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Anyone else in the same boat?
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Parus (@parus) – RE: Being Old With Chronic Pain plus Loneliness…Anyone else in the same boat?
Old? I sign up to that…with 76 trips around the sun. FWIW FYI: Getting old is the natural sequential order of living things. Nobody gets off the planet alive.
Chronic pain? No “Show Stopper Levels” here, only normal day-to-day aches and pains associated with being reminded that I am vintage.
Loneliness? One is the loneliest number that you’ll ever do. As for me, I, personally, have never been lonely, either when alone or in a crowd.
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I will not deny I am vintage…definitely not wine. Chronic pain is a demon and one will get no help other than the helps one provides for self. I am far lonelier in a crowd than alone…nice words from an old song and thank you kindly for your words. “Work your fingers to the Bone”, etc.
Mayhap a few more trips around the sun will be the antidote…”gang aft de glay”…Burns.
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@parus I appreciate your sharing more about yourself! As you open yourself to others, you can find encouragement, support and help. Welcome! Teresa
Hello @parus Nice to e-meet you here. I am Scott and I found your post interesting.
I do have chronic pain (knees, carpel tunnel, and lower back), I do fight loneliness as I just lost my wife to brain cancer, but refuse to call myself ‘old’ yet! 🙂
I believe chronic conditions can be the cause of many feelings of loneliness as well as isolating, which can also cause feelings of loneliness.
I fight my loneliness through reading as it also can take my mind off my pain. It also gives me topics I can then learn more about, e-chat with people about, etc.
I also spend some time writing, but that is more of a solitary pursuit for me, but I can really lose myself in it.
I also try and spend some time each day attempting to reconnect with someone from my earlier days. I’ve had mixed results with this, but when it works, it’s been gratifying for both parties.
What have you tried?
Peace & Strength
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@IndianaScott Thank you for your kind words…I am a solitary person and like writing and playing with my paint brushes and pencils. I at one time read a lot and now find I am not so interested in reading-mayhap, I have read so much in my life that finding some thing new and/or interesting…meh. Not much of a people person as it drains me to be around others…
So, just how is it you mentor??? By no means a snide question.
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Hi again @parus First I’ll say I enjoyed seeing your artwork! I appreciate you attaching it. I have no artistic ability, which leads me to enjoy seeing what others can accomplish in that area of life. Personally my favorites have been the works of Van Gough (sp?) and Monet. One of my favorite books as a result was ‘Letters to Theo’ from Vincent and his brother.
No need to even think your question was snide. I didn’t take it that way at all. The Mentors on Connect are some of the volunteers who are committed to helping Mayo with their efforts to reach out into the communities. I found Connect while I was incredibly isolated by the caregiving demands of my wife’s war with brain cancer. I was her caregiver for 14+ years and the last five literally 24/7/365 after I lost my dream job to a new boss who didn’t want an employee who ‘had something other than his job on his mind’. Connect allowed me to interact with folks during what was a time of very erratic availability on my part. Plus my wife received wonderful neuro-oncological care by a truly amazing doctor there.
My outreach to old friends is 90% electronic or on the phone. I have only connected face-to-face with two and both of them I felt a huge need to thank for sticking with me during the darkest days of my depression over my wife’s disease and ultimate loss of her.
I, too, have been a voracious reader for years. I came late to my love of reading. In 4th grade my teacher told me what I liked to tead (the Tom Swift series) wasn’t ‘real’ reading in front of the class. I didn’t pick up a book for enjoymet reading until I was a junior in college! I still remember it was’Mila 18′ by Leon Uris. I saw it at a junk sale for a dime and recalled my folks had spoken of one of his books so I plunked down my dime and was greatly rewarded. As a result I am on a few notification lists for when a favorite author has a new release coming. I also decided to take up a new hobby so that opened up new reading and learning opportunities as well. I also joined Instagram and I try and take one interesting photo a day. I just use my phone and most of my photos are right in my home/yard.
Sorry for the long winded response 🙂
Maybe we could exchange favorite authors or type of book? Who do you especially like?
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@parus, absolutely beautiful…
Great! I’m in the same situation but I keep busy with my dog or reading and many other things. Keep occupied the pain is there and won’t go away. I have lower back pain and RA.
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Meditation and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy have helped me. I too feel lonely,disengaged and frustrated due to chronic pain. I have been trying to get back to work and it is difficult at 65 with 3 years missing due to achalesia and chronic pain. I am going to see if I can do part time work. Had to reschedule my interview Monday. Too sick and only 4 hours sleep
It is viscous cucle
My ideal would be something from home but can’t find anything.Try something to keep you mpving- walk or yoga….
Trying to hold out hope I can make.it back to pronect management in construction and development.
I am repeating a response I did further down
It was really meant as a response to your situation. I try to do things with friends unfortunately most of them are not close.and work. My wife also works full.time and Meditation and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy have helped me. I too feel lonely,disengaged and frustrated due to chronic pain. I have been trying to get back to work and it is difficult at 65 with 3 years missing due to achalesia and chronic pain. I am going to see if I can do part time work. Had to reschedule my interview Monday. Too sick and only 4 hours sleep
It is viscous cucle
My ideal would be something from home but can’t find anything.Try something to keep you moving- walk or yoga….
Trying to hold out hope I can make it back to project management in construction and development.
@ed32 – I surely hope something turns up for you. I suppose it’s a hard time of year to find a job in construction. When I was painting, most of my work was seasonal, but it helped supplement my income as a pastor of a small rural church.
Do you have any deadline for when you need to start work? Have you noticed any hesitation by employers because of your age? Keep forging ahead with your goals.
@parus – As my old friend Columbo used to say…”er-r-r…just one more thing.”
I see that you came aboard Mayo Connect on Bastille Day 2017. Coincidence or not, maybe it is time for you to consider “Throwing Open Your Personal Prison Gates” un peu. Your Mayo Connect Profile is blank. What is up with that? You can, without loosing your anonymity, tell folks something about yourself in 25-words more or less…
Hope to see you on the flip side.
@catgic Three words…”I am me”.
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@parus – Roger that…Worry not, I shall leave you alone in the future.
@parus My 3 – So am I.
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