Anyone have suggestions for elderly parent who refuses to take meds?
I am the primary caretaker for my 99-year-old mother whose cognitive abilities have been deteriorating more in the past few months. She does not have dementia in the sense that she recognizes everyone/her daily life, history etc. but her short-term memory is very poor and she asks the same questions (eg: What time is it? What day is it? What are you doing today? Did you talk to [sibling] today?) all day long. I manage everything in her life - finances, healthcare, meals, maintenance, transit, clothing etc. - and medications. I order them, organize them and give them to her. About a month ago, she started debating with me about having taken them, and then refusing to take them. This has now become a regular thing. My brother suggested I have her sign her name in the morning and evening when she takes them so she has some agency. That worked for a couple of weeks and this evening she signed her name, I handed her the pills, and she looked right at me and said, “You already gave those to me, I’m not taking them.” I showed her the paper with her signature - made no difference. I have all the pills in view and they are marked Monday-Sunday and times of day. The morning pills were gone and the evening pills were in the cup I handed her. It made no difference - she refused. Suggestions?
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Sometimes taking them with pudding or applesauce makes them easier to swallow and covers the taste of the pills.
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2 Reactions@lisamk80 he had no problem swallowing. It was his choosing. After a certain point , it was time to listen to what he wanted.
@lisamk80 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! I know that you have been on the side lines for quite a while and now you’ve decided to give a suggestion! And it’s a great suggestion, too!
Are you caring for someone with dementia or just doing some educational reading?