Sister still drinking despite consequences, any advice?

Posted by craigcraig @craigcraig, Jun 28 5:58am

Hi. I had a liver transplant and am not a drinker. Never really was much of one except for college. My sister is 61 and recently divorced with two adult kids. Her drinking was the biggest factor in her divorce. She finally hit bottom in her family's eyes with a DUI and was too drunk to show up for her court date. Only a very good lawyer has kept her out of jail. She has also got drunk and fallen 3 times and has had 2 brain surgeries. Somehow minor enough to be shortly released. She somehow still lives to drink (in our eyes and behind everyone's back). Has had terrible fights and has cut off most of her sons, friends brothers, mom, etc. . Admits now she has a problem but still lies whenever her mouth opens and refuses inpatient or outpatient treatment. And continues to believe she can drink and "just cut down" despite 3 serious falls, two accidents , two brain surgeries, excetera in the last 6 months. My wife, brother , nephews, friends and I have strongly counseled her to get help before she kills herself or someone else. But she defies logic and insists she can live without treatment/help and has either broken off relations with or barely puts up with her circle of people. I know it has to be her decision and I (we) can't do it for her but any suggestions from you guys who have more experience in this topic than I do. Than you.

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@jennroseclark Laffin at 13th step.
I spent 6 months in a mens residential alcohol treatment facility. On weekends we'd pile in cars and troll the womens residential alcohol treatment centers for coed meetings. Orange County California had some rockin meetings back in the late 1990s!!

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@trooperdogg1960 yep I started going to them AA classes when I was 12 it was me and one lady in the basement of a psych hospital that's when I first heard of drugs I have not missed a meeting in 26 days mandatory it's Ieitger faith based 12 step or NA or AA BE glad when I get it the phase 2 and I start work in the evens closing a store so that's going knock out a few of them

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Probably won't stop but it's not impossible I am fortunate that I when I get to the bottom or know I am bout to literal die go into the phych hospital and do medical detox but everyone I think has to just pray she sees the light they are big on prayer here I honestly couldn't tell that I would not be having my 2 a day if I wasn't in sober living. I have a lady here who just turned 68 she got sent to prison for a fourth DUI and got out a year and half ago she is now office and house manager so it can happen hers had to be the prison route and I find it very hard to believe she will ever touch the stuff ago.thats a pretty tough thing to deal with the liver cancer and I will pray there is some people here that turn into such prayer warrior I do see miracles God be with Jennifer c

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