My husband sometimes doesn't know who I am: Anyone else had this?

Posted by bls89 @bls89, Jan 15 4:21am

My husband didn't know me for about 30 minutes. Anyone else experience this?

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labrown | @labrown | Jan 15 6:47am

Yes, sadly it happens, or he associates me with someone else.

Gratia | @gratia | Jan 17 11:27am

Yes, my mother forgets and doesn’t recognize me frequently and it happened with the grandchildren recently. It’s really hard. I can’t imagine having it happen with a spouse.
You are not alone.
Sending virtual hugs & support ❤️

bayviewgal | @bayviewgal | Jan 23 11:38am

@bls89 unfortunately alot of us have gone thru this but i remind myself not to take it personally. I will help remind him with little subtle memories but not too much to add to his confusion. I just keep loving him like I always have because I remember who HE is or was! Which is what helps me keep going. Because there are times when he DOES remember and that's what makes my heart melt because there is still "something" there 🙂
Love, Peace and Strength to you

labrown | @labrown | Jan 26 6:00am

Thank you for your response. You are so right when you say “I just keep loving him like I always have because I remember who He is or was.” Some days that can be hard but like you, the times he does remember are so precious to me.

Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Feb 6 7:38pm

@bls89, I hope you read the supportive replies others have left for you. It's sad when the person you've shared a life with doesn't know who you are, even if only for a short period. It's sad, bewildering, and it hurts. You tell yourself, "it's the disease." But it still hurts.

Sending you a gentle embrace of understanding.

jsaved74 | @jsaved74 | Feb 7 4:01pm

Yes, a while back we stopped giving him Aricept because he didn’t want to take it anymore because he was losing weight .. started getting really confused. Did not know me. I would be laying in bed with him and he’d call my daughter looking for me, but he got back on the meds and after a couple of months, he was not hallucinating or thinking that I wasn’t his wife He’s back on the meds and things are stable and he recognizes me again, but yes, it does hurt but I know that that is the disease. My mother went through the same thing and didn’t recognize me as her daughter so I have been there before, but when it’s your spouse it hurts more especially after being married for 55 years. Hang in there .. if it wasn’t for the Lord being my strength I don’t know what I would do ♥️