Being Old With Chronic Pain plus Loneliness

Posted by Parus @parus, Jul 17, 2017
@parus

@jimhd Yes, she did…return on this next Thursday and see what the quackie has to prescribe then…that wasn’t nice to say. Give the newbie a chance. This oldie is in mega pain and not a happy camper. All of the stress also has neuropathy in an uproar…whine, whine, whine. Also give my body time to adjust to a new foreign substance. Stuff happens. Currently I am feeling like your profile picture…downright pathetic.

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@jimhd OMG, was that I saw carrying those paint buckets years ago??? We may have passed each other at some point both doing the same thing. Those high ceilings w/ scaffolding were the most fun…arrgghh. Somewhere I mentioned being prescribed a bp med-drinking plenty of water and feet swelling worse. Give my body time to adjust was the instruction given. Only started it last Friday. Oh well, so much for it working to reduce swelling in feet…hope they don’t explode as that would leave a mess…

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@parus

@jimhd Yes, she did…return on this next Thursday and see what the quackie has to prescribe then…that wasn’t nice to say. Give the newbie a chance. This oldie is in mega pain and not a happy camper. All of the stress also has neuropathy in an uproar…whine, whine, whine. Also give my body time to adjust to a new foreign substance. Stuff happens. Currently I am feeling like your profile picture…downright pathetic.

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@lillyanne – I’m glad you’re seeing doctors. I know what a challenge it can be to diagnose things that may or may not be related .

Jim

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@lillyanne

Paracat~ please don’t give up on a new puppy friend! My income is rated as 80% below poverty. I have 2 Service Dogs & an antique cat. I truly believe when we talk to each other about animals, friends & family we lost that they will all get to know each other in Heaven & be there to greet us when we get there. At that time we will have a relaxed ‘knowing’ of being connected in peace & contentment.

As the Anniversary of Toby’s passing approaches maybe you will have strength to find a joy to mark the occasion. I like to go to a Shelter & take a caged doggie out for a walk, give them lots of love & tell them about my lost loved one. This can honor Toby & give another dog hope. Some say it is too cruel to take a dog out for a walk like this then leave. After years of doing so I feel it gives them hope, encouragement, fresh air & exercise. They need to interact with a variety of people-it will make them more adoptable. Next month is the one year anniversary of my dear sister’s death. She love’s doggies as I do. She has many in Heaven & a few of mine too! Message me if you want some suggestions on getting a puppy. There’s even ways you can Foster & receive money for food & Vet care. Please excuse me if I’ve been too personal.

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@paracat, I apologize that this took me a week to find, but I think you would like the conversation on pets and how they can help us heal. You can find that discussion here, https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/what-pets-can-do-health-and-healing/. Just click on the link and you will meet many members talking about the therapeutic value of having pets.

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I relate with your post. Although I would have never thought of myself as old at 56, contrary to my grandchildren’s beliefs, I feel much older than my age due to my pain. I am no longer able to drive and I have had to move in with my daughter and her family. They go about their lives and I am often left home because of my pain and that increases my loneliness 10 fold. I try to read or stay busy but my pain interferes with it so I’m left to rest. I do watch my grandchildren from time to time and I enjoy it so much. Lately since my pain has increased,spinal compression fracture, I can’t do hardly anything at all. I get sad at times but not really depressed because I’m alone in a bedroom most of the time. I guess it just takes time to adjust to a new situation and I really miss living in my own home with my belongings. Most of my house was put into storage in anticipation of getting better and going back to my own place. I’m not sure if I will be able to afford it again since being disabled and having to live off Social Security alone. So yes I understand being older, in pain and feeling alone unfortunately more than I thought I’d ever admit out loud. Peace to you and I hope you find comfort in life each day. Bekie

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@bekie

I relate with your post. Although I would have never thought of myself as old at 56, contrary to my grandchildren’s beliefs, I feel much older than my age due to my pain. I am no longer able to drive and I have had to move in with my daughter and her family. They go about their lives and I am often left home because of my pain and that increases my loneliness 10 fold. I try to read or stay busy but my pain interferes with it so I’m left to rest. I do watch my grandchildren from time to time and I enjoy it so much. Lately since my pain has increased,spinal compression fracture, I can’t do hardly anything at all. I get sad at times but not really depressed because I’m alone in a bedroom most of the time. I guess it just takes time to adjust to a new situation and I really miss living in my own home with my belongings. Most of my house was put into storage in anticipation of getting better and going back to my own place. I’m not sure if I will be able to afford it again since being disabled and having to live off Social Security alone. So yes I understand being older, in pain and feeling alone unfortunately more than I thought I’d ever admit out loud. Peace to you and I hope you find comfort in life each day. Bekie

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@bekie I don’t think of myself as old at 66. I can still drive and I live alone in an apartment which is humiliating but the best choice for me. I could no longer take care of everything and this is the best I could do. In a way I feel alone as I learned the hard way not to have friends when living in this close of proximity with others. I can still draw and paint some although no longer do commission work. I was forced into retirement 10 years ago because of physical problems. Living on a fixed income is a challenge. Chronic pain (at times severe) has left me feeling useless. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I miss working and helping others. the last job I had was in landscape and design. I cannot stand, sit or lie down for long periods of time. I enjoy my 2 grand kids and spend time with them as I can. They help me realize I do have things to offer. I seldom ask another for help. If I cannot do something myself it does not need to be done. I am thankful I can drive again at times. No long trips. DDD of the neck and lumbar, fibromyalgia, scoliosis. You have a blessed day too.

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My reply is brief. Yes I am in the same boat as you. Chronic pain, loneliness, and old.

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@parus

The pain is so severe today. Can only do the best I can to ride it out. Doctor in the morning. Dubious as to any answers. Very discouraged and so alone in all of this struggle. Sorry for others adrift on the chronic pain boat. Has to be some kind of answer-surely there must be. Crying surely does not help.

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I have tried everything I have read about with claims of the one thing that will heal you and for sure get rid of pain. All the positive testimonys that that are reported are making me angry because they don’t work for me. How is it even possible that 25 creams 20 medications even stem cell have not worked for me. Is everyone lying. I am not a person that has no hope but I say when Lord is it my turn to have a day without pain? I hope to hear of someone that has been healed of pain from any source. My pain comes from osteoarthritis of knees and back. The first treatment I tried was to put a bar of soap in your bed at night. My two friends that are nurses told me this worked for them. My last information is to wrap aluminum around my feet at bedtime. In between was all the ways to be pain free and backed by scientific proof and information that sounded acceptable in the scientific world. I just read about Dr Koops remedy for healing chronic pain. I have 5 books I have not read because the print is rather small but I will check them out and try harder. Maybe in those books I will find an answer. If others can be free of chronic pain, so can we. I never give up in the midst of this adversity and I will keep on looking and hopefully I will have my answer to prayer. Don’t give up and I will share with you all if I find a healing remedy that is worth sharing. Bless you all and prayers to deliver you from the pain that envelopes you. Kate N

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@parus

To whomever-there is nothing more debilitating that being nothing more than a burden on society. I see myself as a useless piece of crap. Had an appointment w/ PCP this morning-a total disaster and it was not even my fault. Computers/keyboards failing. All of the noise sent me into PTSD. Final outcome-BP through the roof and being prescribed a BP med. Thank you technology for what you have done to my psyche. If I were a horse I would have been shot long ago. Yes, I am in a horrid place!!! Have to take another inappropriate med or be w/o a PCP. No need trying to explain or I will be locked up in a loony bin and forced to take poison.
So sorry. I am so discouraged and feeling so all alone. Oh please God, I can take no more of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I understand and was screaming at God yesterday. My son who has bipolar illness lives with me and I feel so horrible that his mother has to be this person she does not want to be. Maybe going back for massage therapy and foot cleansing that I used to do often was working. I will try again and stick with that program. KateN

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@parus

The pain is so severe today. Can only do the best I can to ride it out. Doctor in the morning. Dubious as to any answers. Very discouraged and so alone in all of this struggle. Sorry for others adrift on the chronic pain boat. Has to be some kind of answer-surely there must be. Crying surely does not help.

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If something sounds too good to be true…

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@parus

To whomever-there is nothing more debilitating that being nothing more than a burden on society. I see myself as a useless piece of crap. Had an appointment w/ PCP this morning-a total disaster and it was not even my fault. Computers/keyboards failing. All of the noise sent me into PTSD. Final outcome-BP through the roof and being prescribed a BP med. Thank you technology for what you have done to my psyche. If I were a horse I would have been shot long ago. Yes, I am in a horrid place!!! Have to take another inappropriate med or be w/o a PCP. No need trying to explain or I will be locked up in a loony bin and forced to take poison.
So sorry. I am so discouraged and feeling so all alone. Oh please God, I can take no more of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Comforting thing about at God is…He is big enough to take it.

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@parus

To whomever-there is nothing more debilitating that being nothing more than a burden on society. I see myself as a useless piece of crap. Had an appointment w/ PCP this morning-a total disaster and it was not even my fault. Computers/keyboards failing. All of the noise sent me into PTSD. Final outcome-BP through the roof and being prescribed a BP med. Thank you technology for what you have done to my psyche. If I were a horse I would have been shot long ago. Yes, I am in a horrid place!!! Have to take another inappropriate med or be w/o a PCP. No need trying to explain or I will be locked up in a loony bin and forced to take poison.
So sorry. I am so discouraged and feeling so all alone. Oh please God, I can take no more of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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@kjnor Are you helping or enabling your son? I know other parents who do this. There are many who are bipolar and function. Also those who use their bipolar disorder as an excuse to be pathetic and use others.
Not an accusation. A thought.

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@kjnor

My reply is brief. Yes I am in the same boat as you. Chronic pain, loneliness, and old.

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Uh, my boat is getting rather crowded with old folks in pain and lonely. So many in the same boat and so many still lonely. I choose lonely over being taken advantage of when there are things I “know” I have no business doing. Also grew weary of threats by others believing I need to do this, that and the other. If you do not, we will not. I did so for years believing pleasing others meant acceptance. It did as long as I pleased others. Now, I hear about how I make excuses and if I would just do more I would feel better. Sounds reasonable enough…also a crock as I have learned. I stay to myself. I am polite and respectful to others. Someone gets in my face I walk a way and pray they do not follow. Seems the universal language has become “rude”.
Fact is, body’s do wear out.

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