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Alzheimers and sexual behavior: Any suggestions?
My hubby has Alzheimer's and has become hypersexual. He is on meds which have helped a bit. The problem is that he constantly wants to have sex and be sexual. This does not happen outside the home. He starts first thing in the morning wanting to "play around". He is constantly asking me for sex. We enjoy a healthy sex life but he doesn't remember and thinks I am denying him. He is now getting angry when I say no or later or tomorrow. I am sure others have experienced this with their loved ones. Any suggestions? I am getting desperate.
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The doctor will only meet with both of us.
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1 Reaction@blc1951 My husband and I always had a great sex life. But frankly, it got to the point where I was mentally, emotionally, and physically tired. I don't know how far along your husband is with his Dementia.
I started telling my husband we did it earlier, or last night. It just put enough doubt in his mind that he seemed ok with not doing it. It may sound bad, but I'm in survival mode.
And I would definitely talk to the doctor about it. There has to be another medication that will work.
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3 Reactions@blc1951 Feeling unloved or ‘alone’ is a common theme in my home when I’m not up for sex. When I initiate, I get the ‘I’m not a switch’ comment. I’m curious if your hubby responds the same if you take the lead…?
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2 ReactionsNo, he does not. Quite the opposite--he complains that I don' t take the lead.
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2 ReactionsMen are so dependent and such cry babies!
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4 Reactions@mikaylar
Haha!!!! You ain’t kidding!
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1 ReactionMy husband has MCI, just far enough along that intimacy is kind of rote, and just not enticing. Being a good partner is just not in his wheelhouse any longer so I am not as interested. He would like to be intimate much more often than I and when I give in unexpectedly, against my better judgement, he sometimes will throw it back in my face and sabotage the moment. So foolish. We end up fighting and with him saying we just aren’t the same anymore…blah, blah, blah, quite an understatement, and again another time that I can’t say my truth because we have to pretend that they’re always right and we are always in the wrong. Such a twisted way to live.
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4 Reactions@lkbous I heard a trainer speak recently about the difference between Intimacy and Sexuality. Will try to find and share.
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4 Reactions@lkbous .No, you don’t have to be “wrong.” I have the same problem, but he sleeps much more than I, so I just stay up later.
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3 ReactionsI have no suggestions for this. All I can say is you are not alone. I have the same exact situation, the only consolation is to know it is the disease, and we are not the bad person here.
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