and a bike ride when it's not too hot. Taking the first step in the morning is the hardest, but if I force myself to take that first step, I can keep going. The shutdown of most things lately because of COVID) makes it especially hard. At the end of the day, I make a list of the things I have done, even if it is just washing the dishes. It's like making my own reason for living. One of the hard things about all the stuff I'm cleaning up is that a lot of it is composed of projects I always wanted to do, but didn't have time to do. I'm 68 and finally have the time to choose what I want to do and follow through. don't have to do any of it if I don't want to. Plus I I also have some activities, such as a weight loss meeting or volunteer activity that gives me a definite time to be somewhere and do something.

I also have dealt with depression, anxiety, and not feeling worthwhile all my life. I know how hard it is to deal with chronic pain. You can get through it. I had one friend who was 87 or so. She was born in 1900 and died when she was 90. One of the things that gave her purpose was to write notes to people at church (Happy Birthday, Anniversary, Get Well, etc.) She had a table set up with all her supplies so she was ready to do it every day.

I'm getting long winded, so I will close by sending you encouragement, prayers, and virtual hugs. I hope I haven;t been overwhelming.

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@gailb

@pjss48 and everyone,

I suffered from depression, anxiety and panic attacks for most of my life. I used to take Lorazepam to control my anxiety and panic attacks only when they were particularly bad. About 6 years ago, I started taking Citalopram antidepressant. It took me a few months to realize that I was no longer having panic attacks or anxiety! I couldn't even take airplanes before due to my panic but now I really enjoy flying. Perhaps you can get DNA testing to determine if you are taking the antidepressant that will work best for you. I think I accidentally started on the best one for me.

Another thing that I recently started doing again is Yoga. I do a class that is specifically designed for seniors (I'm nearly 70). My very first session I felt so much better! I'm continuing to do weekly yoga and feel so much more energy when I'm done. I took yoga for about 10 years previously, but since I retired and moved 3 years ago, I haven't done it. I'm so happy I restarted it. The thing is, you can go at your own speed with Restorative Yoga or Hatha Yoga, as it's not a competition. Instead, it's a way to clear your mind and focus on the poses, your muscles, your breathing, and how to relax into the more difficult stretches and poses. I am much more active now that I've restarted.

I was feeling very lonely after my move to Southern California. My husband’s family is here and they're wonderful, but they all live far from us. I've also found that I can't talk about certain things that break the unwritten "code of silence." I am immediately "put down" by the matriarch when I do. So, I decided to check out the local Senior Center, which is where I found the yoga class. I've also been very active in support of my candidates of choice for the November election which has led to my meeting other people my age. As a result of both these new activities, I am making new friends. Two women from the yoga class have talked me into going to the watercolor class and the oil painting class. These have no costs associated (except for buying the supplies on my own), and sound good. There is also a chorus that meets and I'm thinking of joining it as well. A few months ago I wanted to do these things, but I was nervous about being judged for not being great at any of them. Since I started yoga, I'm no longer nervous about participating. I even had a very good lunch there last week for only $3.00. They serve seniors every weekday, which saves lots of $$, especially in California. I met more nice people there who told me how I can get "no cost" yoga through Kaiser Permanente Medicare Advantage because they allow you to go to LA Fitness classes everyday of the week! I'm changing my Medicare program in October to Kaiser. I also learned that some of the community colleges around my city allow seniors to attend some classes for free!

What I'm trying to say is that by venturing out of my house and working on political campaigns and taking one yoga class, a whole world of activity choices and new potential friends opened for me. I am an extrovert, so sitting at home just saps me of life energy; I get depressed and start dying on the vine. I like and need to be around others with whom I can talk and interact. Perhaps if you have a community center close they may have programs that are attractive to you and will encourage you to find ways to get out. My downs always go away when I'm interacting with others–and taking my antidepressant.

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Citalopram and escitalopram both helped with my anxiety. However, I stopped taking them because I read about SSRI's possibly contributing to bone loss and dementia; both are concerns of mine. Do you know which class of meds is safe for someone with osteoporosis and brain fog?

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@stsopoci

Lexapro can be associated with bone density issues but not all have this issue, according to MAYO studies and others. If you exercise, eat right and have good health there seems to be no issue.

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I already have osteoporosis and cannot afford to risk getting back on Lexapro. Is there a way to find out whether I am one of the people who loses bone density from Lexapro?

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@Liane1

I already have osteoporosis and cannot afford to risk getting back on Lexapro. Is there a way to find out whether I am one of the people who loses bone density from Lexapro?

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@Liane1
You could ask your physician about drug gene testing known as pharmacogenomics.
I don’t know if it will specifically test for what you’re wanting but it’s worth asking your doctor or pharmacist about.
Take care,
Jake

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@lioness

@marieajean03 Welcome toconnect I had a bunion removal The surgery went well and I was home the same day . It was a simple procedure at a outpatient clinic l Dr did a great job and the follow up care was also good . Make sure someone is with you to drive going and back

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I have a developing bunion and other than occasional shooting pain it is ok and I can do most activities (not running though). I fear it will progress and will need surgery. How long was your recovery time? And have you been able to resume all normal activities?. I like to walk but get sore quickly. I read it is a 6 week recovery and no driving. I live in the country- that would isolate me completely. Totally dreading this, especially since I think it has begun on my other foot a little as well.

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@Liane1

I already have osteoporosis and cannot afford to risk getting back on Lexapro. Is there a way to find out whether I am one of the people who loses bone density from Lexapro?

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@Liane1 Wow this scares me. I have been on Lexapro for some time and my bones are soft, since I found out after my 9 hour back surgery. Going to ask my Surgeon assistant and my psychiatrist. Thank you for the info and where did you find it?

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@junkartist

@mimi3blessings – I have had that feeling like swimming through molasses, not wanting to get up in the morning and not knowing what to do because I have too much to do. Cleaning up all the junk I have collected is overwhelming. One thing that has helped is me is to make a list, including things that I like to do. For me, I make time for art and writing, and a bike ride when it's not too hot. Taking the first step in the morning is the hardest, but if I force myself to take that first step, I can keep going. The shutdown of most things lately because of COVID) makes it especially hard. At the end of the day, I make a list of the things I have done, even if it is just washing the dishes. It's like making my own reason for living. One of the hard things about all the stuff I'm cleaning up is that a lot of it is composed of projects I always wanted to do, but didn't have time to do. I'm 68 and finally have the time to choose what I want to do and follow through. don't have to do any of it if I don't want to. Plus I I also have some activities, such as a weight loss meeting or volunteer activity that gives me a definite time to be somewhere and do something.

I also have dealt with depression, anxiety, and not feeling worthwhile all my life. I know how hard it is to deal with chronic pain. You can get through it. I had one friend who was 87 or so. She was born in 1900 and died when she was 90. One of the things that gave her purpose was to write notes to people at church (Happy Birthday, Anniversary, Get Well, etc.) She had a table set up with all her supplies so she was ready to do it every day.

I'm getting long winded, so I will close by sending you encouragement, prayers, and virtual hugs. I hope I haven;t been overwhelming.

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OH, Mimi, you sound just like me. I feel nothing now, I feel like I am sitting here waiting to die. I have so much to do to move…It is so hard to just throw things out…no one wants anything with this covid stuff…No one ever says a word of encouragement. I thank :God I have my dog. I try, but I have pain too, and other issues that I am not able to talk about . My daughter hangs up if I tell her I hurt and I have no other family. I need help but can't afford to pay anymore. Life has become an endurance trial. I am in my late 70's.

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@junkartist

@mimi3blessings – I have had that feeling like swimming through molasses, not wanting to get up in the morning and not knowing what to do because I have too much to do. Cleaning up all the junk I have collected is overwhelming. One thing that has helped is me is to make a list, including things that I like to do. For me, I make time for art and writing, and a bike ride when it's not too hot. Taking the first step in the morning is the hardest, but if I force myself to take that first step, I can keep going. The shutdown of most things lately because of COVID) makes it especially hard. At the end of the day, I make a list of the things I have done, even if it is just washing the dishes. It's like making my own reason for living. One of the hard things about all the stuff I'm cleaning up is that a lot of it is composed of projects I always wanted to do, but didn't have time to do. I'm 68 and finally have the time to choose what I want to do and follow through. don't have to do any of it if I don't want to. Plus I I also have some activities, such as a weight loss meeting or volunteer activity that gives me a definite time to be somewhere and do something.

I also have dealt with depression, anxiety, and not feeling worthwhile all my life. I know how hard it is to deal with chronic pain. You can get through it. I had one friend who was 87 or so. She was born in 1900 and died when she was 90. One of the things that gave her purpose was to write notes to people at church (Happy Birthday, Anniversary, Get Well, etc.) She had a table set up with all her supplies so she was ready to do it every day.

I'm getting long winded, so I will close by sending you encouragement, prayers, and virtual hugs. I hope I haven;t been overwhelming.

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I feel the same way everyday. I’m 65 but can hardly walk or stand anymore because of terrible pain in my feet and back. I’ve accumulated so much stuff and it is hard to get rid of things but I keep trying. I make lists too and ck off what I do get done each day even if it’s a small thing. It helps to read what others are going through so I don’t feel alone, but sad so many people have these problems. I cope by being thankful for the life I have had and for my daughter and grandchildren even though I don’t get to see them as much as I’d like because I can’t do the things they can do. I rent a mobility scooter if we do go to the zoo or places that have them. Wish I did have more close friends and family in my life. I’m alone most days and do get very lonely. Yet I appreciate what and who I do have in my life.

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@mp54chi

I feel the same way everyday. I’m 65 but can hardly walk or stand anymore because of terrible pain in my feet and back. I’ve accumulated so much stuff and it is hard to get rid of things but I keep trying. I make lists too and ck off what I do get done each day even if it’s a small thing. It helps to read what others are going through so I don’t feel alone, but sad so many people have these problems. I cope by being thankful for the life I have had and for my daughter and grandchildren even though I don’t get to see them as much as I’d like because I can’t do the things they can do. I rent a mobility scooter if we do go to the zoo or places that have them. Wish I did have more close friends and family in my life. I’m alone most days and do get very lonely. Yet I appreciate what and who I do have in my life.

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You are not alone. It takes effort to escape a self imposed prison. My family is spread out. Taking care of your own needs includes finding joy. Arthritic fingers can use a stylus. There are several catalogs with items to make everything less painful. I've used a sockpuller a 36in long shoe horn permanent and moveable grab bars and a toilet seat riser. My night light is motion sensor. A strong grabber prevents dropping and falling. I was a tech now a mechanic. Computers are less expensive and more accessible. Skype Zoom FaceTime for family contact. Lately we've been texting to accommodate for our differing schedules. My emtional therapy pet walks me 2 or3 times a day. I use a longhandled rake and brucket to clean up after her. Online you can prepare all kinds of greetings with applications that do as much as you want or as little. Senior contact is available look for
it. AARP Senior Times online and at the grocery store. It takes more effort to isolate yourself than to reach out. I've been dreaming about a. mobility cart but there aren't any sidewalks here. Talk to a senior counselor through your doctor if no senior center nearby. Age is a number. Years ago in an email class the 96 yr old guy got the first first answer. Discuss your feelings about not being able to keep with them. Give them an opportunity to work on it with you. Music for every taste is available on several venues. I Heart is. on my TV and computer. I bought a used radio st the animal rescue thriftshop. If you like puzzles there are all kinds of word games puzzles games they keep minds working. Ttake care of yourself.

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MUCH THE SAME SCENARIO ABOUT DEPRESSION, ALONE, AND old! PLS. WRITE CONNECTIONS/ADDRESS, PHONE #'S FOR USEFUL TOOLS ETC. YOU SUGGEST. PLS.REPLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hi @tens4u5125 What type of connections and tools are you looking to obtain?

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, At first, I had to do a double take because I thought the j was an i. WHAT?? That's would be something you might think a depressed person would say. I, too, am a Christian. I am older than both of you. I have suffered with depression since I was a child told by my grandmother and mother that I was not wanted. I should write a book–then perhaps people would understand. I take pain pills. Nothing for depression at the moment. I have been having problems with my heart rate–my bp got to 200/100 at 1:00am. This happens usually at bedtime. My bp sky rockets. I am extremely depressed! I have been hibernating since February. My children came only once–I made them stay outside. I just don't think this is living. If I am confined for months and months, not seeing anyone, no friends, no church, no Bible Study, no kids, what is really the sense of living? My brother shot himself at the age 27 because his beautiful wife fell in love with his best friend. They had three beautiful children a five-year-old boy, a three-and one-year old girls. My mother suffered from depression also. That only added to it. She married the love of her life at the age 17. Dad was the same age. The problem was he loved all women. My mother suffered a broken heart. All the kids knew it. He was also very abusive and alcoholic. I cried myself to sleep many a night. Then I married a man just like him. I was 17. So, this wasn't meant to be so long. It just gives you insight to why people are depressed. God bless us each and everyone! If it were not for Jesus, I would not be here today.

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@mattie

OH, Mimi, you sound just like me. I feel nothing now, I feel like I am sitting here waiting to die. I have so much to do to move…It is so hard to just throw things out…no one wants anything with this covid stuff…No one ever says a word of encouragement. I thank :God I have my dog. I try, but I have pain too, and other issues that I am not able to talk about . My daughter hangs up if I tell her I hurt and I have no other family. I need help but can't afford to pay anymore. Life has become an endurance trial. I am in my late 70's.

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Waiting to die. I pray that we believe we have a better place in Heaven if we believe in and accept Jesus as our Lord and savior. If we do, we are not going to die. We will get rid of these hurting bodies and get new bodies that have no pain. This is my hope. I too, am thinking about being isolated so much, what else do we have to look forward to? If our kids had a new baby, we wouldn't be allowed near it. Oh, it is sad.

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@woogie

Waiting to die. I pray that we believe we have a better place in Heaven if we believe in and accept Jesus as our Lord and savior. If we do, we are not going to die. We will get rid of these hurting bodies and get new bodies that have no pain. This is my hope. I too, am thinking about being isolated so much, what else do we have to look forward to? If our kids had a new baby, we wouldn't be allowed near it. Oh, it is sad.

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I to believe in heaven after death. But Jesus wants us to persevere on earth and be a positive influence to the younger. You should read the bible and maybe write down about your life. It would be something you can leave for other generations to learn from! Don’t give up. Things could change tomorrow. God bless you.

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@lilypaws

@Liane1 Wow this scares me. I have been on Lexapro for some time and my bones are soft, since I found out after my 9 hour back surgery. Going to ask my Surgeon assistant and my psychiatrist. Thank you for the info and where did you find it?

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