Recognizing my own bias or prejudice .....
I know I am very guilty of classifying people in general, and regarding weight in particular. Living in the bible/heart attack/ diabetes belt, it simply blows my mind how many obese people I see every single day when out and about. Granted, fewer of those at Dillard’s than Walmart. Still, in addition to being concerned, I am also judging those people. I know I should not, but how in the world can someone get that fat? It would take years of dedicated overeating to reach that. No, I really don’t think that all of them have a medical issue, seeing what’s in their grocery carts. Someone help me get a less judgmental attitude when I’ve been semi-denying myself all those chips and cookies and fries for decades?? I live and eat well, but treats should be treats, not daily food.
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Thank you for your comment/summary? The original post and it’s subject got sometimes hijacked along the way, but that what makes this site interesting. I truly believe nobody is saintly enough not to have grudges, opinions, pre-conceptions, and the one that was foremost in my mind was the most visible one - size-, and the most frequently mentioned in regard to people’s overall health.
Was sort of fun, though, to get sidetracked into chocolate discussions. Not the intent of my post, but entertaining. Even I could not resist with input.
@lioness
Did you ever see dk chocolate with coconut at Trader Joe’s?
Jake
Well, wait until you have had some hand-crafted truffles by Confiserie Spruengly in Zuerich, Switzerland. They cost like $ 2 to $ 4 per piece, meaning tiny bite size. they are works of art, and you can tell that there were at least 4 different work stages that made them perfect. Once every other year my travel schedule takes me close enough.
@becsbuddy What good examples of introspection and change in thinking. Thanks, Becky!
@lioness. A Trader Joe’s opened in our town last year but I’ve probably only been there about 3 times. I buy a lot of fresh vegetables and meat and those are not things that Trader Joe’s is known for. When I do go there, I end up buying some of their yummy snack foods, and I do not need that!
JK
To be honest - I still can’t quite let go of some bias/prejudices. And some may be confirmed. Aside from fat people etc.... an acquaintance who sometimes works with homeless people in church settings absolutely knows that even if given free food and shelter and access to jobs and medical care, in his experience 80% of those people reached will quit their jobs, junk their lodgings, and go back to living on the street. So should I not consider them street people? Or, not “label” them? Or not be upset, either because they won’t let themselves be helped, or because they live on the streets? About to spend some time in Portland, OR, and that is really challenging to walk downtown. Homeless everywhere, like locusts. Mostly harmless, but still smelly, semi-lucid, side-walk dwelling. Not pleasant.
So, I think I still will always harbor some resentment, or just can’t get why people don’t get available help, or why they don’t help each other more.
How about I will give some 2nd thought before judging? But not a 3rd one, if your buggy is full of pork rinds and chips, and you need a scooter to get them into your basket.
@lioness. I’m from the Boston area and with all the strong collegiate presence there it tends to be pretty liberal. Southern NH is getting more liberal because a lot of people from MA have relocated here.
I don’t think that my son-in-law’s parents experienced anything like egging but I don’t know. There are many people of Indian heritage here and I think people do differentiate them from those of Arab heritage. The people I have known from Arab countries are all good people too, but some people generalize of course. My transplant surgeon is from Syria. He’s great and extremely gentlemanly. Going to MGH is like going to the United Nations.
JK
If you’re into cheeses, TJ is one of the very , very, very few stores (at least near me in SC) that ever carry Camembert cheese. If you don’t know what that is, don’t worry. If you do, and can get it locally, good for you.
@ellerbracke I’ve bern eating Camembert since I was a child, it was a favorite of my parents. I haven’t had any recently, I tend to serve Brie because more people like it, but I need to check to see if those cheeses are aged enough for me to be able to eat them now that I’m lactose intolerant. I really miss goat cheese on my almost daily lunch salad.
JK
@ellerbracke I have personally experienced prejudice due to gender/body size/tattoos. To me I look at it as a challenge to hope to show to those people that I am not what they perceive. As to homeless: my brother-in-law is homeless, and has been for well over 20 years. He has been offered a hand up several times, but does not want to follow restrictions like giving up alcohol or drugs. He had a sometimes-job but the company moved, and he refused any assistance. He receives SSI and meal-cards. Several people have suggested to my husband that he should take his brother in, but we know that would not end well, nor would my BIL be happy. He lives sometimes in the riverbed, sometimes in an industrial park. He is not a criminal in the classic sense, but it's criminal the way he let his life go. Just my two cents....
Ginger