Alzheimers and sexual behavior: Any suggestions?

@blc1951 I also would like to know if the hypersexuality diminishes as the disease progresses. Has anybody lived through this long enough to know what happens?

@blc1951

I’ve gotten to a point that I can give myself grace, even if DH can’t. The thing these days is to try not to tune out when he starts droning on, comparing how much he loves me to how much I love him, and I NEVER measure up. All I hear is the Charlie Brown track- wah-wah wah-wah-wah, wahhhhhh-wah-wah. We used to laugh about hearing this track when we were high, but this isn’t so funny.

@billiekip
I can't believe so much time has passed since my first comment. The frequency of wanting sex has gone way down but it still occurs in spurts. I have realized that , because he doesn't remember, he honestly feels a lot of time has passed. I like your idea of the star although he would have to trust that the stars are valid. I did start writing a note or drawing a star on a calendar to back me up and it worked to a large degree. He is always astonished. And then he forgets so there is no built-up resentment or even sadness.

My husband exposed himself outside when the ladies pass by our house.
He is not sexually active and does not have desired to make love with me.
We have tried four different kind medication, but they do not work. They just making him drowsy and sleepy..
Please help

@anagusich
I am sorry that it seems that our group does not have advice on this matter for you. I can imagine how distressing this is. The fact that you have already tried four medications indicates that you have gotten one or more doctors involved. If it just one, then I would suggest getting a gerontologist involved as a second opinion.

I don't know if this means that he does this when he is outside your house or inside or both. I did see one article that suggested (in addition to calm but firm reminders), using safety pins or clothes specifically designed to make it hard for him to open his clothes to do expose himself. I looked that up and this is the url to one such company -- in this case, they make jumpsuits that look like two pieces but are actually one and which can only be taken off via a back zipper. https://www.buckandbuck.com/products/55f There are many options on Amazon as well. I had not realized that they make such clothing. It seems like it woudl be helpful for people whose dementia family members take off their diapers, etc. resulting in messes.

I did also see that in some cases the behaviors indicate a desire for more activity or for some human contact that can be provided in the form of hugs or holding hands. This may be old news for you. I am sorry that you are facing this problem I hope that he phases out of this soon!

Regards

Hi @anaguisch, my first thought was to get clothing that makes it difficult for him to get out of, but @memoriestomoments mentioned that. How did the women react to him? Were they neighbors, familiar with his diagnosis?
The Alzheimer's Association has small cards that say "My companion has dementia. They may get confused. Thank you for your patience and understanding."
Is it possible you or someone else could be outside with him? Are there any Adult Care Centers in your area where he could go to a program? Maybe he's bored.
Also, it might be a good idea to contact the local police and let them know what's going on incase they get a call from someone. They may have a Community Policing Unit or personnel trained to respond to these sensitive issues.
The Alzheimer's Association here as a local support group which I go to monthly and find helpful. It also has a 24/7 hour helpline. You can speak to a counselor and get solutions. 800-272-3900.
I wish you the best and hope this is a short lived behavior.

Overalls might be a good option as well. I know that this has to be so difficult. I agree with both other replies. I know that one can go on Shutterfly or Vista Print and make signs. That might be something you can do to alert folks that he is not in his right mind. Have you contacted anyone at the state level or one of the federal agencies for support or assistance? I am going to look around and see what I can find. Also, there may be non-profit agencies (not sure where you are located) that have social workers. If he has Medicare, there might also be some kind of respite or program. I am so sorry that you as well as your husband are in this situation.