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Being Old With Chronic Pain plus Loneliness

Posted by @parus, Jul 17, 2017

Anyone else in the same boat?

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@parus

The pain is so severe today. Can only do the best I can to ride it out. Doctor in the morning. Dubious as to any answers. Very discouraged and so alone in all of this struggle. Sorry for others adrift on the chronic pain boat. Has to be some kind of answer-surely there must be. Crying surely does not help.

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I have tried everything I have read about with claims of the one thing that will heal you and for sure get rid of pain. All the positive testimonys that that are reported are making me angry because they don’t work for me. How is it even possible that 25 creams 20 medications even stem cell have not worked for me. Is everyone lying. I am not a person that has no hope but I say when Lord is it my turn to have a day without pain? I hope to hear of someone that has been healed of pain from any source. My pain comes from osteoarthritis of knees and back. The first treatment I tried was to put a bar of soap in your bed at night. My two friends that are nurses told me this worked for them. My last information is to wrap aluminum around my feet at bedtime. In between was all the ways to be pain free and backed by scientific proof and information that sounded acceptable in the scientific world. I just read about Dr Koops remedy for healing chronic pain. I have 5 books I have not read because the print is rather small but I will check them out and try harder. Maybe in those books I will find an answer. If others can be free of chronic pain, so can we. I never give up in the midst of this adversity and I will keep on looking and hopefully I will have my answer to prayer. Don’t give up and I will share with you all if I find a healing remedy that is worth sharing. Bless you all and prayers to deliver you from the pain that envelopes you. Kate N

@parus

To whomever-there is nothing more debilitating that being nothing more than a burden on society. I see myself as a useless piece of crap. Had an appointment w/ PCP this morning-a total disaster and it was not even my fault. Computers/keyboards failing. All of the noise sent me into PTSD. Final outcome-BP through the roof and being prescribed a BP med. Thank you technology for what you have done to my psyche. If I were a horse I would have been shot long ago. Yes, I am in a horrid place!!! Have to take another inappropriate med or be w/o a PCP. No need trying to explain or I will be locked up in a loony bin and forced to take poison.
So sorry. I am so discouraged and feeling so all alone. Oh please God, I can take no more of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I understand and was screaming at God yesterday. My son who has bipolar illness lives with me and I feel so horrible that his mother has to be this person she does not want to be. Maybe going back for massage therapy and foot cleansing that I used to do often was working. I will try again and stick with that program. KateN

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@parus

The pain is so severe today. Can only do the best I can to ride it out. Doctor in the morning. Dubious as to any answers. Very discouraged and so alone in all of this struggle. Sorry for others adrift on the chronic pain boat. Has to be some kind of answer-surely there must be. Crying surely does not help.

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If something sounds too good to be true…

@parus

To whomever-there is nothing more debilitating that being nothing more than a burden on society. I see myself as a useless piece of crap. Had an appointment w/ PCP this morning-a total disaster and it was not even my fault. Computers/keyboards failing. All of the noise sent me into PTSD. Final outcome-BP through the roof and being prescribed a BP med. Thank you technology for what you have done to my psyche. If I were a horse I would have been shot long ago. Yes, I am in a horrid place!!! Have to take another inappropriate med or be w/o a PCP. No need trying to explain or I will be locked up in a loony bin and forced to take poison.
So sorry. I am so discouraged and feeling so all alone. Oh please God, I can take no more of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Comforting thing about at God is…He is big enough to take it.

@parus

To whomever-there is nothing more debilitating that being nothing more than a burden on society. I see myself as a useless piece of crap. Had an appointment w/ PCP this morning-a total disaster and it was not even my fault. Computers/keyboards failing. All of the noise sent me into PTSD. Final outcome-BP through the roof and being prescribed a BP med. Thank you technology for what you have done to my psyche. If I were a horse I would have been shot long ago. Yes, I am in a horrid place!!! Have to take another inappropriate med or be w/o a PCP. No need trying to explain or I will be locked up in a loony bin and forced to take poison.
So sorry. I am so discouraged and feeling so all alone. Oh please God, I can take no more of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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@kjnor Are you helping or enabling your son? I know other parents who do this. There are many who are bipolar and function. Also those who use their bipolar disorder as an excuse to be pathetic and use others.
Not an accusation. A thought.

@kjnor

My reply is brief. Yes I am in the same boat as you. Chronic pain, loneliness, and old.

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Uh, my boat is getting rather crowded with old folks in pain and lonely. So many in the same boat and so many still lonely. I choose lonely over being taken advantage of when there are things I “know” I have no business doing. Also grew weary of threats by others believing I need to do this, that and the other. If you do not, we will not. I did so for years believing pleasing others meant acceptance. It did as long as I pleased others. Now, I hear about how I make excuses and if I would just do more I would feel better. Sounds reasonable enough…also a crock as I have learned. I stay to myself. I am polite and respectful to others. Someone gets in my face I walk a way and pray they do not follow. Seems the universal language has become “rude”.
Fact is, body’s do wear out.

One who does not believe in the medical realm or much of any thing else having some magical, lasting cure. Healing comes from within for some.

@parus

The chronic, extreme pain is wearing me down..Can’t change it, can’t fix it. Such a noisy world we live in!

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@parus

The pain is so severe today. Can only do the best I can to ride it out. Doctor in the morning. Dubious as to any answers. Very discouraged and so alone in all of this struggle. Sorry for others adrift on the chronic pain boat. Has to be some kind of answer-surely there must be. Crying surely does not help.

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There are likely some types of pain from which there is no relief. At times I keep going because I am mule-headed. I am not having physical pain. This pain is not real and I shall overcome-or not. Anger can be a positive motivator at times. Then there is the aftermath to deal with. I have had so much trouble with medications that I am dreadfully fearful of trying another. I abhor disappointment and the feeling I have failed because what helps others harms me.
Not much help here.

@parus

To whomever-there is nothing more debilitating that being nothing more than a burden on society. I see myself as a useless piece of crap. Had an appointment w/ PCP this morning-a total disaster and it was not even my fault. Computers/keyboards failing. All of the noise sent me into PTSD. Final outcome-BP through the roof and being prescribed a BP med. Thank you technology for what you have done to my psyche. If I were a horse I would have been shot long ago. Yes, I am in a horrid place!!! Have to take another inappropriate med or be w/o a PCP. No need trying to explain or I will be locked up in a loony bin and forced to take poison.
So sorry. I am so discouraged and feeling so all alone. Oh please God, I can take no more of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Im so sorry how you feel today Pain is so debilitating and that Dr.is a jerk .I,ve had days like this instead of feeling sorry for myself I take a hot tub bath with music on and soak for awhile.It helps to use Epsom Salts and some drops of Lavender oil in the water.Whatever pain pill you have take it ,relax then in tub.This to shall pass,feel better

@parus

The pain is so severe today. Can only do the best I can to ride it out. Doctor in the morning. Dubious as to any answers. Very discouraged and so alone in all of this struggle. Sorry for others adrift on the chronic pain boat. Has to be some kind of answer-surely there must be. Crying surely does not help.

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@kjnor

Would you tell us more about what medications you’ve tried? I take a few for periodic low back pain and peripheral neuropathy pain in my feet, and had a spinal cord stimulator implant in June last year. It’s really helped. Different meds work for different people. I use a prescription lidocaine cream on my feet at bedtime when they are hurting. It numbs the pain long enough to get to sleep.

I hope you find something that helps you.

Jim

I am 84 yo and find myself so isolated people are people but many are prejudiced and make friends w those who speak their language the place I live in was once restricted to people over 55 then a new owner bought the mobile home park and since then the families who bought houses are almost 100 % Spanish speaking and some don’t even speak English. I am college educated.have a master of Science degree inAdult and
Community Education and am a former Native New Yorker. I am finding it so hard to communicate with neighbors especially on an intellectual level I am not interested in gossip re neighbors business and although I attend an exercise class 3 x a week land have reached out to others in an attempt to develop friends it has not happened I have only one sibling who lives in another state and no relatives in the state in which I now reside. I love jazz,photography and reading. I am not comfortable attending large parties,etc as I am afraid of social rejection. I am a member of a. Minority group both racially and sexually (lesbian) and know what it feels like to be unfairly judged by others. I am decent, lovable and neat. I just can’t seem to fit in. It’s a. B.

Me too. I have just read about a cream that is supposed to get rid of pain. I think ordered some and thought it did not work. I will try it again and let you know if it works.

@kjnor

Me too. I have just read about a cream that is supposed to get rid of pain. I think ordered some and thought it did not work. I will try it again and let you know if it works.

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@kjnor

I\'m not sure where your response is directed. I have peripheral neuropathy pain in my feet, and when it\'s bad I put prescription lidocaine cream on the areas that burn and hurt. It numbs them for awhile. I usually use it at bedtime so I can get to sleep. I think I tried Arnica cream a few times, and I think it helped some, but not as much as the lidocaine. For arthritis pain, Volteran gel has helped, and I know a woman who swears by blue emu.

What is it that you\'re trying, and what pain are you treating?

Jim

@audreyb

I am 84 yo and find myself so isolated people are people but many are prejudiced and make friends w those who speak their language the place I live in was once restricted to people over 55 then a new owner bought the mobile home park and since then the families who bought houses are almost 100 % Spanish speaking and some don’t even speak English. I am college educated.have a master of Science degree inAdult and
Community Education and am a former Native New Yorker. I am finding it so hard to communicate with neighbors especially on an intellectual level I am not interested in gossip re neighbors business and although I attend an exercise class 3 x a week land have reached out to others in an attempt to develop friends it has not happened I have only one sibling who lives in another state and no relatives in the state in which I now reside. I love jazz,photography and reading. I am not comfortable attending large parties,etc as I am afraid of social rejection. I am a member of a. Minority group both racially and sexually (lesbian) and know what it feels like to be unfairly judged by others. I am decent, lovable and neat. I just can’t seem to fit in. It’s a. B.

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@audreyb

I apologise for the delay in responding to your note. I'm kind of behind schedule, and the posts are piling up.

I'm also a native New Yorker and college educated. My degree is in music with a piano focus. Actually I have a double degree, the other half is theology. My wife is a native Californian, who has a Math degree from Cal Berkeley.

I'll be 67 for a few more months, but I've been retired for 12 years. I had to retire at 55 because of depression, anxiety, PTSD and multiple suicide attempts. I checked myself into a facility that was brand new, built for treatment of people like me who were suicide attempt survivors. I was there for 6 weeks – they weren't really happy that I stayed that long, but I was so far down that I knew if I went home any sooner, I wouldn't have been alive much longer.

So, I had to retire because I was too disabled to do my job. I was a minister of music for 25 years, then a pastor for ten. Two years before I retired, it was fortunate that we bought a home on ten acres in the country. We sold a home we had bought in 1976 in Merced, CA. Having held onto it for 28 years, renting it to friends, we made enough to roll the profit over to a property, rented it out for two years, then we retired and moved here, mortgage free. I don't know how we could survive if we had a mortgage. Social Security doesn't make a person rich, does it.

I'm blessed to have a quiet place to live. There's a lot of work to take care of the place, but it's well worth it. If I die before my wife, she'll have to sell the place and move to town. She's never pushed a lawn mower and isn't interested in learning how. I'm glad to have a riding mower. Because of neuropathy, I couldn't walk behind a mower to mow the lawns.

It's time for me to get to sleep, so I can't write more tonight. I'll try to be more prompt in my responses in the future.

Jim

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