Dealing with anxiety/guilt over spouse in LTC with Dementia
My wife is in a LTC facility. She’s been there now for 9 months. I go to see her practically every day. I do her laundry. I walk with her when she’s up to it (she shuffles only) & I stay for 2-3 hours at a time.When I leave I feel I am cheating her somehow with not enough of my time. Yet many times she doesn’t know I’m there or she doesn’t seem to know when I leave. Trouble is it bothers me. Someone recently said to me that I am “keeping” her too close to me. I agree but I haven’t found the right way to lose those emotions. I am taking time off this year to do some short trips and I hope that I can take my mind off her and enjoy my travels. Has anyone else had this same situation? Sometimes I am anxious to get there to be with her and sometimes I wish I hadn’t gone because she either sleeps or doesn’t acknowledge my presence. That part doesn’t bother me personally but I say to myself I might as well leave then. Talk about guilt!